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Pets - specifically cats related (posting here for traffic) - sense check before I agree to get kittens!

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Losoph · 27/07/2026 19:26

Kids (10 and 12) want two kittens. We are a family of cat lovers. However, my two elderly cats died (November last year and the year before). I will not go into details as I would have to write a novel and trying to keep it brief, but their senior years were extremely difficult. From dementia (one of the cats- toileting outside the box, unwillingness to come home from the garden due to confusion, general lack of grooming, etc) to the fact that both cats had runny poos for years (vets checked - blood tests, poo tests and all results always used to come back fine- the vets failed to inform me that outdoor cats who hunt can have runny poos due to eating bones, etc).

Here come my question, if you are a cat owner, particularly a senior cat owner (previous owner) - are your seniors easy? No toileting issues, no dramas? I appreciate some health issues as the cats get older but I'm more concerned about the lack of grooming, stepping into their own poo, etc...i wonder if having these issues a norm or not...I hope this will help me make a decision of what to do.

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Favouritefruits · 27/07/2026 19:41

Cats are like people some sickly some are not! Go and adopt a couple of kittens from the local charity and have done with it ☺️

Goldensprat · 27/07/2026 19:40

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Yeah, because elderly dogs never develop health and behavioural issues. Perfect choice for a family of cat lovers.

OP, my last cat was pretty dilapidated by the time he died at 14 (I know cats can live much older but he seemed ancient by then). He just used to dribble a bit and he stopped grooming himself so we had to groom him more. But no issues with toileting or dementia.

Blondeissimo · 27/07/2026 19:39

Senior cat slave here… he’s 17 and apart from diabetes (which is easily managed with medication in his food once a day) we have no issues at all. Three previous cats all lived to be 20+ and no issues with those either. Do it!

Loulou4022 · 27/07/2026 19:35

My parents have a 20 year old cat, she’s a bag of bones but still eating well, still kicks my dad out of his chair once she feels he’s warmed it up enough and still uses the tray. They have a younger cat who’s around 8 and he’s had investigations for sloppy poos! I actually think girl cats are better than boys as I had 2 boy cats who passed at 15 & 16 after months of kidney related illness. Parents had another girl cat back in the 80’s who lived to 21 without any health issues!

Newbookandcupofcoffee · 27/07/2026 19:35

Pets are one of the best parts of life to me so my advice may be wrong - but I would get the kittens. For me it’s worth the trouble in their senior years. My dog died in our living room when she was 16, my children all witnessed it and it was heartbreaking, I swore never again.

But then two years later I realised our home was missing the absolute joy of having a dog and suddenly every happy memory of our last dog completely outweighed the heartbreak of losing her. So we now have a 2 year old dog who brings us so so much fun and joy! I dread going through death again but having him will outweigh it and I’m prepared to go through the senior years again

TeaandHobnobs · 27/07/2026 19:35

I’ve never personally experienced a senior cat having those kind of issues in my extended family. My oldest surviving cat did suffer with long term cystitis, but it didn’t cause her to wee in the house or anything.

RandomMess · 27/07/2026 19:32

No my seniors didn’t. As an aside purrform lamb mince is a miracle cure for runny poo as is pumpkin powder.

Arlanymor · 27/07/2026 19:31

Cats are like people - they are all ages and they all have different issues at different times. Personally none of my elderly cats ever did anything more than go a bit dotty, but it didn't result in poo tracked through the house or frothing at the moon. They were just a bit dotty and slow. Like my parents are getting to be fair!!!

Highwash · 27/07/2026 19:28

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