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To think Gill Pharaoh had the ideal end of life

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CurdinHenry · 23/07/2026 20:28

Article in the Times about this woman who decided to end her life through voluntary euthanasia at 75. Huge outrage on social media as a result as various people missing the point entirely express fury because they think being very elderly will be great fun. I personally don't want to get older than that. I don't ask anyone else to take the same view but it stresses me out that the naive want to reduce choices available to the prescient. Euthanasia should be available to everyone without condition.

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Imdunfer · 27/07/2026 10:48

MrsShawnHatosy · 27/07/2026 10:46

“Being tired of life” has been mentioned above as a justification for assisted death being available. But what if a fit, healthy 25 year old decides they are tired of life? Should assisted death be available to them? If not, at what point do we decide that someone who says they are tired of life is actually of sound mind and not suffering from depression that could be treated?

When treatment hasn't changed anything.

6ate9 · 27/07/2026 10:48

Cheese55 · 27/07/2026 10:42

It can take 2 weeks+ for pneumonia to kill someone

I will take the two weeks over suffering a physical and mental decline for years.

Imdunfer · 27/07/2026 10:47

WellConfusedandDazed · 27/07/2026 10:28

How adorable. ‘You’re wrong but I’m not going to argué but you’re wrong’.

Go ahead darling. I work in healthcare policy and can definitely say this is broadly true and more, with sources.

I'm not your darling, sweetie pie.

MrsShawnHatosy · 27/07/2026 10:46

“Being tired of life” has been mentioned above as a justification for assisted death being available. But what if a fit, healthy 25 year old decides they are tired of life? Should assisted death be available to them? If not, at what point do we decide that someone who says they are tired of life is actually of sound mind and not suffering from depression that could be treated?

Cheese55 · 27/07/2026 10:42

6ate9 · 27/07/2026 10:22

Your poor cousin!! Pneumonia used to be called “the old man’s friend” because it provided a quick, relatively painless end for the elderly and frail before modern antibiotics existed, sparing them a prolonged decline.

It can take 2 weeks+ for pneumonia to kill someone

Itchthescratch · 27/07/2026 10:36

WellConfusedandDazed · 27/07/2026 10:34

😂
What is question here? Of course raising the minimum wage doesn’t solve the caring problem. But it makes low wage jobs more attractive. Feel free to do some reading on your own. Raising the minimum wage doesn’t cause inflation or unemployment and despite all the rhetoric, most businesses do not move.

But it would increase the cost of care. Considering we are struggling to fund care already and demographics suggest the population is getting older and sicker then how do you think this is the answer? I already mentioned that some care placements already cost many tens of thousands of pounds each year already. Who is paying enough tax to fund this for everyone?

WellConfusedandDazed · 27/07/2026 10:34

Itchthescratch · 27/07/2026 10:27

Who voted in the governments we had? There were always parties that had manifestos to increase taxation and spending but people didn't want them then and polls show they don't want them now. We got the governments we deserved. Some of u want an insurance based system like our European equivalents but people like to pretend that the NHS will work.

Raising minimum wage also won't solve the care crisis and will arguably make it worse. Who will pay the increased costs? People can't afford the current costs already. I think you are the one that's very naive

😂
What is question here? Of course raising the minimum wage doesn’t solve the caring problem. But it makes low wage jobs more attractive. Feel free to do some reading on your own. Raising the minimum wage doesn’t cause inflation or unemployment and despite all the rhetoric, most businesses do not move.

WellConfusedandDazed · 27/07/2026 10:28

Imdunfer · 27/07/2026 10:22

Too simplistic by half but this is not the thread for me to argue it.

How adorable. ‘You’re wrong but I’m not going to argué but you’re wrong’.

Go ahead darling. I work in healthcare policy and can definitely say this is broadly true and more, with sources.

6ate9 · 27/07/2026 10:28

Pedant61 · 27/07/2026 10:26

Fundamentally, death is NOT the worst thing that can happen to a person.
But it is also about choice. I want to be able to choose the time of my death (and for it to be successfully assisted/managed). I want it to be before I become sick/incapacitated/ demented / in need of permanent care. But because of my age, and the current laws in this country, I think I am unlikely to get my wish. That makes me sad.
What other people might want or choose is unique to them, but many of us are being denied our wishes.

Very true!! I will either do what Gill Pharaoh did or kill myself when I’ve had enough.

Itchthescratch · 27/07/2026 10:27

WellConfusedandDazed · 27/07/2026 10:17

Politicians absolutely ate the problem when they substantially underinvested in healthcare resources for years and systematically begun the process of dismantling the NHS. All the comments about magically funding are so woefully naive. This isn’t about one political party either. This has been going on for decades, the UK healthcare system lags behind most european countries in capital investment and spending per capita on healthcare. There is money and has been and it’s not about the current crisis. There has been conscious choices not to increase funding which cuts caring resources first. Not to mention other policies like not raising the minimum wage or making caring roles attractive as careers. I can remember massive campaigns in the early 2000s to attract new teachers because I almost signed up. Saying it’s not the fault of government policy is brilliant, because their campaign to not have any accountability is working.

Who voted in the governments we had? There were always parties that had manifestos to increase taxation and spending but people didn't want them then and polls show they don't want them now. We got the governments we deserved. Some of u want an insurance based system like our European equivalents but people like to pretend that the NHS will work.

Raising minimum wage also won't solve the care crisis and will arguably make it worse. Who will pay the increased costs? People can't afford the current costs already. I think you are the one that's very naive

Pedant61 · 27/07/2026 10:26

Fundamentally, death is NOT the worst thing that can happen to a person.
But it is also about choice. I want to be able to choose the time of my death (and for it to be successfully assisted/managed). I want it to be before I become sick/incapacitated/ demented / in need of permanent care. But because of my age, and the current laws in this country, I think I am unlikely to get my wish. That makes me sad.
What other people might want or choose is unique to them, but many of us are being denied our wishes.

Imdunfer · 27/07/2026 10:22

WellConfusedandDazed · 27/07/2026 10:17

Politicians absolutely ate the problem when they substantially underinvested in healthcare resources for years and systematically begun the process of dismantling the NHS. All the comments about magically funding are so woefully naive. This isn’t about one political party either. This has been going on for decades, the UK healthcare system lags behind most european countries in capital investment and spending per capita on healthcare. There is money and has been and it’s not about the current crisis. There has been conscious choices not to increase funding which cuts caring resources first. Not to mention other policies like not raising the minimum wage or making caring roles attractive as careers. I can remember massive campaigns in the early 2000s to attract new teachers because I almost signed up. Saying it’s not the fault of government policy is brilliant, because their campaign to not have any accountability is working.

Too simplistic by half but this is not the thread for me to argue it.

6ate9 · 27/07/2026 10:22

user67392097643 · 27/07/2026 10:15

It’s the result of modern medicine though - years ago when the only option was to be cared for by family (daughters/granddaughters realistically!) we got old, ill, and died promptly. Now we get old, ill, and live on for decades. Someone is providing that care, wether its a family member or the state. And that costs, both financially and emotionally. My cousin spent nearly 30yrs caring for her mum, she got to 103, and now she’s nearly 80 herself!

Your poor cousin!! Pneumonia used to be called “the old man’s friend” because it provided a quick, relatively painless end for the elderly and frail before modern antibiotics existed, sparing them a prolonged decline.

WellConfusedandDazed · 27/07/2026 10:20

Imdunfer · 27/07/2026 08:32

There is no shortage of people who are already doctors or of UK people wanting to train as doctors. There is a surplus of tens of thousands of qualified doctors who can't find a training place for a specialism.

Exactly. The underfunding of healthcare generally has been going on for decades.

WellConfusedandDazed · 27/07/2026 10:17

Imdunfer · 27/07/2026 08:30

Politicians aren't the problem.

The problem is the success of modern health care in keeping ill old people alive.

Politicians absolutely ate the problem when they substantially underinvested in healthcare resources for years and systematically begun the process of dismantling the NHS. All the comments about magically funding are so woefully naive. This isn’t about one political party either. This has been going on for decades, the UK healthcare system lags behind most european countries in capital investment and spending per capita on healthcare. There is money and has been and it’s not about the current crisis. There has been conscious choices not to increase funding which cuts caring resources first. Not to mention other policies like not raising the minimum wage or making caring roles attractive as careers. I can remember massive campaigns in the early 2000s to attract new teachers because I almost signed up. Saying it’s not the fault of government policy is brilliant, because their campaign to not have any accountability is working.

user67392097643 · 27/07/2026 10:15

WellConfusedandDazed · 27/07/2026 07:18

All the comments about old people being a drain and no one to care for them are a bit disturbing. it sounds like blaming a person for aging gracefully and they should just die for the good of society. The problem is the government and no planning or foresight or care and typically turning people against each other. ‘There’s no money’ is such a load of sht. Why don’t people hold politicians accountable? because THEY are the problem. Not old people.

It’s the result of modern medicine though - years ago when the only option was to be cared for by family (daughters/granddaughters realistically!) we got old, ill, and died promptly. Now we get old, ill, and live on for decades. Someone is providing that care, wether its a family member or the state. And that costs, both financially and emotionally. My cousin spent nearly 30yrs caring for her mum, she got to 103, and now she’s nearly 80 herself!

6ate9 · 27/07/2026 09:56

Cheese55 · 27/07/2026 09:53

The number of under 25's entering nursing has increased . There's never been a shortage of nurses, there is a shortage of budget to employ them.

Long term recruitment is a problem.

Cheese55 · 27/07/2026 09:53

MrsShawnHatosy · 27/07/2026 09:32

There is no shortage of nurses either, there is a shortage of nursing jobs because health authorities/trusts can’t afford to employ as many as they need.

The number of under 25's entering nursing has increased . There's never been a shortage of nurses, there is a shortage of budget to employ them.

6ate9 · 27/07/2026 09:50

MrsShawnHatosy · 27/07/2026 09:32

There is no shortage of nurses either, there is a shortage of nursing jobs because health authorities/trusts can’t afford to employ as many as they need.

Right now in the UK there are not enough people to care for everyone who needs it. This is one of the reasons I would like assisted dying to be legal (for any reason.) Obviously it’s not going to happen in my lifetime which means I will choose to die by suicide.

6ate9 · 27/07/2026 09:45

Imdunfer · 27/07/2026 09:19

The bunch of senior and experienced nurses who I met on holiday recently were unanimous that the answer for nursing is to drop the degree and qualify on the wards like it used to be.

No student loan then, either.

I agree with this. Making it a degree stopped a lot of people applying who were not so academic, but were compassionate and good at the practical side.

MrsShawnHatosy · 27/07/2026 09:32

Imdunfer · 27/07/2026 08:32

There is no shortage of people who are already doctors or of UK people wanting to train as doctors. There is a surplus of tens of thousands of qualified doctors who can't find a training place for a specialism.

There is no shortage of nurses either, there is a shortage of nursing jobs because health authorities/trusts can’t afford to employ as many as they need.

Imdunfer · 27/07/2026 09:19

6ate9 · 27/07/2026 09:08

I’m sorry, you’re right about doctors. There are fewer people going into nursing and caring though. It’s financial but also not such a “nice” job anymore. (Severe workplace stress, heavy workload and staff shortages.) Can any of this be fixed in our lifetime? I really don’t think so.

The bunch of senior and experienced nurses who I met on holiday recently were unanimous that the answer for nursing is to drop the degree and qualify on the wards like it used to be.

No student loan then, either.

6ate9 · 27/07/2026 09:08

Imdunfer · 27/07/2026 08:32

There is no shortage of people who are already doctors or of UK people wanting to train as doctors. There is a surplus of tens of thousands of qualified doctors who can't find a training place for a specialism.

I’m sorry, you’re right about doctors. There are fewer people going into nursing and caring though. It’s financial but also not such a “nice” job anymore. (Severe workplace stress, heavy workload and staff shortages.) Can any of this be fixed in our lifetime? I really don’t think so.

Imdunfer · 27/07/2026 08:32

6ate9 · 27/07/2026 08:28

It’s not just about finding the money somehow, it’s finding people who want to be carers, nurses, doctors etc. It’s very hard work and people have more complex health needs than ever before.

There is no shortage of people who are already doctors or of UK people wanting to train as doctors. There is a surplus of tens of thousands of qualified doctors who can't find a training place for a specialism.

Imdunfer · 27/07/2026 08:30

WellConfusedandDazed · 27/07/2026 07:18

All the comments about old people being a drain and no one to care for them are a bit disturbing. it sounds like blaming a person for aging gracefully and they should just die for the good of society. The problem is the government and no planning or foresight or care and typically turning people against each other. ‘There’s no money’ is such a load of sht. Why don’t people hold politicians accountable? because THEY are the problem. Not old people.

Politicians aren't the problem.

The problem is the success of modern health care in keeping ill old people alive.