Another weekend and another drunken DP ‘performance’

I mean, just why?

why is being with a bloke so so important that you’d put up with this revolting entitled behaviour? I don’t get it.

assuming he’s absolutely wonderful the rest of the time, here’s what I’d do ‘No, you can’t stay here, you wake me up, are deeply unpleasant, and cum on my sofa. No thanks.’

regards to your friend who thinks this is funny, tell her to raise her bar.

well the other friend is welcome to him!

Would she think it was funny if it was her sofa?

And anyway some women’s bar is in the gutter. Don’t listen to her. Imagine this and having to be doing all the childcare while he sleeps off his hangover and you have to avoid the children getting his cum on their hands. It’s so grim.

take his key off him and kick him out TODAY

Your friend has revoltingly low standards. Would she like his mess on her furniture?

Eeeuuuggh! Get rid of the wank stain and the wankertron

How could you possibly consider a future with this man. You really need look up instead of down. Take his key, show him the door which will never be open to him again.

It's you again, isn't it, OP? The one with the utter cunt of a partner who's already done all kinds of utterly disrespectful stuff that's shows he DGAF at all about you. Why are you still with him, where's your respect for yourself to continue letting him treat you like this? Go through his pockets/wallet, take any cash towards sofa cleaning/new sofa preferably if there's enough (he can have the spunky one, disgusting cretin). Don't bother with the row, just don't mention it and let him think he spent it whilst drinking. Then block him! I don't care even if you're pig ugly with the personality of a dead worm, you can still do better than him OP.

Don't give him chances to change. He doesn't need changes to change. You don't want a project, you want a MAN, a fully formed adult with a basic respect for his own species. If that's not what he is now at his age, he's never going to be it. Don't get caught in the cycle of endless "second chances". A second chance only comes once, after that it's just a pattern of him disrespecting you and you accepting it.

Gross. Get rid!

Ew thats disgusting. Get rid!!

I think it's easy to question why the OP is with him but if you love someone and this isn't who they are all the time, it's easy to let things like this go. I did so I understand it.

BUT I ignored those things at my peril & looking back I wish I hadn't. Back in those days people didn't really talk about red flags but this is a massive one & it will get worse and it will affect your life, OP, if you stay with him & he doesn't change.

You need to have a long talk with him, lay your cards on the table, and be prepared to walk if things don't change & change quickly.

Is this the first time there has been the pissing/jizzing on the sofa? Is this the opportunity for a 'come to Jesus' conversation about his behaviour and that if it ever happens again that you are done (and mean it)? I would be including the regular excess alcohol abuse in that conversation.

He should replace your sofa too.

The alternative is jump straight to dumping him.

I agree. He is using her sadly. I wouldn't want him turning up late at night pissed once a month.
This will only get worse if you move in together.

I don't see this relationship working out due to his lack of respect.

He won't be mortified at all. I would be very surprised if he was capable of "sorting himself out" in that state so I suspect he's peed your couch. Either way he's disgusting . Your choice.

Jesus Christ he’s revolting. I couldn’t bear to be around a man like that. Pestering you sex and soiling your property? Absolutely do not move in with him and get rid.

FFS don't do that he's a wanker literally
Gets pissed comes to yours cums on the sofa.
Get rid he's an idiot.

Ugh. What an unfortunate specimen of mankind. Tell him to fuck off forever.

Get rid but not before taking the key and checking his wallet to pay for a steam clean. I’d be tempted to throw the whole thing in a bush and give him the wake up call he so obviously needs. (Aside from being dumped that is). “Oh, I don’t remember, I was drunk!”

I voted 'unreasonable'. This is who he is, this is what he does, and you welcome him into your home 'because I live centrally close to where the pubs are'. In other words, because it is convenient for him. It is within your power to stop this, but will you? You must be getting something you need out of this.

Disgusting. I wouldn't allow that to happen again

I think you have answered for yourself @Heatwavefry

He is making you annoyed.. angry even... and disturbing you and poss even giving you the ick. You don't need our opinions - get rid of him as he's not right for you x x

This!

Why do keep allowing him to stay in your home when he's out on his drunken benders? What's the old saying? "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice..."...

Or better yet: what keeps you with this man? I genuinely couldn't be attracted to this drunken mess of a "man". Just, yuck...adult "men" pissing themselves, I couldn't respect or be attracted to this...

Some women are so desperate to be in a relationship that they will tolerate the worst behaviour from a man.

Not ridiculous, just have standards. Enjoy your crusty cum couch that stinks of piss when there’s a couple of kids later down the line. After all, it’s just a bit of giggles 🤢.

The shit people say on here, honestly.