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AIBU to ask for practical ways to feel better today?

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Fedddup · 25/07/2026 08:49

I’m really stuck in life. I have a cold husband who doesn’t care about my feelings, does nothing around the home, doesn’t really do anything to help with DD. I have no friends, actually I don’t know if that statement is true as I know lots of people but not sure if they my friends - we go for coffee and occasionally drinks. I have siblings but due to childhood SA I have drifted from them as they still talk to my abuser and act like it’s no big deal.

Ive been slowly putting on weight. t’s so hot but I’m wearing jeans and the thought of putting on a dress fills me with anxiety.

before people say leave DH obviously I will at some point but leaving right now I can’t cope with and will put me in a suicidal mind frame as how will I cope with moving out (it’s his home, in his name and his parents bought for him when he was younger) so please try to understand this when giving advice as I have no where to go. Can I have practical tips on how today I can feel better

OP posts:
Mullaghanish · 25/07/2026 08:59

go for a drink with your husband? You don’t have to talk? Play scrabble or something when you are there?

greenjojocat · 25/07/2026 08:56

Think of one small thing that you can do, for example take yourself (and DD if needed) out for an ice cream, find some floaty wide leg trousers to buy, or reach out to one of your friends (you will have many!) and set up a meet for the future, or just start up a conversation.

If you can do one small thing each day you’ll build up the confidence to do the big thing that you know you need to do. 💐

Fedddup · 25/07/2026 08:54

Blueseudeshoes · 25/07/2026 08:52

Take a cold and flu capsule, get washed & dressed and go out ALONE for the day, let him care for your DD, have a coffee somewhere and read a book! Take yourself out of the situation for even a temporary fix while you focus on yourself.

in the long run of course you know what you need to do, but for today do a few small things to make yourself feel better again

Thank you @Blueseudeshoes it made me laugh you said take a cold and flu tablet - I don’t have a cold but I can see I wrote cold on the OP! I meant my husband is very unloving and a cold person x

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Blueseudeshoes · 25/07/2026 08:52

Take a cold and flu capsule, get washed & dressed and go out ALONE for the day, let him care for your DD, have a coffee somewhere and read a book! Take yourself out of the situation for even a temporary fix while you focus on yourself.

in the long run of course you know what you need to do, but for today do a few small things to make yourself feel better again

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