Holiday - to rebook or let them go?

Honestly he's such a prick for just dumping this on you when you're in hospital.

Just in case it is Disney, you can’t have your first Disney moments as a do over, so it isn’t even like you can save and go again in a couple of years because you’ll have missed their first WOW moments.

Your husband is being selfish and the trip needs to be moved, your children will understand 💯 because they won’t want to go without you

What a prick. He should have asked you what you want to do.

If the cancellation will be covered by insurance then everyone should cancel.
If not, I think they should go.

Selfish prick! It took 3yrs to save for it, it’s not something u can just do again next yr then. I can’t even believe he has suggested they all go. Ur unwell and surely wld need a bit of looking after once ur home. Unless this has been suggested because you will lose all your money, thats different.

I’d let them go and enjoy the recovery time. Have another holiday together when you have recovered. People who are saying move it - that will depend on your insurance terms.

It really depends on the terms of the insurance. You might be able to only get the cost of your booking back rather than the whole booking in which case I think it would be better for the three of them to go without you rather than losing money. The ideal would be to reschedule to when you can go as a family though and that would be my first preference.

Holiday companies can be varied in how flexible they might be but I suspect not many would move free of charge this close to going.

Entirely dependent on insurance terms. He may already have enquired and thinks it can’t be rebooked, or he’s just being selfish.

Fuck that! Selfish prick. No they don't go without you, it gets moved. I don't even think the travel company would be dicks about it, you're literally in hospital with a cardiac event.

Any normal person that gave a shit about their partner who is in hospital with a bad heart would never put that stress on the ill person in hospital. You come in and say "don't worry about the holiday, it's all sorted, we're going next year instead, when you're out I'll find something that's doable."

Shows you how much he cares doesn't it.

You don't have a clue what you are talking about! Having children will make no difference whether it can be moved or not.
You will probably need to go through your insurance OP.

Do you have insurance?

This happened to me last year. Holiday booked with my family (I’m a widow). Then got the call for a long awaited transplant. I was happy for them to go, so it was fine, and I actually appreciated the peace and quiet in the house for recovery. But if you’re not happy then that’s not unreasonable.

Sorry buy how do you know what kind of package the OP booked ?
OP it’s à bit mean of them but I’d let them off . The teens will be so looking forward to it .
And then recover on my own and enjoy the peace . Use the money ( if you can get a refund ) to treat yourself .
Personally couldn’t bear them to miss it because of me. .

So sorry to hear your unwell, I hope you make a good recovery really soon.

Tell him to not be a and to get in touch with the insurance/travel company to get it moved/refunded.

I’d go and let them enjoy and you stay home and rest.

Sorry but you will totally be able to move/reschedule, as you are a parent of 3 minors travelling, and usually without charge. He just needs to call the travel company and explore your options.

What an AH your DH is.

I think this decision should be entirely up to you. I would have been quite happy to skip the holiday and I would have thouroughly enjoyed being home alone for three weeks, but recognise that most people aren't like me and would have wanted the trip to be rescheduled.

Well, CAN you move it is the first question. If you can, there is no further question. Of course you rebook it.

If you have insurance, then why wouldn't you move it? Objectively, surely all of you going a bit later than planned is better than only 75% of you going, just for the sake of going sooner rather than later? And subjectively it's a pretty horrible thing to do to someone who is upset and vulnerable

I would be furious if my wife suggested going without me after a medical event that required me to be hospitalised. I am part of our family and my health is far more important than a holiday.

Your husband needs to understand this completely, so give it to him with both barrels.

Wow
That's told you op , exactly what he thinks of you

There was a post on here just the other day defending kids who had to miss out because of their poorly brother. The defence to say they have every right to be resentful and now as older teens/adults to exclude and bully their brother. I wonder out the ones saying he’s selfish and it’s acceptable to miss the holiday told the woman who had cancelled holidays she was wrong.

anyhow, I do think you should reschedule it, if by the new date you can’t make it then let them still go. He’s being really callous

Do you not have travel insurance?

If you have insurance, get the money and go together. Can’t believe your dh is going to leave you.

if you don’t have insurance thiugh, they should go or else waste of money.

A lot depends on what insurance says

If insurance says you would not get refunded for the costs of your Dh and kids then I can see the logic in them going - albeit it’s pretty awful for you.

also as pp says will you need care? If so then obviously your Dh shouldn’t be going, and I would expect insurance to cover his share in that case (and your kids then
obviously can’t go alone)

if insurance will refund then delaying is a no brainer. If possible DH and kids can do a short cheap break somewhere else just so they aren’t without a holiday this year but you push back the big special trip to when you are better.