We used to be super close to BIL & SIL to the point I was the first two keep both their children for the first time when they were small (individually at young ages). I have since had my own child and we now have very little contact with them and there's been zero help offered the way I helped the. With baby sitting and pick ups etc. my husband and I tried to keep the relationship but can only be a one sided for so long. I still text to ask if the kids are having parties to make sure we are there and the answer has been no, so I ensure present or card is dropped on or before their birthday. It's now 4 months passed my childs 1st birthday and have just been told they've left a card at shared grandparents house. ABIU to not text and say thank you? They've still not went out their way to get my child their gift or seen said child. I think it's horrible that we were worth speaking to when we could aid them with their kids, but now I can't due to my own we have no relationship.