To expect 15 year old DD to share a room with the family on holiday?

At 15, she needs and deserves privacy. Let's face it, none of us have wanted to share with our parents at that age!

Loads in that location. It’s in a small picturesque town with great foodie options, gastropubs, delis, cafés, outdoor lido for the kids, lots of historic sites, you wouldn’t have to cook for the whole week if you didn’t want to. Wouldn’t even need a car as it’s on the train and the bus.

So is there actually much to do near them? And can't guarantee weather in bloody Devon or is it just another load of cooking and cleaning just in another property for the parents?

When I was about 14 we did a barge holiday and us 3 kids took it in turns to sleep in parents' room. Really didn't think anything of it at all, changed into sleepwear then got into bed, that simple really.

Let’s recap:

You said: £1k plus to get another room

I said: What holidays are you going on where a room for a week costs £1k?

You can get a whole property for that.

You said: Like where in school holidays?

So I showed you. And those are reasonably high end examples.

My 15yo shares with the rest of the family. She can change in the bathroom

Hmm I'm sure the 15 year old will be happy in Blackpool in the pissing rain while all their mates are going abroad

I went to NYC with my ex, DD14 Ds5 . We were in one room. Was DDs dream trip I got cheap flights for. If id had to pay for a second room then we wouldn't have been able to afford the new York pass that got us into the attractions.

So shed had been to new York but not been able to go in anything due to having a separate room

Same as I took the girls to an all inclusive they wanted to go to. We shared a room no issue. They were 14 and 11 at the time. Again that holiday was their choice after they had been taken to a caravan in sheerness as a " treat" by their Nan ( where the girls had their own rooms in the caravan,) I'm pretty sure they preferred being in the sun and sharing a room

As for going from different times of year, yeah if you pull them out of school and get fined

Luck doesn’t really come into to it. It’s an actual choice. You’re talking like the only option is to spend more money. You can go somewhere different, stay in something different, go for less time, go at a different time of year, go self catering and cook instead of AI or eating out, drive instead of fly, stay in the UK. There are plenty of ways to still have a holiday without sharing one room or leaving a 15 year old behind.

This. It's not necessarily difficult nor expensive, just a change of emphasis. Most people would do it without a second thought.

We've had separate bedrooms on holidays for DDs and us since my eldest was about 12, IIRC.

I'm with you and her. It's inappropriate.

I've said up thread that we compromised on other thing in favour of having our own room (me, adult DS and teen DS).
Maybe go away for a week instead of 10 days. Have to use the car more because we're out of the city. Eat out less.
It can be done.

Wow so not the " normal" All inclusive in spain then that many people go for

Fancy paying that amount or a cottage in Devon

Like Devon 2 double bedroom cottage £973 in August.

Like 2 double bedroom 2 bathroom apartment in Lucca, Tuscany for £1015; or a 3 bed 2 bath apartment for £856.

Well you are lucky you can. Sone people wouldn't be able to

It wouldn’t come to that as we’d pick a different holiday. That’s my point. We’d choose a different destination and accommodation to suit the budget and the needs of the family.

Like where in school holidays

I've never spent 1k on holiday accomodation in my life.

And if it was room sharing or no holiday at all?

It would be pointless to explain because you’d either reply that YOU wouldn’t care or YOU wouldn’t do it. It’s not all about you, but you obviously can’t see past yourself and your experience.

No, I don't understand.

Can you explain it to me?

I am equally comfortable with my close male relatives and my close female relatives. TBH I am more comfortable sharing a room with my dad than my mum. Equally comfortable with my brother and sister.

But I wouldn't spend hours preening myself in a towel whoever I was sharing with as that seems a bit weird.

My parents had the common sense to plan holidays where we didn't have to share a room with them. As a result, we didn't stay in hotels.

I have done the same with my own family. Sharing a room with teenagers, who want to stay up later than me, get up later etc is not a holiday for any of us. A holiday needs to work for everyone.

At some point, adults need to listen to their children and recognise that they are expessing a boundary that they are no longer comfortable sharing with their parents and plan accordingly. Ultimately, the reasons the child has set the boundary do not matter.

Since OP has not been back you really have no idea if she is being a brat or whether she has no reason to share.

Really? You can’t possibly understand why a female might be more comfortable around other females rather than a male, even one related to her ?

Maybe her dad likes hanging around in his pants , scratching his arse and constantly farting?

And a myriad of other possible scenarios. How can you so adamantly say there’s no possible reason for her not to want to share with her dad?