DH trying to force oral

Agreed. What OP has experienced is pretty standard. All these LIBERAL MINDED WOMEN who believe consent is the be all and end all of sexual relationships live in cloud cuckoo land. Consent is simply not a stand alone workable solution in the real world! Their insistence at her leaving her partner even though she’s explained that isn’t part of the situation she finds herself in is very telling - an inability to use their imagination or curiosity outside of their own narrow world view. Normal women negotiate and get by; often indulging their partners with oral sex that they’d far rather not be practising. This normalisation of oral sex also makes me laugh. I sincerely believe many women have been steadily brainwashed by their culture that this is a perfectly normal, even essential part of a relationship - probably only come into effect in the last thirty years or so. I rarely ever comment on MN but felt compelled to offer some balance to the self righteous “advice” offered by so many of the ugly comments here.

Men? You can see them littered on here justifying their entitlement..

Very disturbing.

This is not a normal, healthy intimate relationship sorry.

I can't begin to understand what is.going on in the minds of the 5% of voters who think YABU. Why would it be unreasonable to express your view on oral and to want it to be understood? So weird.

It’s not normal to try and force your penis into someone’s mouth.

It just sounds awful. You say you can't leave but nobody should have to put up with that.

which makes the husband sound like a perverted deviant for expecting it in first place

Any man who expects any form of sex IS a pig.

If that makes me a “righteous prude” then I’ll happily be a righteous prude.

The website is fucking grim.

Its not "men". Its him.

Your baseline should not be to expect them all to be like thay and DH is "just" being like all the others.

He is an outlier, as you can see from these responses.

His behaviour is not typical, acceptable or normal.

The raging Gen X in me would have taken a big bite. Bet the screams would be heard down the street. Oh and he wouldn’t be putting his pecker (or what’s left of it) where it wasn’t wanted ever again. 😈

“How would he feel if I’d done the same thing demanding oral when he said no?”

That wouldn’t have even been the same scenario because of the physical power advantage men have over women.

My DH would never, ever do this.

It’s coercion, and carrying on further is sexual assault.

Appreciate you saying you can’t leave, but you should ring Women’s Aid for advice.

On another thread she expresses strict religious views so maybe yes.
The Bible itself says nothing about oral sex but traditionally the church disapproved of it.

'What is it an insult to call somebody a 'cock sucker'?'

'Cocksucker' is a homophobic insult, because traditionally people thought the idea of a man giving another man oral sex was degrading. That doesn't mean oral sex is degrading for women (or for men, straight or gay).

Do you commonly come across that insult now? I don't think many people do.

On another thread you mention you belong to a Christian denomination which sees being unmarried & childless as an adult as 'living like a teen'. Sounds quite strict .

Are your strong religious views why you have such vituperative views of oral sex?

'It just sounds like you haven’t really fully explored other views. Many women do not examine their own thoughts on different practices enough.' - I agree but that's not the case here, necessarily. Pp may well have thought her views through clearly.

I wouldn't say different views are batshit but I do think it's horrible & unnecessary to stay stuff like 'it's for dogs'. People can criticise oral sex without saying that.

Maybe knock him out with a frying pan to set the mood

As a CSA survivor myself you said no end of, no means no a grown man knows that.

Why do you keep using TV shows as examples?
I wouldn't take Tony Soprano's life advice on anything...

Of course it's not batshit to dislike it.

Re this :'Personally I don’t want a part of the body which is used to urinate shoved in my mouth.'- probably people who enjoy it expect that their partners will wash properly, I certainly do. But I can understand that being a hard boundary.

Plenty of people enjoy giving oral : some straight men, many lesbians and gay men too. By nature it mainly gives physical pleasure to the recipient but in a healthy relationship the recipient will reciprocate in other ways.

I actually said this out loud while reading the OP. "Just a little suck"?! My atrocious taste in men is well known, but the only who's said that to me was a stranger attempting rape ...

Yes, I mean plenty of men like giving oral sex, lesbian and gay couples also.

Unfortunately far too much porn shows oral sex in a horrible way.

pushed me down on the kitchen floor and shoved his bits and bobs right in my face so I couldn't see anything or hardly breathe and wouldn't take no for an answer. He thought it was funny but it was extremely annoying and disrespectful at the time.

WTF have I just read?

OMFG rarely say it but LTB

Porn brain