Page 6 | To ask ds to ask his gf to dress appropriately?

Daisypod · 2026-07-26T19:26:51+00:00

We are going to a national trust place soon and ds has asked if his relatively new gf can come. I’m fine with that but she does tend to wear very revealing clothing (skirts only covering half her bum!) Would I be unreasonable to ask for her to dress a little more conservatively for the day? If so how would you say it? I really try to not judge others clothing choices but honestly I think showing this much is a bit much for a family day out.

FaceIt · 26/07/2026 21:04

We were all young once, so grin and bear it and enjoy the day.

It’s not worth causing any harm or embarrassment.

If you show your disapproval, has it occurred to you your DS won’t ask you again in the future?

ChopstickNovice · 26/07/2026 21:02

I had an ex whose mum often commented that my clothing was "too bright" or "awfully colourful." I like bright colours, and I wasn't wearing neon - think coral, sunshine yellow etc. Her comments did not endear me to her.

Supersimkin7 · 26/07/2026 21:02

This summer’s batty riders are a bit much for many.

Bring a jumper to cover her bum if you go into a chapel or similar. No drama, it’s a respect thing.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 26/07/2026 21:01

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/07/2026 20:57

If there is going to be a lot of walking and a long day out simply suggest she wear trainers and jeans for that reason.

I wouldn’t mind someone saying trainers is recommended but telling me to wear jeans 😖

hahabahbag · 26/07/2026 21:01

Does the visit involve going for a walk not on tarmac paths? If so you could say to him that it would be good to suggest she wears suitable shoes and trousers/ shorts because the trip involves walking over rough terrain. This is a practical thing rather than being judgemental

Overtheatlantic · 26/07/2026 21:01

I wouldn’t say anything, but I wouldn’t take her either. She should have a variety of clothes for different occasions like most people do. Festivals and concerts, fine to show your arse. Afternoon with bf’s mum, show some respect instead.

Giftspread · 26/07/2026 21:00

I had the misfortune of being behind someone on an escalator who had the shortest skirt. From the view I got I can't say for definite she had any pants on.

DontrockthecaravanGeoffrey · 26/07/2026 21:00

"I just came from a beach bar that required shirt and shoes. Sometimes there is such a thing as appropriate dress."

One of our local shops has put up a sign asking men to wear shirts.

Gooseling · 26/07/2026 21:00

HollyhocksandPeons · 26/07/2026 20:55

Your DS should be able to sort it out himself, such as 'Tomorrow we are going out, as a group, with my parents. They have been properly brought up and they get terribly embarrassed when they are seen in a group with inappropriate people, inappropriate meaning behaviour, clothes, any outward signs. I would like to ask you not to embarrass them and dress appropriately, I don't want my parents to feel awkward'.

If the OP’s so is between the age of 13-50 he absolutely is not going to come out with drivel like that 🤣🤣🤣🤣

lollypop42 · 26/07/2026 21:00

some comments are so aggressive, the op only asked a question, she doesn’t sound particularly judgy

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 26/07/2026 20:59

Fluffyscrubberdo · 26/07/2026 20:51

Why is that different? Is someone is happy to walk in whatever they are wearing why would you think it was okay to “require” them to wear a certain type of shoe to dander around a Manor House garden?

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I don’t think you can dictate the footwear but can give heads up if it’s going to a lot of walking/ muddy ground/ lots of steps etc

Mapletree1985 · 26/07/2026 20:59

I just came from a beach bar that required shirt and shoes. Sometimes there is such a thing as appropriate dress.

I agree that these skirts which flash the arse-cheeks are pretty vulgar and usually unflattering, but if that's how she rocks, then that's her choice.

If you were her mum, granny, or sister, you could say something. As the mother of her boyfriend, your lips must remained sealed. You have to accept her as she is, unless she's hurting others.

3peassuit · 26/07/2026 20:58

HollyhocksandPeons · 26/07/2026 20:55

Your DS should be able to sort it out himself, such as 'Tomorrow we are going out, as a group, with my parents. They have been properly brought up and they get terribly embarrassed when they are seen in a group with inappropriate people, inappropriate meaning behaviour, clothes, any outward signs. I would like to ask you not to embarrass them and dress appropriately, I don't want my parents to feel awkward'.

I’m sure that will go down well.

Esmeraldathe3rd · 26/07/2026 20:58

God no. Do not teach your son he has a right to tell his girlfriend what to wear.

Funchythesnowwoman · 26/07/2026 20:57

And we conclude from this, as since the dawn of time, that Young Women Are Bad.
No not really. I don't particularly want to see bare arses on my my way to the shops - male or female.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/07/2026 20:57

If there is going to be a lot of walking and a long day out simply suggest she wear trainers and jeans for that reason.

Minasama · 26/07/2026 20:57

Funchythesnowwoman · 26/07/2026 20:53

I was walking behind 2 young women earlier this afternoon. One had a skirt that blew up to her waist (it was breezy here). She had no underwear on - unless it was a tiny dental floss thong. She kept pulling her skirt back down.
A man walking beside me said 'I can't be looking at that' and he crossed the road.

That’s hilarious!

TerribleEntrepreneur · 26/07/2026 20:56

Funchythesnowwoman · 26/07/2026 20:53

I was walking behind 2 young women earlier this afternoon. One had a skirt that blew up to her waist (it was breezy here). She had no underwear on - unless it was a tiny dental floss thong. She kept pulling her skirt back down.
A man walking beside me said 'I can't be looking at that' and he crossed the road.

And we conclude from this, as since the dawn of time, that Young Women Are Bad.

The ritual is complete.

Tut Tut.

HollyhocksandPeons · 26/07/2026 20:55

Your DS should be able to sort it out himself, such as 'Tomorrow we are going out, as a group, with my parents. They have been properly brought up and they get terribly embarrassed when they are seen in a group with inappropriate people, inappropriate meaning behaviour, clothes, any outward signs. I would like to ask you not to embarrass them and dress appropriately, I don't want my parents to feel awkward'.

Minasama · 26/07/2026 20:54

Yanbu but you will only create trouble, saying anything won’t land well.

The most you could do is say to your son “can you see if she will wear suitable clothes, nothing too revealing?” . But don’t put pressure on him and accept his answer if it’s no.

Gooseling · 26/07/2026 20:53

How old is she?

Is she a teen? As the very short skirt/shorts are very “in” right now, and have been for a while.

I don’t think you should say anything though. She probably thinks your style is hideous, as teens usually do with middle aged mothers.

Funchythesnowwoman · 26/07/2026 20:53

I was walking behind 2 young women earlier this afternoon. One had a skirt that blew up to her waist (it was breezy here). She had no underwear on - unless it was a tiny dental floss thong. She kept pulling her skirt back down.
A man walking beside me said 'I can't be looking at that' and he crossed the road.

NormasArse · 26/07/2026 20:53

TerribleEntrepreneur · 26/07/2026 20:53

Wait til you find out what the statues wear at National Trust places.

😂

TerribleEntrepreneur · 26/07/2026 20:53

Wait til you find out what the statues wear at National Trust places.

Cosmosforbreakfast · 26/07/2026 20:52

Why do you want your son to dictate to her what she wears? Do you really want him to come across as a wet blanket, controlling, mummy's boy? Let her wear what she wants.