Two weeks ago I found out my husband of 12 years has been having sex with a woman while I am at my chemotherapy appointments and sexting/meeting up with multiple others.
Things hadn’t been great between us since my diagnosis, he declared himself single 2 days after I returned home from mayor surgery lasting 10 hours. I was diagnosed with cancer 7 months ago and I’m still in active treatment.
We lived together and he told these women he lived in an apartment and that we were going through a divorce (untrue). I exposed his betrayal and infidelity and now he’s angry that I did that and says he won’t forgive ME. (Deflection)
I managed to do some digging, found out everything including him coming to pick me up from the hospital directly after being with one of the women.
He eventually moved out after my family had to persuade him and now he keeps saying I am being unfair expecting him to pay the mortgage for a house he doesn’t live in leaving him unable to afford somewhere of his own and that we should sell.
I'm not in a position to pay it myself, have two young children who I also don’t want to uproot and move.
Selling and moving to god knows where doesn’t feel fair to me right now given he’s the one that broke up the family.
I also paid for the deposit to buy this house sacrificing the savings I could have used for a career.
Left as a single mom with cancer. He hasn’t apologised or shown any remorse either.