To expect 15 year old DD to share a room with the family on holiday?

Is it just for one night or longer?

They did, pretty routinely, up until the early 2000s. I'll bet a lot of people on here remember travelling to France or elsewhere around Europe at 16 or 17. Until 1995, a UK citizen wouldn't even have needed a passport for France, just a cheapo BVP you'd get in ten minutes at the post office.

She isn’t “sharing with her dad” exactly anyway, she is sharing with her entire close family - she will be chaperoned by her other relatives by necessity (as there is nowhere else for them to be) at all times.

the 13 year age gap between kids ... are you going to drip feed DH is her stepdad?

A night or 2 in a Premier Inn is okay but a proper holiday would be very claustrophobic especially if 2yo is an early riser. Also, no 'adult time' for you and DH.

I remember sharing with my parents at that age and absolutely hated it. Would have preferred to stay at home - that was my last family holiday at 15. Once i was 16 I refused to go with them again and had the excuse of not being able to get the time off work.

I share a room with my son (16) and daughter (18) when on holiday, never thought to do it any differently.

Didn’t stay in a hotel. Nice try tho. 😁

Can you not see that some people are just naturally more private than others? I would have absolutely hated having to share a room with my dad as a teen and I feel the same way about room sharing now too.

Don't understand the problem. As long as she has privacy to change in the bathroom. My kids n DH always have a family room on holiday. Its fun family time Complete privacy in bathroom .

My 18 year old and his girlfriend shared a room with us before the flight, but they obviously had their own room on holiday. And when we go without his, he will either share with us, or with his nana. Wouldn’t in a million years think about spending extra for a room of his own, wasteful to do it, and he likes the company.

We always share a family a room we are a family of four dd 12 and dd is nearly 14. Neither of the girls are bothered and my DH doesn't pay an ounce of attention when we are getting ready. Of course my DH is always respectful of our girls getting ready and stays out of the way, unless they shout for him for whatever reason. He usually sits on the balcony or has a quick snooze. If my DD's dont want to share a room with me and DH we would want to know why, As we ensure they always feel safe and comfortable. I get teenage girls hormones are at their peak, maybe show her the room so she has an idea where to get ready etc and give her some reassurance that he won't take any notice.

Just because your sons are OK with it, that doesn’t mean it will be OK for everyone. It’s a deeply personal thing.

That's fair enough. In which case they don't have to go on the holiday. Never heard the saying " He who pays the piper calls the tune"

When she's paying then she gets to choose

If a teenager feels uncomfortable sharing a room with her parents, she absolutely should not have to and her father really shouldn’t be the one questioning it.

No man, even the father, should be telling a teenage girl that she’s wrong to want bedroom privacy.

I realise lots of people will say “Well, MY teenage daughter has been sharing with me, her dad, 17 siblings and her elderly grandparents for years and she loves it, so I don’t see the issue!” but they’re missing the point, which is that it’s fine if the teenager is comfortable with it but absolutely not fine if they aren’t.

At 15, they should get to decide on what level of privacy they need in bed, exactly the same way any adult woman should get to decide what level of privacy she gets in bed.

We just went on holidays. In some hotels, we shared a room - DH, me, DS15, DS13. In others, we got a 2 bedroom apartment.
It's not the end of the world for a few days.

But some youth hostels do and plenty more did in the past

She should not be asked to share. How embarrassing for her .

Hotels don't let you book a room until you are 18 but I am sure it was amazing.

At 15, there is no way on God's green earth that I would have shared a room with my father or either of my brothers. As mother of boys, since they reached about 10, I have also not shared a room with them. This was one of the reasons we stayed in mobile homes - it was affordable to have two rooms and none of the nonsense about not putting children in a different room.

You need to find a more budget friendly option that allows a separate space for her and her sister to share.

I would probably expect her to share, unless she can explain to you a particular reason?

If there's not much cost difference then maybe (she could contribute?) but holidays are already expensive. Is it a hotel room or a bedroom/living room set up?

I would have hated to share with my parents at 15, but my mum was A LOT and my dad was just a bit rank. Think farting, burping, sneezing really loudly etc. There was also ridiculous pressure on us kids to show that we were having a wonderful time, which was really stressful. So no, all sharing a room wouldn’t have been for me.

To be fair, in reality my DPs generally booked cheap self catering apartments, which worked a lot better.

I think it’s perfectly reasonable for a teen to be expected to share while on holiday. As long as everyone is respectful about having privacy for changing etc then I don’t see a problem.

we share family rooms and cabins on ships when we’re away. Booking 2 rooms would make it unaffordable to us.

I think changing is a red herring - that can be done quite easily. It’s more the being on top of your parents and having no privacy for an entire holiday.

I don’t know what her periods are like but if they’re heavy she might not want to be sharing a room with her dad in that case.

I would expect her to share but then I'm currently in a touring caravan with husband, two daughters ( 18 and 22) and son 26 🤣

Yes.
OP doesn’t say it’s a hotel.
She doesn’t say much at all in fact.
Our separate room holidays have mostly been Airbnb or other rentals, and mobile homes.
DS2 and me did an AI holiday last year and that had one bedroom and sofa bed in living area.
Even when DS2 and me did a PGL holiday when he was 11 we had our own little cabin with 2 bedrooms (and not a lot else!).