AIBU to not let my 17 year old daughter go to the cinema at this time?

The vast majority of taxis are, 1000s are used daily. Are you suggesting that people never use taxis?

You're being so unbelievably unreasonable

'A reputable cab firm ' 🤣 Yeah. We all know there are plenty of those around.

She is 17, not 5! I didn’t even live at home at that age. You’re being ridiculous.

How exactly have " times changed".

Apart from the fact technology has made things much easier. No need to be lost when maps and Uber are on the phone and you can contact people easiky

She’s 17. Let her go. If you can’t collect her, and you’re worried, then she needs to call a reputable cab firm to get her home.

Actually I found the first 6 months they were driving more stressful than before they could

I would worry about any female walking home late at night but you are going to pick her up so there is no.issue there. It will be early and still light when she gets there and the cinema will be safe so I think it's time to let her have her independence.

YABU
but it is understandable if this is the first time she has asked to be out this late. I understand your caution, but she is 17.
When my daughter was 16/17, I was nearly always the taxi. I knew i would not sleep until she was in, so I figured I might as well be the taxi, unless of course she was stopping over at friends.
Sorry, it'll get harder for you if she goes to uni. You need to take this time to get used to the independent person she is becoming and learn to accept that you won't always have the control you had 10 yrs ago.

Mine were going into the city aged 14….they got a taxi home...I was at 10 and walked the hour and a half home . You have to let them grow up. Parents job is to teach confidence and independence . Not baby them

I was brought up strictly and "safely" and I went crazy when I got to uni. My first term was basically a non stop party. By the summer I'd dropped out having failed my exams and met an unsuitable boyfriend. I try to let my kids do things so it's not a novelty to them being able to and so their world is as big and exciting as possible while they are young and free to enjoy it.

She wouldnt be struggling it is you that seems to be she is 17 not 7

I was dancing on bars in Corfu at 17, you need to let her learn how to take care of herself for her benefit

She is an adult and can come and go as she pleases. She has to learn to look after herself. At 17 I was out clubbing till 3 am no I'd was ever asked for then change of clothes and straight to work. All with my 17 year old friend in taxi or public transport

Thanks! Yes it was.

We had no idea that things would change so much in the last 50 years, in terms of what 17 year old girls might do. My 1970's feminist mother would be unimpressed.

I guess this is the kind of question where you need to be the parent of a teenage girl to answer. What we did in our youth isn’t really relevant as times change. I have a DS and he was going to festivals and gigs in different towns requiring staying over, all sorts at 17. But I can see with a girl it’s different.

I guess it’s up to you if you are happy to drive out and collect her. Do you have Uber / Bolt or similar in your area as all of their journeys are tracked so you may feel a bit happier with her taking one of these rides.

Shes an adult. But you shouldn’t have to stay up that late to collect her, dont you have work tomorrow. She should stay over at her friends house.

Oh wow!! What an adventure!!

I was off my nut at raves at 17 and my mum had no idea where I was 😁 (not helpful, I know)

Does she turn into a pumpkin at midnight?

F(67) here. When I was 17 I went Interrailing over the summer. Highly recommended. Six of us girls. Italy, Greece and countries in between.

My friend and I were walking through an orchard (in daylight) and were chased by a dog. I ran faster and friend got bitten. The rest of the holiday, we all waited for her test results to see if she had contracted rabies. (She was fine.)

We slept outdoors in Greece. No tents. I have a photo of us struggling out of our cute English nightgowns into daywear when (presumably) local shepherds approached our camp. (We were fine.)

We arrived in Venice station without having booked into the youth hostel. It was full. We stood in the station, wondering what to do next, looking (presumably) young, innocent and adorable. A bunch of nuns swooped down and took us off to their nunnery, where we slept in a beautiful dormitory with historic vaulting. (We were fine.)

On the train back through Yugoslavia(!) we'd run out of money and food. We survived off dry bread and raw eggs. (We were fine.)

Please let your daughter go to the cinema.

At 17 I was out clubbing out my mates till the early hours 😂

lol so why do you think she needs to be picked up? Just because it’s late?

Shes 17 and you wanted to stop her seeing a film at the cinema, because it’s late?

Please!

Because of my culture my parents did not let me go out at night not even evening times! Funny how when I went to uni I got on with things never had any issues going out late , getting back late from clubs and they were none the wiser so I get it OP from your perspective. The right thing is let her go and you pick her up but over time she should become more independent for her own good to learn valuable skills.