Another weekend and another drunken DP ‘performance’

@Heatwavefry , you'd better go get a bunch of pee pads and a couple waterproof mattress covers for your bed and other furniture covers asap. He thinks your place is Cum Piss in my Alley and since he acts like an untrained dog, be ready with the poop scoop too.

You realize he's likely an alcoholic who's been binge drinking and it's getting worse.

People treat you how you allow them.

You need to raise your bar if a Sunday roast repays his behaviour, especially as it's not the first time and he has the choice to go home rather than disturb you.

So…don’t comment or engage? The fact that people have returned to the thread to stick the boot into the op and try to shame her says loads more about them than her. It’s really not a good look.

I thought you weren’t married or even living together. Why do you have to get your ducks in order? Just change the locks.

This. Al-anon is a great shout. I wonder whether OP has a parent with a drink problem which might explain the relatively relaxed attitude towards behaviour others find appalling. OP please ignore the unkind comments, but take the hint that you are worth so much more than this.

He’s playing you like a violin. He is disgustingly and disrespectful. He has shown you exactly who he is. You’re accepting it. He has permission to continue, and it will almost certainly get worse.

Actions do speak louder than words. You can talk at him all you want but your actions ( being bought off by a roast dinner ) tell him all he needs to know. The next time he comes back pissed and disturbing your sleep you’ll tell yourself it’s better if he doesn’t wank ( or piss )all over your couch. That’s how it goes.

Try to find some self respect.

I absolutely guarantee he will do this again.
You really should have dumped him.
You deserve so much better.

@Heatwavefry my concern from your thread title and your OP is that this guy is an alcoholic. This kind of behaviour is really not normal on a regular basis. Can I suggest that you speak to Al-anon who support the families of alcoholics or at least read up about binge drinking and how it is a form of alcoholism.

You may think people are being harsh but we really just don’t want you wasting your life on someone who will always prioritise alcohol over you.

Are you desperate for a man?

This.

Amends would be to replace your sofa, then leave and not come back.

Imagine buying the jizz sofa second hand?
I cannot understand why a woman in her 30’s, clearly has built a life for herself, would put up with this? I can understand that for all sorts of reasons women become trapped, but this woman isn’t?
She has actively chosen this man, he now really knows he can pull these stunts and get away with them.

What an embarrassing read. Imagine accepting a jizz covered sofa for a roast dinner. Your standards are low.

This has been happening for a year now, yeah people just can’t be arsed with the same crap over and over 😅

It is ok, she can be a sex slave and continue cleaning jizz off her furniture because she’s getting a roast out of it after. 😬

Theres no need to lay into the op because she’s decided to stay with him. Ultimately this is her life. She knows the relationship and the man better than anyone here could. His behaviour was abysmal but hopefully it won’t happen again. People get way too over invested on these threads and seem to take it as a personal insult that the op hasn’t followed the advice of a bunch of internet strangers. If you don’t agree with her choice that’s fine but to come back with snidey comments is rude and unnecessary.

That is disgraceful and so disrespectful. I would LTB . To do that in someone’s home is revolting you deserve better.

So all he has to do is book a meal out and you accept and round you go again. At this point you’re causing your own pain by not dumping him. Get rid.

You’ll do whatever makes you happy, as you should, we are after all strangers on the internet with an opinion.
But unless he’s popped back with flowers, a humble apology and a date for getting your soda professionally cleaned, I’d be doubtful a riot act worked

Gross

Let’s just fast forward a couple of hours when it transpires that the OP misunderstood and it wasn’t that kind of roast he was suggesting.. 🙄

You have a low bar Op.

All you've taught him is he can act like a drunken degenerate and ruin your nice things and all you'll do is rant a little at him and it costs him a dinner that he'll eat.

This is already a pattern. Of course it will happen again. This guy has no respect for you or your things. If you move in, you'll never be able to have anything nice because he'll wreck it. Or you'll have his body fluids all over your home and furniture, your house will smell like a back alley, and you'll be embarrassed to invite anyone over.

If you don't respect yourself, he sure won't.

Crikey he must think your a complete fool, what he did was disgusting and disrespectful but a pub roast offered and all is forgiven. Good luck, I think you might need it.

Why did you start this thread @Heatwavefry ?

It sounds like it's a reverse boast to say how badly a man treats you and how much you're prepared to put up with it.

you must be.absolutely.desperate