AIBU To Point Out Opinions You Don’t See Outside Of Mumsnet …?

I used to do this decades ago, early 00s. Other diners thought I was wrong for bothering with a baby monitor. Their kids and babies were all in the rooms without a monitor and I would normally be the only person in a large chalet or chalet hotel with a baby monitor! 😁

i obviously thought the other parents were a bit irresponsible for not having a baby monitor. I found an older toddler lost wondering the corridor on more than one occasion! And one time at such a big chalet they could easily have gone outside without going past the dining room.

From what I've seen on MN there are a plethora of "deadbeat dads", who won't lift a finger about the home and would rather watch porn or play computer games than play with their kids.

It's quite depressing really.

I've noticed that some posters on Mumsnet start their sentences with 'So' for no good reason whatsoever.

By the way OP, all the opinions you mention are alive and well and can be found in lots of other places on the internet, and in real life too.

I have some couples in mind, some hobby related, other kids-related.

The new couples are just as present as ever. I am sure the best friends of the ex don't invite the new couple for Christmas, but that's it.

Never ever heard anyone saying "we cannot invite Bob now that he's coming with his "girlfriend".

@TheBlueKoala ”It sounds like it would be a dodgy hotel with escort service as well so maybe the middle east/ Dubai then?”

… no, think 5* luxury British countryside hotels. And other countries too, but plenty in the UK that offer this.

If it was a dodgy hotel, I wouldn’t be doing it…

Not all SAHP are financially dependent. I'm a SAHM, but have my own money and know multiple other women who are in similar circumstances. Many women who have significant savings and investments choose to be SAHM as they want to spend time with their children. If I didn't have my own money, I would work.

I am really curious as to know where you find these hotels ? I'm 47 and have never come across one. The only services where we have stayed has been kids club for 4+ and nanny/baby-sitter service for younger children. I am pretty certain nobody I know has ever done this or if they have they def wouldn't say because they would def be judged as neglectful parents.

It sounds like it would be a dodgy hotel with escort service as well so maybe the middle east/ Dubai then? Have never been there and do not want to go even if I was payed.

Since the Madeleine McCann case it is criminal to take this unnecessary risk.

I am assuming you think the way you see the world is the correct way?

i am happy to respect other women who are uncomfortable with men in women’s spaces, and completely respect and comply with the law and their wishes

but I do not recognise this hysteria expressed on MN of gangs of peneses in frocks fulfilling their fetish

Really? So people invite the cheated upon, the cheater and the ow (or om) to things they'd previously have invited the couple to? I think people usually pick a side tbh - they don't just say "the more, the merrier" ( unless they're swingers?)

The "but you've got a cock" comment is often a winner in my experience.

I've never met anyone who would do this. Maybe thirty years ago, but not now. A child can be snatched in an instant. It's madness to leave them alone.

Not an opinion but a saying.
No contact- I would say we don't talk, or I don't talk to them.
Low contact- I keep away from them.

To be honest that's not even relevant - it's an event that took on significance larger than one very sad/ upsetting / worrying news story (given how many equally sad/ upsetting and worrying news stories are forgotten each year) and since that news story attitudes have changed significantly.

I have never noticed the "cheater" and the OW being invited any less or being removed from any circle

People probably have an opinion but they keep it to themselves.

Honestly? The alleged prevalence of adhd, ocd and anxiety claims on this site. It completely contradicts statistics and makes a bad name for the genuine cases.

According to MN, the socks/trainers and leggings combo is abhorrent

Have edited rather than asking for this to be deleted. Quicker.

I honestly never knew this would be a thing.

I’ve stayed on campsites and been outside when my little one was asleep 2 caravans up with the window open so I could hear her but I don’t think even as negligent as I was in the past that I would be up for a baby monitor in a hotel situation. I actually think my 20 year old would be aghast at me leaving one in her room.

Transphobia is as nebulous as being a woman for those who believe being a woman is nebulous.

I have suggestions but I’ll send them privately so they aren’t all ‘reported to SS’.

People don't go around announcing it in "real-life" though.

In "real-life" it's certainly normal to roundly condemn the cheating partner of a friend. It's rare for a friend to randomly announce they are cheating and wait for a reaction or invite you to AMA

I don't know anyone who would do this

I feel some concern for the single minded obsession with toilets and men’s fetishes expressed by some posters
IRL I don’t know a single person with such extreme, entrenched views. My DC and their mates are very ‘whatever, it’s just life’. My contemporaries generally believe you can’t change your biological sex, but don’t give a passing thought to toilet occupancy.
the only trans people I know never leave the house and are almost certainly hiding behind a character because of autism and/ or a fear of what is expected of them as an adult man or woman