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Husband …we are not shopping today ..Aibu ?

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inkyspells · 26/07/2026 10:57

Today me and my OH are going for drinks and food in a city around 30 mins train from our city.
I am at a concert on Friday and there’s a shop that has a top I’m looking for (we don’t have the shop in our city ) I plan on wearing it for the concert.
I checked and it’s in stock
So I said I’m just gonna pop in and grab it
He said “no we aren’t shopping today ,your off work all week ,go and get it another day “
I told him I know we aren’t shopping ,I just want this specific top.
Im literally walking past the shop to get to the area with the pubs.
So now I’m gonna have to go back tomorrow (1 hour travel there and back ,plus another train fare”

Aibu to be a bit annoyed ?
I asked him again and he went in a mood so I just said fine il go another day.

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ReneesBigMole · 26/07/2026 11:05

I accidentally voted YABU, but I meant for listening to him and not just going and getting your top.

arethereanyleftatall · 26/07/2026 11:05

You need to explain a bit more op why it’s relevant what he thinks. He doesn’t have to go in the shop surely. No one will know why you are not able to go to the shop yourself and meet him at the pub if you don’t tell us. None of this is how normal couples behave.

notatinydancer · 26/07/2026 11:03

Just TELL him you’re going to get the top. He can wait in the pub or outside. You’re not seriously thinking about going back another day?

GoodbyeZebedee · 26/07/2026 11:03

inkyspells · 26/07/2026 11:00

He hates shopping ,so anytime I suggest any sort of shops ,he kicks off

Can he not wait outside and scroll his phone for 10 minutes. Or go to wherever you’re going after and you’ll catch him up? He doesn’t have to love shopping, he doesn’t have to go?

Duvetdayneeded · 26/07/2026 11:03

Sorry, but when you walk past the shop, you need just to go in there and get the top. You’ll be absolutely idiotic idiotic to bow down to him when it’s this level of stupidity and coerciveness.

OriginalSkang · 26/07/2026 11:01

Just do it anyway anyway?

Fluffyscrubberdo · 26/07/2026 11:00

My DH would never do this.

I honestly think it shows he doesn’t really respect you, the shop is right there, the town is a significant journey so it logically makes sense to do it rather than another day.

inkyspells · 26/07/2026 11:00

He hates shopping ,so anytime I suggest any sort of shops ,he kicks off

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Loulou4022 · 26/07/2026 11:00

Or go get him settled in the pub and then nip out!

Error404FucksNotFound · 26/07/2026 11:00

Get the top. Its a quick in and out. He is being ridiculous to insist you make another trip.
Tell him you will meet him in the pub.

Cuppachuchu · 26/07/2026 10:59

Just pop in there on the way. Is he usually so domineering?

OnlyOneAdda · 26/07/2026 10:59

What a controlling dick. YANBU…HE is BU and I think you should carefully consider whether you want to be with someone that a) you have to ask permission to go in a shop and b) would make such a sulky big deal over you taking 5mins to do something

MyNeedyLilacBird · 26/07/2026 10:59

I'd be stopping to get the top. He's not the boss of you

Loulou4022 · 26/07/2026 10:59

“I’m not asking! I’m telling” I’m just nipping in to grab this top I won’t be 10 minutes, love you, bye

GoodbyeZebedee · 26/07/2026 10:58

You don’t have to agree with him? You could just go in quickly and if he’s in a mood, bad luck him. Is he normally controlling?

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