AIBU to not let my 17 year old daughter go to the cinema at this time?

At that age I was 100% fine with my older girls seeing a later movie but I’d pick them up if no one going to the movie could drive , I wouldn’t want them stranded or waiting ages for the night bus ( we lived in a city)
If the movie finished a wee bit earlier and that meant they could catch the bus home ( they’d get off very near home and have a very short walk ) then I’d be fine with that .
Now my youngest is SEN so at that age she was different and wasn’t travelling totally independently by that age ( only to her college and back )
So I’d insist on earlier screening

Made me smile. I was married at 17, admittedly not the most sensible thing I ever did. I'd have been safer at the cinema

I lived by myself at 17. Can't imagine ringing parents to get permission to go out lol

Surely she’s 17 and it’s her parents’ decision!

Is she planning on uni next year? If so, you both have a lot of work to do on getting her more independent.

Passing her test was a welcome milestone!

Whereas my mum would sometimes actually wait at the bus stop (nearest home) waiting for me to get off the last bus around 11.30pm after a night out in my teens! ha ha. It was bit embarrassing...I didn't tell my friends...but, bless her, at least she cared :)

So was my DD. She drove herself home though

unless she has special needs you are being ridiculous!

She’s 17. And she’s asking to be picked up. And it’s the cinema. What happens when she goes to parties? Surely this is no different and in fact safer as it’s the cinema. If you’re there before it ends then she’s not even waiting around

My gosh at that age I was already working in bars and restaurants until midnight having to walk 20 min to a bus stop and take the last bus home at 12:30, the only girl out and about. I’m 33. Many of my friends did that age 16-19 it was normal. Sometimes my mum would pick me up if it was past the last bus time. Yes sometimes I got a bit scared but it’s part of growing up. I’d feel suffocated if you were my mum sorry.

Would it be possible for her to spend the night at her friend's house and you could pick her up during the day? Would that help?

There some truly strange people on MN. Where on Earth have you conjured up Ma sinking a few wines from?
She is clearly worried about her DD being out late.

At 17 she needs to experience some independence so she can build her own confidence, if you don’t let her do this it puts her more at risk as she’ll be totally naive . I was drinking in the pub at 17 and snogging boys isn’t that just normal teenage behaviour?!

At 17 I'd been living independently over a year and been out past midnight many times, starting at age 14. Those years taught me a lot about staying safe and I learned through bitter experience, including date rape, multiple sexual assaults, being stalked and domestic abuse. My mother didn't give a shit and even if she had, she couldn't drive. Well done for taking good care of your girl but she does need to learn how to keep herself safe. Time to start giving her a bit more freedom.

You've moved her away from the place where her friends live. Is there a cinema local to you where she could see the film? They are not young for long. I used to pick my children up at 2.00am from parties, I'm very glad now that I did it because they remember it and are now prepared to pick me up from events when I don't want to drive. Just do it.

Omg ,,, too dramatic its ridiculous

Erm , in the nicest possible way ... you are being unreasonable ... she is 17 , watching a movie with a friend and your picking her up ? Even if she was getting a taxi I would let her go ... I have 3 kids youngest being 17 also and you have to let them live there life and have a bit of fun and freedom ... she's nearly an adult
.. you need to relax and stop over thinking things ... im sure she will be fine , let her go have some fun x

Weren't we all 😂👍🏼

At 17 my daughter was working in a bar/restaurant.

this was a pain as it meant many Saturday night late pickups. We did have a reliable taxi driver until he became less so and had to be reported!

She is now a strong bolshy no nonsense young adult of whom I am extremely proud.

at some point you have to relax the controls

Ffs she is going to the cinema

I totally get it OP. My youngest DS turned 18 this June but last year I really struggled to be ok with the later nights. It takes some people (I appreciate not all!) longer to let go in that sense than others.
YANBU to worry, I think lots of parents are the same… but also YABU if you said no xx

Yes, I will always resent my parents for treating me like a potential criminal when I was her age and not letting me have a social life at all. I missed out on so much because of their neglect and seeing me as nothing more than a whipping post to threaten with the police constantly over nothing. Ironically never had any problems with the police. Never was arrested either.

She’s 17, not 11 and these ideas are way off.

This.

l was brought up in France because of dad’s job, but born in the UK. At 17 l was travelling solo between France and the UK to visit family and friends.

l used to phone mum to confirm arrival but nothing to compare with this.

I had a weekend job. l was also responsibly sexually active, but no wild child either.