To ask ds to ask his gf to dress appropriately?

i noticed kids walking home after sports day. Girls had skirts that barely covered their bums. The boys had shirts down to their knees. Why do we accept this?

Poor girl. Someone should warn her before she ends up with the judgemental MIL from hell who wants to tell her what to wear.

No. It is not your place to feel embarrassed or shame on her behalf.
They aren’t young forever.

Lets not be judgemental about people with a stick up their arse

Jeans aren’t usually considered great clothing for doing longish walks in.

op I agree with the others, this is not a situation where you can say anything.

Why does young women’s fashion have to be so revealing though? Why aren’t young men showing their bum cheeks?

Lets hope the stick up the arse is hidden by a maxi skirt.

It’s entirely up to her what she wears. It would be kind, however, to make sure she knows that there’s quite a lot of walking on uneven ground, that you’ll probably sit on stones, walls, tree stumps, and the grass. Practical clothes and perhaps a cover up or good sunscreen wouldn’t be sensible.

My DD18 wears v short skirts & tiny shorts. It's the fashion - all over tiktok. Her bf loves the way she dresses. (I haven't come across the stockings & suspenders in the wild though, I must say.)
Most of the tiny skirts are actually skorts - but I think the shorts part does ride right up and can look like a thong.
Definitely don't say anything to her. My DD would call it slut-shaming and that is not viewed positively.

The way you dress can tell a lot about your values and what's important to you.

Only to judgemental people with a stick up their arse.

I see it regularly, it is a trend amongst young women and I live near a college. I’m not bothered by short skirts and wore them myself but skirts/shirts so short you can see the knicker gusset at the front and cheeks at the back are not appropriate imo on men or women. It also looks stupid from a fashion point of view.

I wish young girls didn’t feel like they need to dress like hookers but it seems it’s a thing in the UK. I was in France recently and didn’t see any girls there dressed like this. It’s such a cheap
look.

However nothing good can come from you getting involved, hopefully she will come to realise by herself.

Has she worn the outfit you describe everytime, though? I would imagine she has a variety of outfits?

It's really not. I've seen womens wearing clothes like this to festivals and rock pubs/clubs for many years now.

Then the OP shouldn’t have said that the girlfriend can come along.

I wear mini skirts and dresses and I love nature, hiking, etc.

Believe it or not, women can wear revealing clothing AND have interests!! Who'd of thought!

There's no dress code at NT properties!

Short, often ruffled skirts are in this summer, very short, often with built-in shorts, which are super-comfy.

Say nothing.

Sorry to break it to you but but it does. The way you dress can tell a lot about your values and what's important to you. You don't have to dress revealing your bum and all skimpily to be empowered, that's just rubbish.

It's common sense to be able to and at your dressing for the occasion but I guess if she's going to a corporate interview she will insist on showing half her bum because she is empowered??? Of course not she will adapt her dressing accordingly.

Why does she think people need to see her bum while she walks around? You can dress one way with your other young skimpy friends while respecting other people and adjusting in different settings, will she dress that way to a funeral in a church???

I would definitely get my son to say something, I would not want to be walking around with someone half dressed.

If she doesnt like it then she doesn't join you

Maybe she has never been told that there are different dress styles appropriate to different places

I don't get this going on about her outfit being her choice. Of course it is. That's obvious.
But your arse hanging our of a short skirt looks seriously shit and loads of people DO find it inappropriate. Regardless of what I think of it myself.
She's seemingly not aware of that and therefore it's informative to point it out to her.
It's not about control.
It's a statement of fact.

I hate the way we have to pretend it’s ok for people to have bum cheeks on show in the supermarket? restaurant etc.

God alive, we're talking about weight now too.

Discourag the idea of her coming, she doesn't sound like someone who would enjoy a day out at a NT place.

Where did she wear this outfit? Was it to a pub/club/festival? Or was it to church or Sunday lunch with the grandparents?

Do you honestly think she would wear this to a family day out?

This is a great idea because what the world needs is more people policing what women wear.