Husband …we are not shopping today ..Aibu ?

I mean, he's not wrong there. Shopping should be done on your own - it is not and never has been a leisure activity..

did I mention I own a shop

I’m a solo shopper, I hate shopping with other people. Just tell him you’re going in, and he can meet you at the next stop/pub shortly.

Just realised what you mean… why does OP keeps posting and has not left this guy yet?

What do you mean, 'kicks off'? Shouting, sulking, anger, gets physical?

Honestly, OP, none of that is okay. A normal person who didn't want to go into the shop would be like, no worries, I'll carry on and wait for you at the pub.

He sounds fucking horrible.

Are you married? kids? If no to both, just dump him now and end this misery.

If yes to either, it's more complicated, but still doable. You don't have to live like this.

Let him
Who the hell does he think he is?
I would laugh if my DH told me I wasnt shopping

He doesn't have to come in with you. Send him on the the pub and get the top. I can't believe that you'd rather make another trip for the 10 mins it will take you. Your husband is totally unreasonable and you should stand up for yourself. Please!

You've posted so many times about this absolute bellend. Why are you still with him?

Oh, it's you. Again.

Who died and made him boss?

Fair enough if you’d said “I’d like to spend the afternoon browsing the shops” and he didn’t want to do that. But one shop for a specific item? He needs to get a grip.

You are very unreasonable to accept your (D)H telling you what you can and cannot do. Just go get your top, you ard not his child!

You are being unreasonable because no one would tell me what I can and can’t do. Go in and buy the top and if he sulks leave him to it

Do you have form for this OP, i.e wanting to go shopping when you are visiting somewhere for a different purpose? I could see this as being annoying if that was the case, however if this is a one off and you were genuinely going to be in/out within 10 mins, then I don't see it as a big issue and sounds controlling.

You're allowing him to stop you doing this?

Yes, there is a back story @NotAnotherScarf, I didn’t notice the user name when I posted. It’s a ridiculous relationship where they don’t actually like each other at all. The op was warned not to marry him ages ago, and still did.

Goodness, I don't think my DH would entertain the thought of telling me what I can and can't do in this way.

Controlling behaviour.

Let him then. Doesn't mean you have to give in and do as he says though does it?

Is he always so controlling? I absolutely HATE shopping but someone nipping in to grab something in a shop wer walking past wouldn't bother me at all or wanting to look in a shop in general. He's not the boss of you.

@inkyspells - you’re a grown adult, you don’t need someone with you to go into a shop! Just leave him at the pub and do what you want to do.

Longer term it’s worrying that you live in a situation where your husband gets to veto your activities for no good reason. Needs thinking about …

But you are not asking him to go, he is "kicking off" because he wants you to.do what you to do what you are told.

But is there a back story her. Is the op like me...has to look at everything in the shop, has to go from shop to shop just looking. Then I go back to the very first thing i looked at. Has he had enough of being dragged around the shops. Does he know it will be "oh lets just look in M and S" My wife has she refuses to shop with me now.

Plus the op will be carrying at least 2 bags everywhere....getting in the way in the. small restaurant, banging against him constantly and resentful looks suggesting he carries it....

WTF? Just go and get what you want from the shop on your way past, get him to text you what pub he’s at so you can meet him there literally 5 minutes after he’s got there.
What a bizarre dynamic.
Neither myself nor dh are ‘shoppers’, he goes twice a year to one shop and buys his summer stuff and then some winter stuff and other than that he doesn’t set foot in a clothes shop for himself (he does take ds shopping for his stuff as and when he needs clothes). I do most of mine online. We had a weekend away recently, I wanted to check out a couple of shops there and try on a few bits, he said he’d meet me down by the river as he wanted to look at… I don’t know, boats or fish or something? Whatever, we were both happy, reunited at the river half an hour later and went to the pub, no drama.

I intentionally voted YABU for the same reason - just buy the bloody top!

He doesn't have to go in the shop with you, he can sit in the pub.

Actually, I recognise this poster. Weekly posts about this ridiculous relationship between two people who don’t even like each other.