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Letter from HA about loud music?

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autumnbeee · 24/07/2026 19:37

So basically I received a letter from my HA about loud music causing a disturbance to other residents here.

I am the only one who received it.

I suspect my NDN reported me as I don't think who else it could be?

Surely they could have just left a polite note or approached me?

I assume this will be on my file now?

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TheThirteenthFairy · 26/07/2026 08:55

PrettyLittleRose · 24/07/2026 20:13

This. ^ It's extremely arrogant to assume that everyone wants to hear YOUR music.

Years ago I had a next door neighbour who used to put her speakers outside and play Tom Jones and Engelbert Whatever most afternoons and evenings. We'd get The Green Green Grass Of Home on repeat. And yes we complained to the HA and in due course she was evicted.

TheThirteenthFairy · 26/07/2026 08:33

autumnbeee · 24/07/2026 19:42

On my HA file if I ever require a landlord reference from them?

I do play music in the garden at times but surely if it was a nuisance they could have asked me via the neighbours hood WhatsApp group/ Facebook group?

'if it was a nuisance'? Jesus fucking Christ. Of course it was a nuisance You knew you were disturbing other people but didn't care. Nobody's going to pop round and ask you to turn it off because you've demonstrated, by playing it, that you don't give a toss about your neighbours.

Stressedout150 · 26/07/2026 08:18

Ugh neighbours who play music in the garden, honestly no one wants to be forced to listen to your shitty music when trying to enjoy peace and quiet in their garden.

good on your neighbour for doing something about it, in future don’t be so sodding selfish.

Theseventhmagpie · 26/07/2026 08:00

Of course it means something. The HA will keep records of all anti-social behaviour in case evidence is needed for possession proceedings based on anti-social behaviour.

Sartre · 26/07/2026 07:33

Nobody else wants to hear your shitty music, that’s the issue. Put AirPods in like reasonable people or play it at a reasonable volume in your own home. There’s no excuse to blast it outside for everyone else to hear. I’ve also noticed no one is ever blasting a bit of Brahms or Chopin, it’s always shitty tinny D&B or chart music.

Sennelier1 · 26/07/2026 07:30

Someone recently invented this newfangled contraption, it's called headphones. Maybe try and use them for your choice of music, especially outside in the garden.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 26/07/2026 03:26

Take it as a warning and buy headphones. Try not be annoyed with your neighbour, it’s not always easy to face a neighbour over loud music or other noisy irritations. It would be easier all round if you try build a better relationship and her, if she’s half okay.
I doubt a letter will give you a mark on your tenancy.

T1Dmama · 26/07/2026 03:24

autumnbeee · 24/07/2026 20:34

I asked my other neighbour and mentioned it on the WhatsApp chat and only I received it.

It was an advisory letter about keeping it down and that the lyrics were found to be offensive due to young children in the area.

If it isn’t written as a formal warning then no it will not be recorded on your file as something that could affect your future prospects for housing

T1Dmama · 26/07/2026 03:19

autumnbeee · 24/07/2026 19:42

On my HA file if I ever require a landlord reference from them?

I do play music in the garden at times but surely if it was a nuisance they could have asked me via the neighbours hood WhatsApp group/ Facebook group?

Is the letter just a polite reminder to consider our neighbours and turn the music down or is it written as a first warning ?
ifni remember correctly from when I worked for a HA, warning letters stayed on file for 6 months.

Mirox1414 · 26/07/2026 02:48

autumnbeee · 24/07/2026 19:37

So basically I received a letter from my HA about loud music causing a disturbance to other residents here.

I am the only one who received it.

I suspect my NDN reported me as I don't think who else it could be?

Surely they could have just left a polite note or approached me?

I assume this will be on my file now?

I'm a housing officer and get noise complaints through all the time. This will definitely be on your file now, further reports can result in tenancy enforcement action being taken against you. Your neighbour definitely could have tried coming and speaking to you about it, we always encourage that as it saves on paperwork tbh

Duchesscheshire · 26/07/2026 02:24

PeachesComeFromACan · 24/07/2026 19:53

God I hate people who play music in the garden, why would you assume that everyone else will be ok with having your choice of music forced on them?

Edited

Excactly. We have a neighbour who seems to think her choice of abba and 80s music is what we all like to listen to. I want peace in my garden and wear headphones when listening to my dodgy taste.

Tryagain26 · 25/07/2026 22:33

autumnbeee · 24/07/2026 23:09

Yes the music has been kept low now.

When my boyfriend came over the other day he tried to put it up and I turned it back down immediately.

I honestly didn't mean to annoy anyone.

Did it not occur to you that loud music in the garden when you have close neighbours especially music with offensive language wouldn't offend people ?
When you say you have turned it down now, can it still be heard by your neighbours? If so it is still too loud.

Lovely13 · 25/07/2026 21:16

Keep your music to yourself! No one else wants to hear it, not on public transport, gardens.

TunnocksOrDeath · 25/07/2026 21:07

CombatBarbie · 24/07/2026 20:08

Oh behave, so we are only allowed in our gardens in silence. Id much rather listen to radio or music than a relentless barking dog.

Both of those things are annoying and inconsiderate. One being less-bad than the other doesn’t make it ok.

LakieLady · 25/07/2026 21:03

autumnbeee · 24/07/2026 20:34

I asked my other neighbour and mentioned it on the WhatsApp chat and only I received it.

It was an advisory letter about keeping it down and that the lyrics were found to be offensive due to young children in the area.

Loud and offensive? I'm not surprised someone complained.

The letter and a note of the complaint will be on your file now, and could be used as evidence of noise nuisance/ASB if there are repeated complaints. (Used to work for an HA.)

TheTruthWillSetYouFreeMaybe · 25/07/2026 20:34

i have NDNs ( we are semi detached). I love my music, but they play theirs very loud - any day of the week or weekend and often late. Indoors and outdoors. In this heat we have to close the windows but even then it booms thru the house. I am scared to say anything . We only moved in 5 months ago and it’s already getting me down. Just because one house likes loud music, doesn’t mean everyone else wants to hear it.

NCForOneNightOnly · 25/07/2026 20:06

autumnbeee · 24/07/2026 19:42

On my HA file if I ever require a landlord reference from them?

I do play music in the garden at times but surely if it was a nuisance they could have asked me via the neighbours hood WhatsApp group/ Facebook group?

If you had more self awareness, they wouldn’t need to ask you.

BurtsBeefCrisps · 25/07/2026 20:03

I have just left the beach (have hired a very expensive beach hut to help with my arthritis rather than lugging stuff around like I normally do), because of a d@clhead family playing shitty music. I have also emailed the council (who organise the beach huts), I don’t mind confrontation but theres loads of them and I know they won’t take kindly to being asked to turn it off. I wanted the sound of the sea, not shitty techno. God I hate people sometimes, its definitely a generational thing, I would never dream of imposing music on everyone around me. YABU!!!

PetuniaT · 25/07/2026 19:24

Teenagerantruns · 24/07/2026 19:39

Turn the music down?

This! Did you really need to be told? YABU

Namechangingregularly · 25/07/2026 19:16

Thegirlwhowent · 25/07/2026 07:51

Don't play music in the garden, or if you do, wear earphones. Other people have different tastes in music and you are inflicting yours in everybody rlse. Music outside means that nobody else is able to enjoy some peace and quiet outdoors.

I had this for one day recently. About 12 hours of loud music in the garden next door during the heatwave. It was awful. But a one off thank goodness. I’d never do it to anyone else and I love music. I have headphones. Everyone is entitled to enjoy their own homes and fresh air and peace.

Itsalittlebitwarm · 25/07/2026 19:05

At this moment someone is playing loud music in their garden and it's bloody awful! Very selfish and unfair to make neighbours miserable 😑 when we just want to sit out and have aome peace after a long hard week.

You don't know what they're like to approach, could retaliate, so safest option is reporting. Seriously thinking about it but would try with a letter first.

VeneziaJ · 25/07/2026 18:50

PeachesComeFromACan · 24/07/2026 19:53

God I hate people who play music in the garden, why would you assume that everyone else will be ok with having your choice of music forced on them?

Edited

I also hate having other peoples thumping music blaring from their open car windows. Just because you like R&B or rap at volume doesn’t mean I do 😒

MMAS · 25/07/2026 18:34

Nope given your last comment. It is highly unlikely it was your NDN, more likely coming from within the block itself and came from numerous residents. It sounds very much like you are the neighbour from hell.

thestudio · 25/07/2026 18:18

SpaceRaccoon · 25/07/2026 09:54

You know why you weren't approached? Because people who are antisocial enough to play loud music with offensive lyrics in a terraced garden generally don't take well to a conversation, and if anything, escalate their behaviour.

Which is exactly what happened with your boyfriend's actions - he obviously reflects on you.

@FaceIt asked upthread were you not taught to consider other people - I'm genuinely interested in your response here.

And @LilyBunch25 said the problem was with the offensiveness of the lyrics. It's not - it's being forced to listen to someone else's choice of music in your own garden, so you basically can't use it unless you accept that they control your garden. The offensive lyrics are just the icing on the cake.

Laura95167 · 25/07/2026 18:16

autumnbeee · 24/07/2026 19:42

On my HA file if I ever require a landlord reference from them?

I do play music in the garden at times but surely if it was a nuisance they could have asked me via the neighbours hood WhatsApp group/ Facebook group?

Or you could have had a degree of self awareness and worn headphones instead of subjecting neighbours to your music taste