To expect 15 year old DD to share a room with the family on holiday?

People generally set a holiday budget.
Then they set their desired criteria for the holiday.
unless mega rich, they decide what they want to compromise on.

One of my crieteria would be not to have everyone in one room.
That might mean that we have to have cheaper accommodation or go to a less exotic location.

Other people will choose to have one room and go to a nicer place.

I can't imagine spending £1K to have 4 people in the same hotel room for a week. But clearly you are happy to do that.

I don’t think you can just make a declaration like that tbh. Everyone holidays in different ways. We really are only in our room to sleep so why would we waste money on two rooms to do this?

Exactly. As a teen, first couple of days would be really heavy flooding in the morning and my DD had that as well. There’s much better range of period products now that’s there was in the 80s though.

you make it sound as though people who go camping have zero choice about which tent they buy. If you have a tent without rooms, that's because you've chosen it.

The privacy of the toilet/shower block depends on the campsite. Which, agian, you can choose if you are "fussy" about what you want. Although tbh it's generlaly easy enough to pick a quiet time to use them even if you pick a campsite with big blocks.

"Periods wise , the biggest worry I found girls have is around staining/flooding , especially the sheets at night."

I agree, nobody wants that and it often happened to me as a youngster, I never had regular periods and they were heavy.

Now we know right? So many ‘miserable teen on holiday’ threads and ‘our teen won’t come on holiday with us’ it all makes sense.

What holidays are you going on where a room for a week costs 1000k? You can genuinely get a whole house for that.

Kids don’t really care about luxury.

For the whole holiday, it is unreasonably for a teenager to have to share a family room with parents. It's fine for a single night and we will do this if e.g. we need a night in a Premier Inn on our way to or from a distant holiday. But for the actual main holiday, you need more space and all crowding into one room is unpleasant and not relaxing. We often book accommodation that officially sleeps twice as many as we actually are just to ensure that everyone has the space they need. Can you not book a "suite" option where there are one or two side-rooms off the main room?

Not everyones tents have rooms, ours never used to and forgive me for not thinking that a toilet block and shower block is 'private'.

We’re sharing a room on our holiday this year and it didn’t even occur to me me my teens might not be comfortable with this. I’ve just asked the 14 year old and she said your daughter is lucky she’s going on holiday

But teenagers are so different and my other one could give me a very different answer!!

If we had to do two rooms we probably couldn’t afford the holidays we go on tbh.

Absolutely fine. What a precious madam she is. Does she want you to pay for 2 rooms?
Surely she changes in the bathroom, and she shares a bed with either you or her sister?

what’s her problem. She’s just being a brat. No reason for her not to share.

I find all that a bit weird frankly.

Asking your parents to spend a lot more on a holiday because you can't be bothered to put clothes on or discreetly get your sanpro out is beyond entitled.

I personally wouldn't want to spend a lot of time with my mum or sister hanging out in towels or skimpy outfits, if this is it, she needs to understand that other women don't necessarily fancy seeing her naked either.

As I said, I do understand more generally wanting your own space and privacy - it's the fixation on the dad that I think is weird.

Not necessarily weird. Maybe she liked to chill in just a towel after a shower, maybe she wants to be able to try on several outfits, maybe she sleeps naked/in skimpy clothes, maybe she doesn’t want her dad seeing her underwear in the suitcase, maybe she’s just really, really private, maybe the dad is the issue and he’s quite loose and free with boundaries and states of undress (not in a creepy/pervy way) , maybe the parents can’t help themselves from being intimate(so many posters mentioned that.. it’s a week ffs!) , maybe he simply snores too loudly (farts a lot)and she just won’t be able to sleep , and a million other reasons.

Periods wise , the biggest worry I found girls have is around staining/flooding , especially the sheets at night. But again, some girls are just more private. Maybe she doesn’t want to be rooting for pads and things in her bag with her dad there. Of course, he doesn’t actually give a shit , but teens are weird creatures. And various other things.

DH is being completely unreasonable. You need a separate room for the girls.

Non issue for me, my teen DDs share a family room with DH and I for weekend breaks etc. If we are going for longer and can afford it then an extra room is preferable but not essential.

There are other options. Last year we paid an extra £70 for a “suite” basically a bigger room with a partition wall in the middle that separated the beds. An aparthotel type place would indeed add hundreds (which could be out of budget) but not an extra 1k. An air b&b with a one bedroom rather than a studio wouldn’t be an extra 1k. A villa or another room, might or might not. But at least have a look at options, talk to the DD , discuss together, show her. Not “you’re either going or staying behind because I’m paying and I said so.”.

I definitely understand just wanting the space. I wanted that too as a child and usually we booked self catering anyway so that was fine.

But the fixation on not wanting to share with her dad specifically is a bit weird to me personally.

I don't really understand all the stuff about periods either - surely no one is changing a tampon in front of their mum/sister either, what's the difference here?

I don’t have a spare 1k actually we just generally book something that suits. We’ve no idea what kind of holiday or accommodation is being booked but if one of my family members was dead set against it I’d at least listen and consider other options. I just can’t imagine being so set on a destination or accommodation that I’d tell my child to stay home before I explored other options

Oh there are choices. If a teen doesn't want to share a room they can forgo the holiday and stay with friends/ family or at home if a bit older. Nice to know you may all have a spare £1k plus to get another room

Everyone is free to have an opinion, but hey are not free to tell others what they have to do or spend their money on

I suppose that’s how we end up with so many “ungrateful/miserable teens” on holiday or otherwise threads. They dared to have an opinion, preference, feelings.

Some of these posts leave me a bit baffled. I’m curious at what age a child is entitled to express an opinion? All of this ‘if I’m paying I make the final decision’ is a bit lost on me. Do you really never have a discussion with your children or make decisions as a family? At what point are they deemed important enough to have a say…do they have to reach a certain arbitrary age? Start earning their own money? Move out?

Is it any wonder why so many women give up careers when they have children and then end up trapped in relationships with little freedom if they’ve spent their formative years being told if you don’t contribute financially your not important enough to get a say.

So you would've paid for an extra room yourself?

I love my dad, have always loved my dad, he has always been my right hand man - but at 15 I would not have wanted to share a room with him. The ages of 13-17 were particularly awkward and difficult for me body wise - and I still remember it vividly. Please try and accommodate for your daughter.

My DD is also 15 if it’s just a couple of nights in a family room in say a Premier Inn she’ll share with me her Dad and her brother as we’re just using it as a base and we all get changed in the bathroom.
If we’re away for longer we usually get two rooms now and me and her share and my DH and DS share.

Yes they do. I was an only child, used to my own room, would not have relaxed sharing with parents and they needed some privacy too. I shared with them when I was very little,