AIBU for snapping at my friend over endless EastEnders talk?

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PeachesComeFromACan · 24/07/2026 19:48

I have a friend who has a tendency to go on and on about the TV programs she watches. Lately the worst one has been eastenders. She rattles on about every story line, every character, recites lines etc etc and I don’t know who any of the characters are as I don’t watch it!

Last time we met up I swear to god she went on and on about that weeks eastenders for almost an hour. I kept trying to change the subject, kept deliberately acting bored etc etc … she doesn’t notice

She messaged this morning asking if I fancied meeting up and I was reluctant as I’m in a bit of an unstable mood anyway and after the hour long transcript last time I didn’t know if I could deal with it but she suggested she was feeling a bit down and I’m a sucker so went.

Got to coffee shop, literally as soon as I sat down she asked if I’d watched eastenders this week. I said “nope, I’ve told you I don’t watch it” so she said “ok you have a lot to catch up on …” she then started on about it so I said “let me stop you there, I don’t watch it so I have no idea who you’re on about”. So she started trying to explain who is who and I just snapped and said “I don’t care! I don’t watch it! I have no interest in it! I did try to tell you this last time!”

long story short she went really quiet, we cut the meeting short and I’ve not heard from her since. She’s not replied to my text either which is unusual.

I was out of order wasn’t I? 🤦‍♀️😞 just wish I’d never agreed to go today

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Propagandalf · 24/07/2026 20:40

That kind of talk, one-sided et al reminds me of those who bang on about their pronouns. Conversation and being friends is meant to go both ways.

As@AgentPidgesaid, 2nd post down, it's all about her, not you.

Iocanepowder · 24/07/2026 20:08

It’s quite possible she is lonely IRL so fixates on fiction.

Don’t worry about it. Maybe suggest she joins some online soap forums etc. But if she doesn’t get the message that you’re not interested in Eastenders then yeah the friendship has likely come to an end.

AnonymityAnonymity · 24/07/2026 20:04

I don't know how you have put up with talk about TV programmes for as long as you have OP. I hardly watch TV and listening to some one banging on about soaps which I have made a deliberate decision not to watch and have no interest in would just drive me mad.

If she is offended then so be it because if you have got to the stage where you actually want to avoid her company because of the drivel she talks then perhaps the friendship has come to it's natural end.

HelenaWilson · 24/07/2026 20:01

She’s weird for talking about the soaps like real life

Even if it was real life, op wouldn't want to sit and listen to friend going on endlessly about a lot of people she doesn't know.

cannibalfish · 24/07/2026 19:57

I think you’re both unreasonable but in a normal, inoffensive way like everyone is sometimes. It’s not a big deal, ideally you’d both apologise and move on.

She’s weird for talking about the soaps like real life and you’re too tetchy to have a polite conversation but if you’re generally good friends I think this is fine.

AgentPidge · 24/07/2026 19:55

Of course YANBU! It's incredibly self-centred to not notice that you're boring someone to death. Conversations are supposed to be two-way. You're a saint for being so patient with her. Maybe she's got the message now you've finally snapped? I would probably give her another chance. Have some topics ready that you want to discuss/questions to ask her. If she hasn't got the message and drones on, I'd get up and leave. Life's too short!

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