Soooo fed up of having to sleep on thr floor in my toddler’s room

Can you swap the toddler bed for a proper single mattress on the floor, so you can get DC to sleep lying in with them? No way would I sleep on the floor!

Hope the rest of the night went better. I noted from your OP that you have switched to a bed as he was climbing out of the cot, and the advisory is to move them to a bed once it is no longer safe to be in a cot. There is a possibility that you have moved him to a cot too early - my 2.5year old is still in a cot. He can climb out, but not if he is in a sleeping bag. So we put him in a sleeping bag for naps and nighttime, and we know he can’t climb out then. Not a criticism at all, but just something for you to think about/try.

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Is he really tired at bedtime? One of mine had to be literally dropping with exhaustion before they would go to sleep.

I had all proper single beds for my DC to sleep in. With all 4 DC I slept beside them until they settled. Still doing this with my youngest who will be 9 soon.

There's no point being uncomfortable on the floor. Look after yourself.

No advice OP, just solidarity. My DD is 21 months and we’re in a similar spot, though she has always woken multiple times in the night and has never self settled. She often fights bedtime and sometimes wants to fully get up and run around in the middle of the night.

I’ve tried every “method”, every routine, bed and nap time variations, you name it… anything other than co-sleeping and responding to her needs gets us all LESS sleep.

I hope you find something that works, but I’m very much in the camp of “it doesn’t last forever, they are tiny, whatever we need to do to get sleep at night is ok”.

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Oh god life is too short for that! I’d be looking at a floor bed as an option for his room, or having him in with me. I appreciate you think you’d squash him but you’re aware of them there and probably both have your own space.

While every child is different, the average range for 1-2 years is 11-14 hours in 24 hours. It is also normal for sleep needs to drop gradually/over time. My older one was doing 12.5 hours from 9 months, and he’s now 2.5 years. We have capped his nap at an hour, and he does around 10 hours overnight, but we have late bedtime (9.30-10pm). We know we need to cap his nap further if we want be being bedtime forward, but not quite ready to do it lol. It doesn’t sound ‘normal’ to drop so much - how is he coping with less sleep? Is he tired? Happy? Grissly?

Totally agree with this - we have 8yo DS and despite being absolutely fine sleeping alone for years it only takes one night to set up an
expectation. My DH slept in his room one night as I had a horrible bug, then he wanted it every night…. Friend stayed for a sleepover and needed the light on, now DS wants the light on every night plus door open which disturbs other DS who also wants door open but can’t sleep with light coming in… I feel that for everyone’s sake sticking firmly (but in a kind and loving way) to an established routine that works for the whole family is the only way to go. Everyone in the family needs to sleep to make life manageable!

I think it coincided with her refusing to nap anymore. I would probably do a 20 min nap and then a 5:45pm bedtime tonight…? Honestly put it all into chat gpt and it’ll give you a really good schedule and also be really kind and tell you how well you’re doing 😂🥺

Take him in your bed, you will both get a good night's sleep. It's natural little ones want their mums near by.

Can you replace his toddler bed with a small double?

Both of mine were terrible light sleepers.
Co sleeping was the answer for us.

I’d either get into bed with him or take him into my bed.

I could not be sleeping in a floor.

This. We briefly allowed our daughter in our bed and she just starfished, kicked us, took all the space. Its a big bed! She seemed determined to push us wherever we laid.

No she won’t squash him but will probably end up teetering on the edge of the mattress with his foot up her nose. Toddler co sleeping isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

This sounds similar to my 2.5 year old. Up until a few weeks ago she’d only fall asleep on us, get transferred to her bed once asleep (would usually take 60-90 mins) and be up in the night and in bed with me every.single.night. I was getting about 5 hours of sleep a night and I was breaking point.

We did some gentle sleep training, left the room, kept putting her back in bed when she got up and after 5 nights she went to sleep independently and now usually gets 12 hours through the night, so absolutely worth it. She’s also dropped her nap at nursery but usually has one at the weekend. It feels really cruel at the time when they’re crying in bed but I have zero regrets, I’m a better parent as I’m getting more sleep and her tantrums on the whole have improved.

@Beachbooks yes he did go back to naps and napped until he was 3 once we got him back on a routine. We just had to get him out of the routine of waking up first and making him so shattered that once he fell asleep he stayed asleep for a prolonged period. Once we’d stopped the 4.30 wake ups we sorted out naps routine and bedtime routine too but we couldn’t do anything until breaking those 4.30 wake ups. Id say give yourself 2 weeks that you’re going to do it for and have no expectations that it will stop before the 2 weeks. He’s still an early riser now, but 6am rather than 4-4.30! Good luck! Xxx

Only one suggestion OP, do you have a blackout blind? I mean a proper one that actually makes the room so dark that you can't see your hand in front of you?

Early risers often wake with the light.

If you don't have one already, I recommend the suction ones that stick to the window, and then tape it down at the edges.

Hello long is he napping for? Cut down or cancel the nap and it will likely make a huge difference.

We had this exactly situation at the same age, it’s the shift in their sleeping patterns and then they get overtired so don’t sleep as well. I asked chat gpt and it said to put her to bed earlier so she was going down at 6pm and we left her but consistently ‘checked her’ every 5 mins or so, telling her we would come back. Obviously the first two nights she was getting out and crying but we took her back and explained we would be back to check her and give her a kiss which we did even when she wasn’t crying. After a few days she settled more quickly and started sleeping until 6-6:30 again as she wasn’t so overtired.