Hate my friend's boyfriend

Well it is indeed weird obsession. Very definitely. It would have me wondering if he's a bit of a psychopath tbh. Whatever's going on it's odd.

Don't see the problem if people post themselves things anyhow...my problem would be if he said he searched porn or stuff lol

I don’t agree with the content he chooses to watch. However I do think that you need to decide what side of the fence you are on.

I very strongly disliked my best friend’s partner for different reasons but in order to keep our friendship going I had to bite my tongue and ignore certain things I didn’t agree with.

I picked and chose how much to see them together and somehow had to find a balance of not letting her know how a truly felt as I still really valued her her as a friend - he was her only Achilles heel and the rest of her was still great.

I did question if it came down to a choice then if she would choose our friendship but I just chose not to spend much time in his company but not in an obvious way and became a friend of the relationship whereas lots of others didn’t. He wasn’t doing anything abusive, just had string views on a few things that I didn’t agree with.

It’s hard but I think you have to try and step outside your own views and think about how much you value your friendship with her separately from his content preferences.

If he liked this kind of thing then no doubt there will be some other knobbish behaviours that will come to the surface soon and she’ll see what a dick he is if she is normally a good judge of character. She’ll need you to be there to pick up the pieces. I do get it though.

Did he think he was being quirky funny?

Honestly, as a former death worker, he may just be trying to understand how people die. Way to many people are distant from the reality of death and dying. I may raise an eyebrow at the comment but I wouldn't think much of it.

This is pretty weird. Is he frightened of death or does he get off on it? It's definitely not normal. I wonder why your friend is ok with this. Odd.

Technically not doing any harm, I guess?? People knowingly post publicly, it’s no secret that anyone can view. But yeah my gut reaction is the same as yours, that’s absolutely vile. Trying to find any way this wouldn’t creep me out… maybe if he’d said it helped him to appreciate life and make the most of every day? Or it’s good to see how much love there is in the world when he reads the memorial posts? It’s not easy to find a positive spin imo, instinctively it feels inappropriate and invasive and gross.

Fuck me! That’s grim. I’m baffled by this one. Oh dear.