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Husband …we are not shopping today ..Aibu ?

415 replies

inkyspells · 26/07/2026 10:57

Today me and my OH are going for drinks and food in a city around 30 mins train from our city.
I am at a concert on Friday and there’s a shop that has a top I’m looking for (we don’t have the shop in our city ) I plan on wearing it for the concert.
I checked and it’s in stock
So I said I’m just gonna pop in and grab it
He said “no we aren’t shopping today ,your off work all week ,go and get it another day “
I told him I know we aren’t shopping ,I just want this specific top.
Im literally walking past the shop to get to the area with the pubs.
So now I’m gonna have to go back tomorrow (1 hour travel there and back ,plus another train fare”

Aibu to be a bit annoyed ?
I asked him again and he went in a mood so I just said fine il go another day.

OP posts:
12234m · 27/07/2026 19:53

MerryUmberHedgehog · 27/07/2026 19:50

Do you REALLY NEED this top?

Do you REALLY NEED the bigger issue pointed out to you?

MerryUmberHedgehog · 27/07/2026 19:50

Do you REALLY NEED this top?

Askingforafriendtoday · 27/07/2026 19:45

Good grief! I simply cannot imagine staying married to a man like this

MyRubyFox · 27/07/2026 19:44

He's not your keeper. Go get it.

IJustMight · 27/07/2026 19:32

I don't understand why you didn't go in and grab the top.

MSDOUBTFIRE · 27/07/2026 19:17

YABU because you did what he said ! You're grown woman should have gone and got it !

Onmytod24 · 27/07/2026 19:16

You’re actually gonna walk past the shop and not go in and make a three hour round-trip another day of your holiday for what?

WotsitsMadeIn1927 · 27/07/2026 19:12

Who the hell does he think he’s talking to and bossing about??

Go get your damn top.

DoughBallss · 27/07/2026 19:06

inkyspells · 26/07/2026 10:57

Today me and my OH are going for drinks and food in a city around 30 mins train from our city.
I am at a concert on Friday and there’s a shop that has a top I’m looking for (we don’t have the shop in our city ) I plan on wearing it for the concert.
I checked and it’s in stock
So I said I’m just gonna pop in and grab it
He said “no we aren’t shopping today ,your off work all week ,go and get it another day “
I told him I know we aren’t shopping ,I just want this specific top.
Im literally walking past the shop to get to the area with the pubs.
So now I’m gonna have to go back tomorrow (1 hour travel there and back ,plus another train fare”

Aibu to be a bit annoyed ?
I asked him again and he went in a mood so I just said fine il go another day.

I want to vote you are being unreasonable just for needing his permission!

Crochetandtea · 27/07/2026 19:06

I hate shopping but I hate wasting time and money more.

NoWordForFluffy · 27/07/2026 19:04

Kaykpop · 27/07/2026 18:59

@GordanoServices I noticed the same thing. OP has posted about husbands behaviour being drunk on honeymoon and leaving her on holiday in the past and then disappeared to create a new post. Baffled

Anyone responding to her is wasting their time. I'm not sure what she really wants from MN.

Lovely13 · 27/07/2026 19:02

You go to shop alone and meet him in pub afterwards. And tell him from me to stop being such a dickhead. Seems to be far too many posts about controlling blokes on here today.

Kaykpop · 27/07/2026 18:59

@GordanoServices I noticed the same thing. OP has posted about husbands behaviour being drunk on honeymoon and leaving her on holiday in the past and then disappeared to create a new post. Baffled

Skyview7 · 27/07/2026 18:51

You AREN'T shopping; you're collecting.

Millerhouse1 · 27/07/2026 18:51

YABU for taking any notice of him and giving in to him.

WhatMyNameis · 27/07/2026 18:48

Oh good Lod, just go in the shop and buy the top! Of course not do another trip!

Call them and ask if they can grab it for you so it's at the till if it'll make you feel better!

Miaminmoo · 27/07/2026 18:45

You’re being unreasonable because why are you letting him tell you ‘no’ are you 12?? I’d have told him to fuck right off unless you have form for buggering off shopping for hours which it doesn’t sound like tbh. Your husband is a prick.

Mackerelfillets · 27/07/2026 18:43

Sorry you are being too submissive!! Go and get the bloody top! He can wait outside or at the pub. You will be 10 mins top! (if you pardon the pun). He needs to get a grip and so do you if you allow this behaviour!

GordanoServices · 27/07/2026 18:41

As per previous threads. OP has disappeared. I’m sure she’ll create a new thread soon.

MummyofTw0 · 27/07/2026 18:35

I literally can't understand this. You need his permission why? I'd tell him I'm going..he doesn't need to join you. Don't see the problem x

Stelladid · 27/07/2026 18:34

YABU to not just go and get the top! FFS! your husband will continue to be a sulker, if you continue to reward him (by giving him what he wants) for sulking. What kind if mindset do you have that let you to give in to him> 🤷‍♀️

jellyfish798 · 27/07/2026 18:31

Wtf? What a weirdly controlling move from him

LightningTree · 27/07/2026 18:31

inkyspells · 26/07/2026 11:00

He hates shopping ,so anytime I suggest any sort of shops ,he kicks off

To be fair a lot of men are like that but as it was just popping in to pick up a specific item I think his response was a bit pathetic.

ThatLemonBee · 27/07/2026 18:30

Don’t be a doormat and tell him “ I’m getting it now “ .

Rhootintootinboo · 27/07/2026 18:28

Did you comply?!?!?!

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