To expect 15 year old DD to share a room with the family on holiday?

Do you mean sharing a room as in you can all see each other asleep in bed? That would be a bit stifling for everyone. We usually get a one bed apartment so me and DH are in the bedroom and the kids are in the living area. Never been an issue. Two bed apartments are like hens teeth, and as they are boy/girl teens do some people think we should be booking three bedrooms?

If these are all inclusive hotel rooms I’d advise self catering instead, you get way more space.

My son is 15, and has shared Premier Inn rooms with me and his Dad. He's shared a studio apartment in various places abroad with us too. He changes in the bathroom, or me and my husband go on the balcony/terrace, whilst he changes. He's not refused to share because I'm in the room and female!

My DD shared a room with us when she was 13, 14 and 16. We wouldn’t have been able to afford the holidays if she wanted her own room. She didn’t bat an eyelid!

Its a tuff one.
My DS13 hates sharing with us, DS15 isn't as bothered. He would rather a room for him and his brother but will share if its that or nothing.
If its for more than 1 or 2 nights, we have been getting seperate rooms for them for a few years now. Like 2 bed apartments or adjoining rooms. Costs more, but everyone is more relaxed & comfortable.
They are big lads now and need their own space.
We spoke to them before the last holiday & showed them what we were looking at booking - it was an apartment but the 2nd bedroom wasn't a proper room, but you could 'seperate' them.
They thought it looked ok and it worked ok.
We try and discuss travel plans and sleeping arrangements before booking.
We did book 1 night in a hotel with 2 bedrooms - we booked as 1ad 1 teen in each but then swapped when we got there. They were ok as we were like 2 rooms away. At another hotel we had 1 night in they were 2 floors away - DS13 didn't like that.

We booked a 2 bedroom hotel room for next year so they have a seperate area to us. Its cost us a bit more bit the extra space will be worth it.

We have done the odd premier inn with all 4 of us but its getting harder and taking it in turns to change in the bathroom is a pain - but we can make it work for a cheap 1 or 2 night away.

With the greatest respect that’s just a silly statement saying she’s 15 not 5. A 5 year old probably wouldn’t give a shiny shite about sharing a room with the whole family, but I can understand a 15 year old being reluctant.

I think it's fine.

Especially if it's all share or don't go.

We would for a night (like family room in an airport hotel for example, or a stopover- me, DH, DS 12 and DD 15). Changing in the bathroom and giving each other some space.

For anything longer I think we'd all find it stressful. Tend to do eurocamp or camping to get separate sleeping spaces, even small ones. Last year DD and DS shared a twin room for a week at Centerparcs - they get on pretty well and are respectful of each other's space. For eurocamp (because the rooms are small) I usually go for a three bed.

So it depends for us.

I shared rooms with my parents on holiday until I got married in my late 20s and my husband would come too if we went with them! If we were doing a cottage I'd generally have my own room, but always share in a hotel room. To be honest I'd still be happy to do that now at 44 if I had living parents and no hubby. This year we (me, hubby and 13 year old son) will be doing hotels every night for 11 nights and our son will share our room. Unless either the shower/loo is physically in the room so there's no way of her sharing a room without being naked in front of her dad, or he's abused her or something in the past, I don't see the problem.

That’s not the point of the thread, it wasn’t even mentioned by OP.

The point was actually that DH doesn’t understand why DD would want her own space.

My DH and i will share a room with our two children next month on holiday, they are 10&15. My 15 yo DD hasn’t batted an eye lid. My DH will be completely respectful at all times, sitting on the balcony when she changes and he will change in the bathroom. Some evenings she will go up first and get changed while we are out. None of us have given it a second thought. Why does she feel so uncomfortable?

Classy.

Besides which, under 18's are not insured to stay in a hotel room or separate apartment without an adult, so what does she propose as an alternative?

Presumably adjoining hotel rooms, aparthotel with sofa bed in lounge and 1 bedroom (or 2 bedrooms) or an AirBnB type place. Which are all very normal choices for a family of 4.

He’s also going inter-railing with his friends but chose a family holiday too.

so take your arsehole assumptions and stick them up your arse

Many of our holidays were also in a caravan. six of us in the one van.

I can see both sides. We tried to get two bedroom apartments for holidays from DS being 13, but when he was 14 I shared a room with him (DH was snoring really badly and I couldn't share a bed with him). It was no bother. We even shared a bed as the apartments were king beds only, but had separate sheets. We took turns to get dressed/showered.

I can sort of see where your DD is coming from, but she is being unreasonable. It isn't the end of the world to share a room with her family for what, a week? Two? Either that or she doesn't have a holiday and gets shipped off to a grandparents house?

Besides which, under 18's are not insured to stay in a hotel room or separate apartment without an adult, so what does she propose as an alternative?

Parents who want to have enjoyable holidays take the views and preferences of their children (and particularly ones as old as 15) in view.

Reference - all the threads on MN from people moaning about how their grumpy teens are ruining the family holiday.

Isn’t that the entire point of the thread? The 15 year old can stay home if she doesn’t want to go on a holiday that is within her parents budget and wishes. That was my point anyway….

Well there's either a need to pay for separate rooms or there isn't ...

Most families of 4 don't routinely all sleep in one room unless the children are very young. This is because it's generally understood that people like their own space and their own privacy. These things also apply on holiday and are not "ridiculous".

And that’s up to you.

You can get a whole house in Devon for 1k a week.

How much of a win is it for you if they stay home?

There’s such lack of respect for teenagers on this forum - what you and they see as ‘necessary’ may not be the same.

So will all 4 of you be in 1room? What kind of holiday is it?

If she doesn’t have any valid concerns (you should check with her and hear her out) you could explain the price difference in upgrading rooms/location etc.. and see how she feels then?

And my parents were on a budget. So what? I could have stayed home, but took them up on the offer.

Me & dh will be sharing a room with our 24 year old daughter in a couple of weeks to keep costs down.

Last night I shared a room with 22 year old DS (it’s way too expensive to get two rooms when there is an event on at Wembley)

we did all stop sharing as a family of four when DS was around 14/15 but that was only because the 4th child trundle bed in the premier inns were too small for him.

This is an effing summer holiday, where you probably pay about 1k for a room for a week. And where you only going to use the said room to sleep at night. We are not talking about actual everyday living conditions here, you are aware of that?

If it was my teen they would be either sharing or staying at home. Its not about the money - its about spending it stupidly on something that's unnecessary.

So did I, but not in a room with them.

My parents were really considerate of having teenagers. We took friends and they chose locations where we could go out and party. We had some fantastic family holidays.