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to think a lot of men will not marry if they already get everything?

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Pinkshocks · 28/07/2026 18:33

If he is already getting everything on a plate, a committed partner, a sexual relationship, children, someone to split the bills with, emotional support and a family life, all without making any legal or lifelong commitment, why would he change anything?

I know this does NOT apply to every couple or to ALL men. Some people genuinely do not want to marry and both are happy with that. But if one person wants marriage and the other keeps putting it off year after year, are they really going to change when they are already getting everything they want?

Why would someone buy the ticket when they are already getting the whole show for free?

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RodneysGotaNewHairdo · 29/07/2026 16:32

Pinkshocks · 28/07/2026 18:51

So he will have sometimes several kids with a woman he doesn’t love?

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I think a man can love his partner, but not enough to marry her.

Women who give a man everything a wife would give without the legal and financial protection of marriage are making themselves vulnerable. Such relationships have poor long-term outcomes in most cases.

gannett · 29/07/2026 16:31

BlueFahrenheit · 29/07/2026 16:27

Many women will turn themselves inside out for the promise of a wedding ring.

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No one I know!

That's their problem, though. It's not some sort of ironclad gendered rule.

gannett · 29/07/2026 16:31

BlueFahrenheit · 29/07/2026 16:25

What is grim is the woman who gives everything away, then appears baffled when he sees no reason to marry her.

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Do elaborate on what "giving everything away" involves. Is it sex and housework? When I was unmarried I had sex because I enjoyed it, and then-DP and I divvied up the housework equally in order to live in a nice home (he probably did more than I did because he has higher standards).

CoffeeCantata · 29/07/2026 16:30

I am married, but I wasn't someone who particularly HAD to be married - I'd have been happy without the official stamp.

But I wouldn't be with someone who wouldn't marry me. I'd rather be alone than with someone who didn't care about me, or have romantic enough feelings about me, to deny me marriage if that's what I wanted.

If as a woman you want to be married and your partner refuses, get rid. If he isn't prepared to put your wishes first because he loves the very ground you walk on, walk away.

TheContinent · 29/07/2026 16:29

It will only make sense when you are loved, cherished, supported, married to him, treated like an equal and a first priority in his life

TheContinent · 29/07/2026 16:28

How refreshing to read the comments. The unmarried living with a man and breeding with him but not on deeds, or having access to his money and questioning their old years, speaking of sexist nonsense. LOL. Tell me who in the matter created the sexist nonsense????

BlueFahrenheit · 29/07/2026 16:27

gannett · 29/07/2026 16:17

Are you under the impression that unmarried women spend their times fussing around their boyfriends being subservient to him and catering to his every whim?! Or is that what wives do?

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Many women will turn themselves inside out for the promise of a wedding ring.

BlueFahrenheit · 29/07/2026 16:25

gannett · 29/07/2026 16:16

Like I said, it's grim sexist nonsense.

You may think of yourself as a cow but I don't.

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What is grim is the woman who gives everything away, then appears baffled when he sees no reason to marry her.

Rachelshair · 29/07/2026 16:22

ladyofshallotlikesonions · 29/07/2026 16:10

So how would you describe a women who lives with a man and isn't married to him yet provides all the trimmings a wife does ?

I'd also describe her as a 'mug'.

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OMG, you were being serious.
I'd call her by her name.

gannett · 29/07/2026 16:22

ladyofshallotlikesonions · 29/07/2026 16:20

Yes, to the first part of your post.
No, to the second.

This is what I have observed anyway....

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You can't have observed that much, then.

TheContinent · 29/07/2026 16:21

Pinkshocks · 28/07/2026 18:52

If they are together 50 years and he didn’t marry her it was because he didn’t love her? Even though they have kids and grandkids together?

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Basically yes, she was used for sex, giving him offspring and manual labout but she never was good enough to be his Mrs.

ladyofshallotlikesonions · 29/07/2026 16:20

gannett · 29/07/2026 16:17

Are you under the impression that unmarried women spend their times fussing around their boyfriends being subservient to him and catering to his every whim?! Or is that what wives do?

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Yes, to the first part of your post.
No, to the second.

This is what I have observed anyway....

gannett · 29/07/2026 16:17

ladyofshallotlikesonions · 29/07/2026 16:10

So how would you describe a women who lives with a man and isn't married to him yet provides all the trimmings a wife does ?

I'd also describe her as a 'mug'.

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Are you under the impression that unmarried women spend their times fussing around their boyfriends being subservient to him and catering to his every whim?! Or is that what wives do?

gannett · 29/07/2026 16:16

BlueFahrenheit · 29/07/2026 15:58

Do not be obtuse.

Why buy milk when you have the cow for free?

That is not complexity; it is simple male arithmetic.

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Like I said, it's grim sexist nonsense.

You may think of yourself as a cow but I don't.

gannett · 29/07/2026 16:14

ladyofshallotlikesonions · 29/07/2026 16:02

You're married, that's what makes the difference.
So you're husband and wife, equal partners, not man + live in fuckable domestic appliance.

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But is he my fuckable domestic appliance? He does all the cooking and more cleaning than I do.

ladyofshallotlikesonions · 29/07/2026 16:10

Rachelshair · 29/07/2026 16:07

An unmarried woman described as a "fuckable domestic appliance" 🤣
I've read some funny shit on this thread but that is the winner by a mile, well done.

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So how would you describe a women who lives with a man and isn't married to him yet provides all the trimmings a wife does ?

I'd also describe her as a 'mug'.

Rachelshair · 29/07/2026 16:07

ladyofshallotlikesonions · 29/07/2026 16:02

You're married, that's what makes the difference.
So you're husband and wife, equal partners, not man + live in fuckable domestic appliance.

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An unmarried woman described as a "fuckable domestic appliance" 🤣
I've read some funny shit on this thread but that is the winner by a mile, well done.

Cheese55 · 29/07/2026 16:06

ladyofshallotlikesonions · 29/07/2026 16:02

You're married, that's what makes the difference.
So you're husband and wife, equal partners, not man + live in fuckable domestic appliance.

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Why does being married somehow elevate her status. More the opposite, as she is an independent woman who lives with a man because she wants to.

Cheese55 · 29/07/2026 16:04

gannett · 29/07/2026 15:48

You think marriage is... a man purchasing a woman?

There are some very strange ideas on this thread.

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That is why marriage was invented. That's why you are 'given away' and change your surname to his as you are now his property.

ladyofshallotlikesonions · 29/07/2026 16:02

gannett · 29/07/2026 15:37

Interesting that you seem to think a relationship without children is akin to being someone's sexual housekeeper.

DH and I are child-free by choice. Are we each other's sexual housekeepers? Doesn't sound bad come to think of it.

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You're married, that's what makes the difference.
So you're husband and wife, equal partners, not man + live in fuckable domestic appliance.

BlueFahrenheit · 29/07/2026 15:58

gannett · 29/07/2026 15:51

Grim sexist language whatever the context. Dear.

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Do not be obtuse.

Why buy milk when you have the cow for free?

That is not complexity; it is simple male arithmetic.

gannett · 29/07/2026 15:51

BlueFahrenheit · 29/07/2026 15:49

Contextualise, dear.

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Grim sexist language whatever the context. Dear.

BlueFahrenheit · 29/07/2026 15:49

gannett · 29/07/2026 15:48

You think marriage is... a man purchasing a woman?

There are some very strange ideas on this thread.

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Contextualise, dear.

gannett · 29/07/2026 15:48

BlueFahrenheit · 29/07/2026 15:47

Why purchase what is already freely available?

For many men, marriage is less an act of devotion than an arrangement of convenience, valued for what a wife provides, manages, and absorbs.

This is why women should enter serious relationships with a clear understanding of their own worth.

You think marriage is... a man purchasing a woman?

There are some very strange ideas on this thread.

BlueFahrenheit · 29/07/2026 15:47

Why purchase what is already freely available?

For many men, marriage is less an act of devotion than an arrangement of convenience, valued for what a wife provides, manages, and absorbs.

This is why women should enter serious relationships with a clear understanding of their own worth.

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