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Another weekend and another drunken DP ‘performance’

562 replies

Heatwavefry · 25/07/2026 08:13

I’ve had very broken sleep so I apologise in advance for any grammatical errors!!

There has been a trend over about a year now of DP going out once a month with friends and getting hammered, his behaviour when returning home has increasingly worsened though. We don’t live together but when he goes out he usually comes back to mine to stay for the weekend as I live centrally close to where the pubs are.

Last night, he returns about 1am and wakes me up asking if I can ‘see to him’. I say no and go back to sleep, he says he will sort himself out.

I hear loads of crashing about so am woken at least twice, and he says he’s sleeping on the sofa. After yet more noise, I go into the living room and he’s naked, there’s a massive wet patch on my sofa, which he said is because he ‘sorted himself out’ - he was still pissed at this point.

I go ballistic and tell him I want him gone first thing. He’s still on the sofa now. I am not overreacting here am I?! It’s my flat which I worked hard to afford and he treats it like this.

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UpDownAllAround1 · 25/07/2026 08:20

Take the key off him

Bristolandlazy · 25/07/2026 08:20

This post can't be real, seriously? Why would you even ask that, of course it's not acceptable. If it's true it's easily avoided. Dump him or at very least don't allow him to stay with you after drinking.

MsIceSandwich · 25/07/2026 08:20

Soulhorse · 25/07/2026 08:18

So he gets so drunk he pisses himself? Dump.

It's not pee, he's got cum on her sofa.

CharlotteStreetW1 · 25/07/2026 08:20

Soulhorse · 25/07/2026 08:18

So he gets so drunk he pisses himself? Dump.

Re-read the OP 😬

Soulhorse · 25/07/2026 08:18

So he gets so drunk he pisses himself? Dump.

ExplodingSmittens · 25/07/2026 08:18

I think you’re under reacting personally. All of this he has a choice in. He chose to get so drunk, he chose to stay at yours, he chose to do that to your sofa and not clean it up. I thought you were going to say that you’d kicked him out last night.

Evaka · 25/07/2026 08:18

Wake him up and calmly tell him it's over and to leave. How dare he use your hard earned home as a doss house and then jizz on your sofa. What a lowlife.

BMW58 · 25/07/2026 08:17

Ewwwww

MsIceSandwich · 25/07/2026 08:17

Wake him up and tell him to leave, make sure he leaves the key, dump him by text later.

Globules · 25/07/2026 08:17

Of course you're not overreacting. That is awful behaviour.

Are you sure it's ejaculate, or is it urine?

How long have you been together? Where do you see this relationship going? If you want to move in together at some point, then I'd rethink it. If he's a lovely man who's a twat when he's pissed, then just don't let him in when he's pissed.

pointythings · 25/07/2026 08:15

If you want to stay together (and I can't see why you would), he is now banned from coming to yours after his piss ups. Lock him out. He can be disgusting in his own place.

lulujuju · 25/07/2026 08:15

No of course you’re not overreacting! I would throw him out permanently!