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To think Gill Pharaoh had the ideal end of life

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CurdinHenry · 23/07/2026 20:28

Article in the Times about this woman who decided to end her life through voluntary euthanasia at 75. Huge outrage on social media as a result as various people missing the point entirely express fury because they think being very elderly will be great fun. I personally don't want to get older than that. I don't ask anyone else to take the same view but it stresses me out that the naive want to reduce choices available to the prescient. Euthanasia should be available to everyone without condition.

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WhatAMarvelousTune · 23/07/2026 21:06

I’ve no issue with this at all. This is a woman with all her marbles, who used to be a nurse, saying “nah not interested in that thanks”. I don’t see how it’s anyone else’s business.

I looked up what she wrote and it included “I am not just whinging. Neither am I depressed. Day by day I am enjoying my life. I simply do not want to follow this natural deterioration through to the last stage when I may be requiring a lot of help."
That seems completely rational. I’m not saying it’s the only rational thing to do! But what she does with her death, in a way that hurts no one, is nothing to do with me.

Bakeittillyoumakeit · 23/07/2026 21:06

kookieCrumbles · 23/07/2026 20:42

It’s not difficult to off yourself if you really want to. It’s your choice.

Yes but the risks are high of it going wrong in some way or you being discovered and resuscitated and ending up living in an even worse state. It's not fair that people have to throw themselves in front a train, hang themselves or go through some other horrific act when with assisted dying they could go peacefully with their family around them.

Bakeittillyoumakeit · 23/07/2026 21:03

I agree OP, it should be an option. Many people are fit and healthy at 75 and many others aren't. No one should have to live in terrible pain with no dignity just because some others are fit and healthy and aren't comfy with the idea of euthanasia. The fit and healthy are free to carry on as they are, but they shouldn't be trying to control those that are living in misery who should have a choice.

Ihatehottubs · 23/07/2026 21:01

Having watched several very loved people die slow, painful and frankly horrific deaths, totally at odds with their clearly expressed and documented wishes, I am very much in favour of assisted dying. And who did this woman hurt? She chose assisted suicide, that doesn’t mean it’s mandatory. Her life, her choice. All of us with capacity should have the option to choose it. I wouldn’t dream of letting a dog suffer through what my relatives did, it’s barbaric.

Doingtheboxerbeat · 23/07/2026 20:51

I'm child free by choice (no regrets) don't have a lot of money, will be relying on state pension and don't own my own property.
I also know lots of people in the same position.
I'm weary of naive people who can't envisage the dire choices some of us will face.

Rhaidimiddim · 23/07/2026 20:48

She was terrified of having a stroke and ending up incapacitated, according to the article. The article plays this terror down and doesn't quiz her widowed DH on whether she had counselling for this fear.

Besidemyselfwithworry · 23/07/2026 20:45

I’m 46 and if I got incurable cancer or something dreadful at any age, I would absolutely be in favour of this. My Mum had cancer and it was horrific to watch.

TemporarilyCantDoMyself · 23/07/2026 20:43

I'm 71 and very much want to live many more years. I am in many ways healthier than I've ever been.
I knew someone who died naturally at 105. Was a bit too long but at 100 he was up to all sorts.
I'm personally very, very wary of assisted dying.

kookieCrumbles · 23/07/2026 20:42

It’s not difficult to off yourself if you really want to. It’s your choice.

AnonymityAnonymity · 23/07/2026 20:40

various people missing the point entirely express fury because they think being very elderly will be great fun.
Are you saying she was very elderly at age 75?

I'm 74 atm and I don't think of myself as elderly at all and I certainly have no intention of ending it all next year when I turn 75.

There is still lots of enjoyment and satisfaction to be had out of life in one's 70s and much older. And there are
lots of very very active older people in the area I live in. Some of them have amazing social lives as well.

I really find your thread quite distasteful.