Soooo fed up of having to sleep on thr floor in my toddler’s room

Get him in a proper bed so you can lay on it with him.
As frustrating as it is, remember this is a phase and you just need to get back into the swing of things. Have a look at naps, maybe a they are too long or too late.
Hope it improves soon for you

@Fluffyscrubberlots of parents (me included) would react like this. Everyone is different as to how much sleep they need and how they react if they don’t get it.

Hell would freeze over before I would be sleeping on a yoga mat in my kid’s bedroom. Time to engage in a period of sleep training and returning him to his bed consistently until he learns.

Parents are in charge.

Your reaction is quite extreme for such a short period of rubbish sleep. You’re luckily he went down easily and slept for 12 hours so so long, that’s fairly rare. All sorts of things can bother them, molar teething, growing pains, feeling anxious. It’s all just an up and down for most people.
It’s only been a week in his room, eventually you won’t have to do it.

No, its not normal, he soumds like he is overtired. If you "miss the window" when a child is tired cortisol kicks in which is bad for sleep.

It sounds crazy but in your shoes id be trying a very early bedtime - 6, 6.15 if hes had no nap.

This. He will cry, because toddlers dont like change, and crying gets your attention. He is safe in the bed. Remind him you are with him in the house and can hear him if he's ill etc.

The first two or three nights it might take hours of returning him to bed but you need to persevere.

A tired mummy with a bad back is not a good mummy. Its better for him if you can get the sleep you need

We had this about this age too and we also had a newborn thrown in the mix it was hell and the most exhausted I’ve ever been in my life so you have my sympathy! The problem is too the more my son woke up the more he got into that routine of waking up early and regularly! The ONLY thing that worked for us after months and months of trying different things is what me and my husband fondly refer to as ‘breaking him’ 🤣 basically, we cut all naps (had to stop driving anywhere in the day for a while because he would always fall asleep) and we kept him up until about 10pm and had really busy days. After about a week he was so tired he was falling asleep on the sofa y 7pm, we literally couldn’t keep him up and he was sleeping through. That is the only thing that worked for us. The other thing I will say is the internet and ‘sleep specialists’ will tell you sleep breeds more sleep which is the BIGGEST load of bollocks and do not try it because it will only make things worse for you like it did for us 😂

In any situation like this the only way to "win" is to have a stronger will than the toddler. You just cannot give in.

Fist couple of days might be relentless but it will get better as long as you don't give in and undo all your progress.

At 21 months you wont squash him in bed. Jist have him in your bed.

He will grow out of it I promise. My 22 year old NEVER wants to snuggle anymore. 😁

Could he just sleep in your bed with you? That is what most families do. Or put his cot mattress on floor of your room? He will probably settle better hearing your breath abd bring close to you.

12 hours sleep is a lot its natural he will.grow out of that pattern.

Tbh so many parents sleep in their kids room! First thing I would do is get him a double bed ...i wish I had done that years ago !

Cut the nap out and do bed time a bit later.

It's not permanent.
If you are a SAHM aim for a lot of physical activity in the afternoon after nap. Also offer a snack before bedtime.
It's tough. My older dc won't go to sleep until I do unless very tired.

Just remember that just because he isn't talking much he can still listen. Talking is more to do with vocal chords development and some children especially boys are late talkers.

We also done pretty much exactly this - it worked like a charm. We used Moshi for our bedtime stories and they still listen to it now, aged 9 and 10! 😂

Theres also a clock you can buy that is either lit up with a moon or bright like the sun, it tells your child when it is ok to be up and awake, or whether they should be in bed.

Can his bed fit in your room? Personally I’d have him in your bed. I find society’s obsession with making babies sleep alone very strange.

If you’re worried about him in your bed, move him into your room.

Don’t leave him to cry. That’s cruel.

He is 21months old. You should be in charge. Gentle but firm rules should be in place.

I know it might be a pain, but track sleep for a week using pen and paper or an app like Huckleberry. Log actual sleep time. Take a 24 hours average over the 7 days. This is his sleep tank. It’s not a range, it’s an exact number. Distribute sleep between day and night (you want to aim for a 10 hr night as a minimum). Decide your desired wake time, and work backwards to work out bedtime should be. Stick with a consistent wake up time each morning, irrespective of how the previous day and night have been - e.g. for a 6am desired wake time, even if they went to bed late the night before, stick with the 6am wake up - your day resets each day at 6am. This should all create enough sleep pressure to improve sleep. It can take up to 2 weeks to see the impact of a change in routine, so stick with it! Sending solidarity