AIBU To Point Out Opinions You Don’t See Outside Of Mumsnet …?

No it’s not. And you can’t say ‘regardless of the definition’. The definition is, by definition, what defines if transphobia exists or not. If you think saying TW are not women is transphobic, you will see ‘transphobia here. If you think transphobia requires believing it’s ok to deny trans identified people goods, services or employment then you do not see transphobia here. The Latter is how UK law defines discrimination against gender identity.

Wow, I haven’t ever heard of anyone even thinking of doing this since Madeline McCann!

Complete opposite is true. Mumsnet is rampant with transphobia. Outside, people are far more accepting

Ive just remembered a poster telling me I was selfish & wrong to work p/t despite earning well & not receiving any benefits. Apparently I should work f/t because everyone who can should & I was a shirker.

Related to ageism, I really don’t like the instant accusations of lying when someone dare comment that they think that they look younger than their years.

Heaven forbid a woman have confidence in her looks and how well she is ageing.

It also ignores the fundamental fact that believing one looks younger than they are confers the exact same benefits as actually, objectively, looking younger than one’s years, in terms of self-confidence etc. Whether or not one is deluded is completely irrelevant - the end result is exactly the same.

@TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis I’ve said this so many times. The average MNs user is fairly old (it’s not a young site) & there is so much ageism against younger people but that’s not ageism apparently.

Do some parents really live their lives with this level of caution and anxiety and literally never leave their child’s side, lest the child choke/stop breathing, for whatever reason?

Ni they don’t but they do live in a perpetual state of judgement constantly judging other parents & therefore feeling better about themselves.

The ageism one is interesting, because the MN general population is ageing, and almost all the "ageism" accusations go one way.

But we all have an age, and we all age at the same speed, and you see quite a bit of ageism directed at younger folk on here.

I don’t have children so don’t have any skin in the game in the whole babies in hotels debate, but two things: 1) No one said “going out for dinner”, several posters have clarified this is dinner in the same hotel/building and that they are not talking about huge resorts but small establishments. 2) a child could be sick and choke on their vomit and you would not notice, if they were asleep in your home and you were downstairs in the kitchen / in the garden hanging laundry, could they not?

Do some parents really live their lives with this level of caution and anxiety and literally never leave their child’s side, lest the child choke/stop breathing, for whatever reason?

My parents did this (mother was higher earner). And my mother's parents. (He was higher but not by much). I clearly remember as a teen reading some newspaper article about the different, complicated sounding ways couples arranged their finances and saying to my mother that I'd always assumed their way was the norm for married people. Was amazed to learn it wasn't. It still seems odd to me.

All vegans make it their life's work to 'rant' and be self righteous.

Any nuance of any kind, in any situation counts for absolutely nothing.

London is either the epicentre of the universe or drug ridden hell hole (depending on who you speak to, also see above)

All those things could happen whilst you go to the toilet or take a shower at home whilst a child is sleeping. I definitely ate my lunch in the garden whilst my dc were asleep upstairs…

The trans issue only matters online. People in the real world aren’t bothered about trans people and if they are, they need to find something better to do with their lives.

I really don't think it matters that it is actively promoted. Only because something is offered doesn't mean it's a good idea, just means it isn't a criminal offence. If something happened to the child you could not say well the hotel offered it, it would not give you much solace. It's an unnecessary risk to take just to go out for dinner. In reality unless your completely alone you won't have your eyes and ears on the monitor all the time, you will be chatting, eating drinking, maybe going up to the bar etc, need to toilet . The child could be sick and choke on it or be struggling to breathe for whatever reason. Why take the risk, I would not do this

You must never punish a child with anything they might actually dislike.

Not giving a teen a phone is literally impossible.

The average wage is not £38k, don't be ridiculous, nobody could possibly live on that, let alone raise kids on it. Those on 60k or more are not high earners, don't be silly, we're middle, etc.

I’ve also stayed in many UK hotels where leaving babies/toddlers in the room whilst you have dinner with a baby monitor is actively promoted. These are all small family friendly country house hotels, where you’re no further from your room than you would be sat at the end of your garden at home.

Have also stayed in ski hotels where everyone does the same, although they sometimes have a staff member sat on a chair in the corridor on each floor during dinner.

That private school education isn’t a privilege

That the term Karen is highly offensive

The Labour will win a landslide every election (one out of five so fate has been correct)

Even if it is the minority it’s something I personally don’t hear in real life so I would agree with that poster , it’s an opinion on here that’s not representative.

I wasn’t being judgemental. I was describing my reality versus what I see on MN - the topic of the thread? And I have no idea what you’re talking about with “splitting bills” and “Revolut after date night”, never done either of those things with DH. Utility bills and the like are paid in full from the joint account, never split. And is ‘date night’ just going out with one’s husband? Then we just take it in turns to pay and would never bill the other person after the fact. Or if one person bought the theatre tickets, the other pays for dinner, that sort of thing.

That an evening wedding invitation is a huge insult. I've ever felt that when I've been asked to one - colleagues, friends of friends etc.

You go back upstairs and get your kid. I think in a decent hotel with smoke detectors they would hopefully set the alarms off in plenty of time. 🤷‍♀️. It’s something I always used to think about and would email the tour operator before going and ask for a room on the 1st floor. My thought process being I could get back to the room quicker.

I was once in a 5 story chalet hotel when the fire alarm went off and there was a stampede of parents up the stairs. Hotel manager was having a fit and telling people not to go upstairs but they ignored him. Was a false alarm.

When Madeline McGann happened they started posting childcare staff in every corridor to “improve safety”. Was a Mark Warner type tour operator. I still used to use the baby monitor.

Given that "transphobia" in the context you seem to mean it usually means "asserting the reality and importance of biological sex" I'd say that opinion is everywhere, just no one expresses it to avoid being harangued by a minority of strident, hostile flat earthers who are unable or unwilling to grasp the debate.

The complete and utter disdain for SAHP.

I used to do it. Smaller hotels only. DCs are now young adults.

Sorry-not prepared to engage with hyperbole. Very tedious.