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To be fed up of passwords for everything in life?

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doorbellringer2 · 28/07/2026 00:33

I am so sick of passwords/passcodes for everything in every day life. We are told we should have different, super strong passwords for every single thing.
Want to access your banking, mortgage, pension, insurance, supermarket loyalty scheme, hairdresser booking app, school app, kids club app? Then each of those should have their own unique random password. Something like P2d3&r#K@0 is often the suggested one. How are we supposed to remember each one?
I know my iPhone has a passkey thingy to remember them, but what if my phone gets lost or stolen? Apparently those are the first things they look to target, and if they get in to one of the accounts then they change the verification email addresses and it can lock you out of everything. Apparently it can take months to sort out. It’s so depressing.
This is triggered by recently being abroad and someone tried to hack my Revolut account. I had to block access and transfer my money to another account.
I believe you wouldn’t be covered by insurance if you wrote them down in a notebook and that was discovered by robbers and they could then access your stuff.
Does anyone else miss the simple days when you were not fighting off criminal masterminds daily?

OP posts:
Greedybilly · 28/07/2026 09:12

Op i agree! Modern life is soooo stressful

Wipeywipey · 28/07/2026 08:59

FastFood · 28/07/2026 08:54

No. Legally, the onus is on the service provider to secure its customers data.
France has sustained a massive data breach and as a result, scam business is horrendous. Imagine your health, work, pension, school data all out there, for scammers to buy.

The issue is cyber crime, not the reinforced security.

But if banks didn't rely on everyone having mobiles and no real contact cyber crime couldn't exist. I am confident that banks are struggling with theft more than they ever did when we had no internet or mobiles and everything needed complicated passwords.

FastFood · 28/07/2026 08:54

mugglewump · 28/07/2026 08:29

This!!!

Surely, we can decide how strong we want our passwords to be!

No. Legally, the onus is on the service provider to secure its customers data.
France has sustained a massive data breach and as a result, scam business is horrendous. Imagine your health, work, pension, school data all out there, for scammers to buy.

The issue is cyber crime, not the reinforced security.

Wipeywipey · 28/07/2026 08:49

mugglewump · 28/07/2026 08:29

This!!!

Surely, we can decide how strong we want our passwords to be!

I agree - I also don't want to give my mobile number out for everything. I often put in a dummy email or mobile so I know if they have sold it on. You can put the shop name in instead of yours, so you know who has sold your data.

Morepositivemum · 28/07/2026 08:49

Ps I remember when all I bitched about was sky back in the days we could afford it- you want to pay? Sorry it seems to be in your dps name, we can’t tell you how much you owe in case it’s easier for you to pay 😅😅😅

Morepositivemum · 28/07/2026 08:47

You gotta love two factor authentication that goes to an old device or the account/ device of someone else who isn’t with you when you need it. Couldn’t pay something this week because we couldn’t find what device the authentication went to, rang them and they said they could no longer do it over the phone. Had to reset account and go back to getting set up by which stage we had a threatening letter from them ending on a nice note telling me it’s easy to do if I just go online for it!!!!!

Oneearringlost · 28/07/2026 08:47

I recently signed up to BBC Good food. It demanded the following:
4 upper case
4 lower case
4 numbers
4 special characteristics.

Wipeywipey · 28/07/2026 08:43

These things happen by stealth, like AI. We are told we want it, it will make everything easier and safer etc etc. It arrives, all other options are cut (remember phone lines?) and then we discover it is actually worse than the old version and has implications for decades.

Damnthatmouse · 28/07/2026 08:41

I have universal password which changes a bit with every different website/app. Enough for me to remember but still be unique yet not. Iirc most break ins happen because pasaworda leak rather than someone spending time to crack it

Thatcannotberight · 28/07/2026 08:38

The last straw for me was having to set up an account with passwords to order new recycling bags from the local council.
By the way, recycling bags are NOT recyclable. 🙄

TY78910 · 28/07/2026 08:36

mugglewump · 28/07/2026 08:29

This!!!

Surely, we can decide how strong we want our passwords to be!

Because if your data gets leaked they can get sued for breach of GDPR, hence why they impose a rule to prevent that from happening.

WaltzingWaters · 28/07/2026 08:31

Completely agree. I used to have a few different passwords for different types of accounts (with banking and important ones being stronger). But when they constantly ask you to make a new password, it must contain this, that, and the other, yeah I’m completely lost on what passwords I have for what now. My phone remembers them all, then I’m screwed each time they want me to actually put the password in.

mugglewump · 28/07/2026 08:29

NotAnotherScarf · 28/07/2026 07:52

But what boils my piss is for something unimportant where you don't have an account with your bank account details attached they want 10+ digits and a capital and a special character....why just why

This!!!

Surely, we can decide how strong we want our passwords to be!

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 28/07/2026 08:28

Amiiee · 28/07/2026 00:52

No but they can't just crack a very strong password

If you Google 'Can AI hack passwords?' you will probably be concerned about the results...
(The response was too long to paste here.)

I have seen a suggestion to use a long phrase such as a line from a song or poem e.g. 'OldMacDonaldhadaFarm' or 'TwasBrilligandtheSlithyToves' .

I will, of course contine with 'Password1!'

ThisOneLife · 28/07/2026 08:26

BashfulClam · 28/07/2026 08:21

My brother works in IT, his way around it is to use the same random letters and numbers you get from a string password and at the end he adds the account name so they are all unique. For example xxDB#26zzywReNetflix, xxDB#26zzywReNatwest, i don’t know how he remembers the first part.

Edited

A 10 year old hacker would get that very quickly surely?

ThisOneLife · 28/07/2026 08:25

I use a Password manager and the Authenticator app. I never have to remember anything and my phone is activated by my face/ipad by a fingerprint 🤷‍♀️

Yetanothername3 · 28/07/2026 08:23

It is not just passwords, though. I have noticed sites are increasingly asking you to tick a box to prove you are human, not a malbot AND even if you are registered, sites often insist on sending you a code to your mail box or an sms, rather than letting you log in with your password.
As for password length and component parts, words fail me, although I definitely avoid using any third party log in info automatically - looks at google & facebook - why should I support their data mining any more than I already, reluctantly, do?

BashfulClam · 28/07/2026 08:21

My brother works in IT, his way around it is to use the same random letters and numbers you get from a string password and at the end he adds the account name so they are all unique. For example xxDB#26zzywReNetflix, xxDB#26zzywReNatwest, i don’t know how he remembers the first part.

parietal · 28/07/2026 08:15

Use a password manager program. 1Password or Lastpass or Bitwarden etc

also keep the important ones written down on paper at home.

LittleBearPad · 28/07/2026 08:13

Just use the password storage on your phone. If it gets nicked wipe it.

Myblueclematis · 28/07/2026 08:10

TheTortiePuffinNeedsHerBreakfast · 28/07/2026 04:22

I have resorted to keeping mine written down in a little book that I keep hidden at home. These days I think it's far less likely for someone to find your passwords if stored physically than digitally.

I do this, a friend gave me it as part of a birthday present and it's been really useful.

As I'm getting older, I worry about what happens in the future, especially if I start to have memory problems, the book might help for a while as long as I remember I have it to look the passwords up in.

TY78910 · 28/07/2026 08:02

Surely that’s better than having your money and identity stolen?

All you need to do is remember your iCloud password and make sure your phone stays up to date on your account. Then you can always access your passwords stored in the keychain. You also don’t have to use the strong password option, just click ‘choose your own’.

NotAnotherScarf · 28/07/2026 07:52

But what boils my piss is for something unimportant where you don't have an account with your bank account details attached they want 10+ digits and a capital and a special character....why just why

FastFood · 28/07/2026 05:53

Its a very easy problem to solve. Lastpass, or any password manager does that. All my passwords are Xh!fg359 type of thing.

aWeeCornishPastie · 28/07/2026 05:51

God I agree it’s tiresome

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