AIBU to not let my 17 year old daughter go to the cinema at this time?

I feel like I don't need to explain why monitoring a 17 year old with 2 trackers at the cinema is unhinged.

17 is such an incredible age. She should be free and having fun, meeting people, boys etc. I love to think back to being 17 and going to parties, travelling, lying on beaches with strangers....imagine not even being able to freely attend the cinema. That's bloody depressing.

Treating a 17 year old like a 7 year old!

This level of control is ridiculous, she should be out without parebral involvement with friends, boyfriends, etc!

In what way? Care to explain your derisory comment?

She’s 17!! 🤦‍♀️

Totally ridiculous ideas!

Sorry but this is utterly unhinged.

I do understand your worries. But cinemas are staffed with cctv everywhere. Its a pretty safe environment. She can have her phone with her so you can track her (with consent) and even an apple air tag (with consent) for extra safety. She can message you once she is in the cinema safely, let you know which screen etc. Then meet her in the lobby after the film and get their early so you dont miss her. With a parent waiting for her is pretty safe. If she was wandering the streets at midnight on her own then yes id be really concerned. But with the set up above although it may be an anxious night for you it allows her a bit of freedom in a safe and controlled way.

All sounds very wholesome.

I wish my DD had been heading to the cinema at that age instead of getting pissed in a pub with fake ID and dodgy 20 something guys!

Jesus. OP literally just wanted to check people's opinions.....for her 17yr old which is fair enough. Who said anything about restricted lives? People on here jump to the most ridiculous conclusions...

It's as nice and safe as any other British city really. Which is pretty darn safe. Horrible things happen. They always have and always will but they aren't common thankfully.

I always thought Edinburgh is a nice safe city

This thread just leaves me shaking my head. I left home about a week after turning 18 and moved to another country. My partner left at 17. The idea that I’ll be managing whether or even how my kid goes to the movies at 16 or 17 has never crossed my mind.

And that is very sickening to read about. Poor girl going through that experience. But just as an aside...how the f*ck can he afford a basement flat in York Place?!

I'd be saying no because of the assumption I'll collect her way past my bedtime.

Other than that, fine. Perhaps she can stay with the friend?

I see a massive issue! It’s absolutely an issue that mother of a woman aged 17 would even consider she’s to be not allowed to go to the cinema? Why would that even enter your head?

Helicopter parenting to the extreme!

The voice of reason!

We are absolutely failing our kids in this next generation if we don't let them have small bites of independence as they age from 10/11/12 onwards. They need to learn how to do stuff on their own. We are otherwise failing them.

I cannot believe what I am reading and this isn't an isolated thread on stuff like this. I just want to shout "let go" "trust your DD/DS".

OP sorry I'm such an overcautious person myself and I get the anxiety but she is 17. At that age I was living in a foreign country and my parents had no clue where I was at night.

No they haven’t! Some are seriously risk adverse!

Being an "independent" adult woman doesn't make you any more safe.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c141x6lp8p4o

You never know who is lurking. I feel so sick and worry at night for DD.

It’s a risk of course, life is full of them! Why put her in a taxi at 10.00 am, isn’t that a risk?

It's very concerning so many are living in a gilded cage and are not allowed out with friends unless under certain conditions etc. In Scotland you can get married aged 16😱

I started uni aged 17 and had to get loads of buses around the uni city I stayed in. My halls of residence was on the outskirts of the city so I had to get a taxi or bus to get home.

One of my 10yo's friends isn't allowed out to play without a parent. He has to be chaperoned at all times. Even the two minute walk to the local primary school which is visible from their front door. It's incredibly sad as he is such a lovely boy who can be trusted and needs to learn how to cope being outdoors without a parent at his side. He will be going to high school next August. I don't know how the mum will cope.

Kids need to learn independence skills. I worry for the next generation. DS19 travelled aged 17 to New York and did sightseeing in Connecticut too whilst over there at Yale Peabody Museum amongst other tourist stuff. He travelled alone all that distance to meet his girlfriend at that time.

Parents need to learn to let go. It isn't healthy keeping them on a tight leash. Teach them the skills they need to stay safe. That's all that's needed. And wave them off.