DH trying to force oral

Ok before I write this I know there will be a lot of leave him comments but this isn’t why I’m writing it I just needed to rant! We have a lot of other things going on at the moment which would make leaving impossible currently. It’s something to think about down the line.

So me and DH were having some ‘us time’ the other night which is very rare (few times a year) due to DCs health needs and that taking up lots of our time. I was already not really in the mood due to him asking in a vulgar way (“do you want to Fxxx”) but just let that slide. He then gets on top and whilst he’s on his knees and I’m lying down he kind of shuffles up the bed and says “oh just a little suck first” I said no and tried to pull him back down to kiss etc, he then kept saying just go on only a little bit and kept laughing and trying to get his penis closer to my face. At this point I had said no twice, I then sat up, pushed him back and very forcefully said “I said no!” . He then acted like it hadn’t happened and we carried on.

not that it matters but I’m a survivor of child SA and so I can get triggered easily by things like this. I just think why do men feel like women would want to do this all the time, like it’s their right to make us? I’m sick of men thinking women are just objects to satisfy them. How would he feel if I’d done the same thing demanding oral when he said no?

like I said this isn’t about leaving as that isn’t currently possible, it’s just a rant about how men think that women can just be used!

The men on this thread stand out a mile.

You don’t need a sex manual to explain why someone doesn’t like having someone’s knob in their gob

Its not prudish not to like giving oral sex.

No need to pretend to be a cool girl, plenty of women just don't like it, and that's absolutely fine.

Why are you trying to suggest it's prudish to not like a particular sex act? Whats prudish about it?
Some women find it gross and vomit inducing, and its ok for them to hold that opinion.

I think it's absolutely crystal clear to everyone on this thread that the non-consensual factor is wrong and I stated that in my post as well.

It's the deliberate blurring of boundaries that some posters are doing which makes the husband sound like a perverted deviant for expecting it in first place. It's been dragged as an act only done in p0rn and the crude formulation painted as vomit-inducing. (Context always matters in the bedroom and there isn't such a thing as too crude talk depending on which roles each sexual partner chooses to consensually take on).

It's obvious that lots of women don't enjoy the act and are using this situation as a moral crutch to prove how righteously prude they are by painting all men as pigs who dare to ask for oral.

Guy tries to thrust his dick in his wife's face after she's said no, and you're shocked that some women don't like oral and think they're prudes.

Perhaps a little lesson in priorities for you, sir?

“oh just a little suck first”
Where's the vomit emoji when you need it...

If you need a sex manual, buy one or start your own thread.

Again, stop derailing this one.

You missed 50% of the point there. Blowjobs were obtained, on tap, from their mistresses.

“oh just a little suck first”
Where's the vomit emoji when you need it...

“oh just a little suck first”
Where's the vomit emoji when you need it...

You don't need to justify your disgust and revulsion by saying you were a victim of SA. You just need to say 'I am not a pervert', or 'oral sex is usually for dogs'.

We should step back for a second from our current glamorisation of perversion in all shapes and forms - and ask questions - 'hang on, why did Demi Moore said in that film 'suck my dick' to her enemy'? What is it an insult to call somebody a 'cock sucker'? etc. etc. Maybe then people will realise that is perversion and what is not?

Why is it batshit to dislike oral sex? A huge number of women don’t. Personally I don’t want a part of the body which is used to urinate shoved in my mouth. In the same way I don’t want someone’s dick up my arse. I think it’s gross. If other people choose to do it that’s their personal business. For me it’s a no and that doesn’t make me batshit.

Some of these comments are batshit, oral sex is for dogs, penises are dirty, oral sex is perverted and a fetish.
Forcing it on someone is wrong, always, but the consensual act isn't.

You missed 50% of the point there. Blowjobs were obtained, on tap, from their mistresses.

It's not prudish to consider it OK for them to WANT it, but not - as you insinuate - to EXPECT it. And also, given that oral is "a perfectly normal part of a healthy sex life", how about suggesting that to OP's partner who's only interested in receiving it while refusing to provide it in his turn? Hardly a healthy sex life if it's only about him getting serviced.

Do you remember what Tony Soprano replied, when he was asked why he never asks his wife for a blowjob?
He said: What, and she would use the same mouth to kiss my children afterwards?

It wasn’t mentioned to be honest as he never has been in to anything like that. He always says he needs oral to help him get fully hard but doesn’t think it might work both ways!

“I’m sick of men thinking women are just objects to satisfy them” is not a normal thing to say in relation to your actual husband sorry.

Who are these dogs having oral sex? Never seen this myself…