Page 2 | Husband …we are not shopping today ..Aibu ?

BeAzureRaven · 02/08/2026 03:09

I had a husband like that once. He advanced to being physically abusive over the course of the one year we were married. I'm thinking that things don't look too great for you, but I hope I'm wrong.

crazeekat · 01/08/2026 22:36

Honestly tell him to just fuck off. Then u fuck off and leave him. Premanently. Who TF do these ment think they are???

Minglingpringle · 01/08/2026 22:33

Your husband does not respect you.

He does not consider you his equal.

He believes he has the right to total control of you.

He has the potential to be one abusive, if he isn’t already.

SaltyBiscuit · 01/08/2026 21:48

Sorry but I believe this post is just a wind up. And find it hard to believe it to be true.

Fleurdavril · 01/08/2026 21:45

Do you turn every outing into a shopping expedition? If not, it's hard to understand why your husband is addressing you like a toddler and you are obeying him. Please let readers know what's what.

GeorgieLark · 01/08/2026 21:37

As a husband I would have popped in the shop and bought it for my wife. Weird that you pass the shop and he says “we are not shopping today“ . I hate when people manufacture reasons to say their partner is controlling, but this seems like a legitimate case.

Aslana · 01/08/2026 21:32

Extraordinary behaviour from your OH. He is not shopping you are and you have every right to go in and buy your top. Sounds as if he thinks you are taking off on a lengthy shopping expedition instead of spending time with him. Oh dear. Please get your top!

FelixRyark · 01/08/2026 21:29

He gets ZERO say in how you decide to walk to the area you are going to and, if you pop into said shop to buy the top (as long as you are being totally truthful here and you are
not Intending on browsing for an hour) you do you. If he wants to go on ahead, tell him
you will catch up with him in 20 mins.

HoardingCow · 01/08/2026 21:28

Error404FucksNotFound · 26/07/2026 11:00

Get the top. Its a quick in and out. He is being ridiculous to insist you make another trip.
Tell him you will meet him in the pub.

@Error404FucksNotFound. I am loving your name 🤣

HoardingCow · 01/08/2026 21:26

I am loving your name 🤣

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 01/08/2026 21:20

Why on earth did you ask him? 'Just nipping in here for 5 minutes love to pick up a top' ... ridiculous asking for permission.

Saltandvinegarchipstick · 01/08/2026 21:18

It sounds like a very weird power trip. Do you shop a lot or are there money issue or anything?

DrumsPleaseFab · 01/08/2026 21:07

This is really weird of him, and a bit sad you feel you have to obey him 😐

YourWildAmberSloth · 01/08/2026 20:33

Sounds like the top is the least of your worries.

WendyA22 · 01/08/2026 20:07

OnlyOneAdda · 26/07/2026 10:59

What a controlling dick. YANBU…HE is BU and I think you should carefully consider whether you want to be with someone that a) you have to ask permission to go in a shop and b) would make such a sulky big deal over you taking 5mins to do something

I agree. Also if he gets in a mood, just do it anyway.

LeCoop · 01/08/2026 20:04

Just tell him that your week off includes a few hours of 'retail therapy' and if he doesn't like it, lump it.

Pilscat · 01/08/2026 19:52

Personally, if he was being that ridiculous- I’d arrange another day and make it an all day thing. Take a friend, have lunch, maybe even dinner - I’d probably even stop over, although that could be pushing it

Su9 · 01/08/2026 19:34

In response to most of the responses...
It's not about asking permission or behaving as if he's her boss.
It's decent and courteous to mention or ask if the other person minds etc.
This group seems mega anti men, assuming the worst of them.
We usually marry because we want to marry and because we have feelings for the guy. So why all this ugliness towards men???

Su9 · 01/08/2026 19:32

Plz don't tell ANYONE EVER, "Don't be ridiculous!" or similar. That's horrible, disrespectful.
I think ppl know that popping into a shop CAN land up taking longer, trying other sizes etc, so he may have a valid gripe.
What I wonder is: Why are so many responses so full of swearing, so ugly and negative?
I'm a woman but if a friend asked me to do this, I'd be careful to emphasize that it's truly 5 min, and not a hassle that breaks into a nice plan.

AnAutumnCrow · 01/08/2026 19:14

And the OP was never seen again. Another one. Fishing for human responses.

RG89 · 01/08/2026 19:06

For me it's a more information needed. Can OP just nip into a shop, grab what they need, pay and straight back out, in which case they're NBU, or are they a browser who will get easily distracted and a 10 minute nip in turns into an hours shop, in which case they are BU. My sister and mum are the second so I always dreaded when they spotted a shop when we were supposed to be somewhere else! I hate shopping so will just run in and back out, preferably on click and collect.

CheekyDeer · 01/08/2026 19:05

I am sorry to say this there is no way I would let any man tell me what I can spend my money 👎👎

AmbeeBambee · 01/08/2026 18:55

inkyspells · 26/07/2026 10:57

Today me and my OH are going for drinks and food in a city around 30 mins train from our city.
I am at a concert on Friday and there’s a shop that has a top I’m looking for (we don’t have the shop in our city ) I plan on wearing it for the concert.
I checked and it’s in stock
So I said I’m just gonna pop in and grab it
He said “no we aren’t shopping today ,your off work all week ,go and get it another day “
I told him I know we aren’t shopping ,I just want this specific top.
Im literally walking past the shop to get to the area with the pubs.
So now I’m gonna have to go back tomorrow (1 hour travel there and back ,plus another train fare”

Aibu to be a bit annoyed ?
I asked him again and he went in a mood so I just said fine il go another day.

Erm. Does he own you, are you his posession? You could have popped in and met him 5 minutes later! f

ImpossibleGermany · 01/08/2026 18:44

inkyspells · 26/07/2026 11:00

He hates shopping ,so anytime I suggest any sort of shops ,he kicks off

Right. He doesn't sound very nice. He doesn't need to 'like' shopping to co-operate with you on this for ten measly minutes out of his life, the selfish dick.

MrsO2b · 01/08/2026 18:39

inkyspells · 26/07/2026 10:57

Today me and my OH are going for drinks and food in a city around 30 mins train from our city.
I am at a concert on Friday and there’s a shop that has a top I’m looking for (we don’t have the shop in our city ) I plan on wearing it for the concert.
I checked and it’s in stock
So I said I’m just gonna pop in and grab it
He said “no we aren’t shopping today ,your off work all week ,go and get it another day “
I told him I know we aren’t shopping ,I just want this specific top.
Im literally walking past the shop to get to the area with the pubs.
So now I’m gonna have to go back tomorrow (1 hour travel there and back ,plus another train fare”

Aibu to be a bit annoyed ?
I asked him again and he went in a mood so I just said fine il go another day.

You asked? Why do you need to ask his permission? You should have just told him you were going there! What an arse!