DP wants to end relationship over old videos on my phone

Is the only communication him finding them and ending it? I mean he’s allowed to do that.
if you believe the ‘looking for a photo’ story that is.

You don't just stumble on videos that are old enough to require so much scrolling the owner of the phone forgot they were there.

also what phone do you have, that's impressive amounts of storage!

@Neolara
The op has said they were X rated videos.

No, I am sure it is a vid of them cycling together, that is why she writes that her face is not visible.

He sounds a bully and shouldn’t be going through your phone. Let him stew. Don’t contact him. Let him do the running.

Mine did the same and even deleted my boss's number so that when he demand I call in sick (because he was bored and wanted me around that day), I couldn't and got a disciplinary.

Going through your phone is a sackable offence. Be glad you are rid!

He didn't stumble across 10-year old videos, he was having a good old snoop, and for that I'd bin him.

I think i would be pretty upset to find this on my OH's phone. Give him some time. Once he's calmed down he might be willing to listen and accept that you haven't kept them on purpose.

Even if it is it's before they were together. Unless he thought she was the bloody vestal virgin

There would never be a situation where I would be searching for 10 year old videos on a boyfriend's phone!

Don’t give him the chance to come back you’ve had a lucky escape from this idiot

Get rid of this one. He's not a keeper.

Too weird to be searching back for 10 year old videos.

I imagine everyone here, saying he's over reacting / an idiot etc - would be fine with finding a video(s) seemingly kept hold of on their OH's phones of them "clapping their ex's cheeks" and absolutley wouldnt react similarly at all?

Liars! 😆

He’s massively overreacted and being really unfair. I’d given him some time to cool off but also be rethinking the relationship myself if I were you OP x

Not nice for him to find but also not your fault.

Most people in relationships have had previous relationships/sex before. Does he expect you to have just hung around waiting to meet him?

My ex was like this and ended up being incredibly controlling

That’s exactly what it is.

🤔

He sounds controlling and jealous and you’re probably better off.

Would you like if your dp had similar videos of his ex on his phone OP?

Please let the trash take itself out. I would block him so that he has no way to contact you again, and I don’t block people over small arguments or simply for breaking up, but I will tell you from experience that a jealous and controlling man only gets worse and soon you’re walking on eggshells afraid to say anything.

My ex went through my phone for absolutely no reason and also went mental when he found completely harmless Facebook exchanges between me, a friend and an ex from 10 years prior. You would have thought I’d done the most horrific thing and the reaction was extreme.

However, what was worse was that I was a complete idiot who was so upset by the fact that he thought I’d betrayed him that I begged for “forgiveness” and then stayed for a further 7 years until coming to my senses. It genuinely gives me the ick now so much to think about his behaviour and it’s so embarrassing how I allowed it.

Please walk away. You’re allowed to have a past and nobody ever has the right to go through your phone.

I would never go through a partner's phone.

But. There are many women on the Relationships board who advocate regularly going.through men's phones and would absolutely go nuclear if a man had an explicit video of a female ex saved.

I would leave him to it.tbh

Why was he going through your phone? Is he controlling in other ways?
What does going mental mean? Was he calling you names?

What was he doing going through your phone? Dump him.

I don’t think keeping sex videos of exs is appropriate. I’d be horrified if my husband had that. But if they had genuinely forgotten and deleted it asap I’d get over it. Thank god smart phones weren’t around then!