AIBU To Point Out Opinions You Don’t See Outside Of Mumsnet …?

Of course it is! I have just noticed on Mumsnet it’s blown out of proportion in a way. Anyone that has cheated, for any reason, is reprehensible and deserves to be hated on. In real life I feel like there is more nuance.

So do I! I have never been to a protest or worked with activists to send any kind of message I just don’t hold prejudiced views about trans people and find the whole thing to be blown completely out of proportion.

I also know a lot more trans people than the average mumsnetter and it shows.

Where did I say that I consider people who ‘have no problem with trans people’ to be trans rights activists, @Differentforgirls? I was referring specifically to trans rights activists.

You would report to social services that some people eat their dinner on another floor while a baby is asleep in their bedroom?

That leaving a baby asleep in a hotel room with a baby monitor while you eat downstairs is neglectful and extremely dangerous.

Literally everyone I know does it. Hotels provide baby monitors to allow you to do it.

On here it is considered criminal.

So, I do this from time to time. Either that or use the word "anyway".

Yes, it is very much a filler word but that is how I speak normally. I tend to write in the same way that I speak (unless it's for some formal document!) and I will often start a sentence with a filler word like that when I am speaking.

Calling people “ trans rights activists” for having no problem with trans people is in itself offensive.

How is it ridiculous?

Obviously you sleep, and you’re prepared to take the risk of you being unconscious or hours at a time when in charge of a baby… But somehow it’s far more risky to be awake with a monitor where you can hear their every sound?!

MidnightPatrol · Yesterday 21:43
That leaving a baby asleep in a hotel room with a baby monitor while you eat downstairs is neglectful and extremely dangerous.
Literally everyone I know does it. Hotels provide baby monitors to allow you to do it.
On here it is considered criminal.

Feel free to actually read the thread because I dont' care enough to read past the first couple of posts 😂

and I am sure you will say that it doesn't mean EVERYBODY but I don't care enough either 😂

oh dear

I am sure army mum cannot have done anything but cheat on their partners

I likely think almost all soldiers cheat on their partners tbh. I have worked with men who spent large periods away from home and they almost all cheated or tried to.

I literally don’t think a single person has said “everyone” does it. Feel free to point out the post claiming that.

You wouldn’t need to go up and check, you’d be able to see and hear them on the baby monitor.

Plenty of family-friendly hotels give out baby monitors so their guests can do this.

I don’t think I’d do it if the restaurant was in another building, or too far from my room - but as long as I felt the environment was safe, I could get back to my room quickly, I can see and hear them on the monitor, I was confident wouldn’t wake up etc, I can’t really see the big deal if you can see and hear them at all times.

That all policemen are rapists
That all soldiers cheat on their partners
That all teachers hate their jobs
That all teenagers are mentally scarred by school

In short, Mumsnet exagerrates everything.

So I have noticed that according to (a lot of posters on) Mumsnet:

-Transphobia is perfectly acceptable.
-Ageism is the worst/most prevalent type of discrimination going on in the uk today.
-Cheating in a relationship is tantamount to murder.
-Enrolling your children in boarding school means you don’t love them.
-Teaching is always a miserable profession, with no exceptions.

What else have you noticed is a very common MN opinion but not one you hear in real life?

I’m not trying to start an argument on the truth of any of these statements, just curious what others have noticed.

I agree completely, @Octavia64. When there are people who will threaten to rape or murder someone for believing human beings can’t change sex, and that women and girls have the right to single sex spaces, it is really hard to speak out against the trans rights activists.

Also, @D0ntB1t3 - I do not think it is ‘phobic’ to believe in the rights of women and girls to have single sex spaces, or to know that human beings cannot change sex. I think that is simple realism. As is saying women and girls should not have males in their sports, hospital wards, loos, changing rooms, rape crisis centres.

People in real life who don’t believe in the trans stuff keep their mouth shut.

i don’t believe in it and I have had several stand up rows with various people including my daughter about it and now I keep my trap shut.

various young people at uni have told me after one of said stand up rows that they feel the same but if they say what they believe they get a massive row and it just isn’t worth it.