DD and friend had drinks spiked, now in ITU AIBU?

OP, we had a spate of this in our local town and the police DID take it seriously. Contact the Police and Crime Commissioner, and get other girls & their families to. Do not underestimate the power of social media. Name the bar where it happened. Most places now have security, if not they are part of a pub/bar group who pass information to each other. Make noise, a lot of noise. This is what they did in our town and it turned out that the perpetrator was a bar man. Not all men are like this. Good men are fathers, brothers, uncles and grandfathers they would not think this is common and would be very protective.

You cannot. This does not exist. You may be able to buy something that claims it can, but there is no product that has been formulated and tested/approved.

I would say less goady and more completely stupid and naive.

Quite often the drug leaves the body very quickly leaving no trace, that’s if they’ll test at all.

It is not at all common. It’s virtually impossible to do unnoticed.

The only way you could keep your attention on your drink 100% of the time is if you are a sheep dog and the drink is a ball.

I am so cross with the posters trying to put responsibility on the person being spiked for not paying attention. No. The people committing this crime shouldn’t be doing it.

OP if you haven’t been put off by the goady fks on this thread by now, I hope your DD makes a full recovery. So scary for her and you. Take good care of yourselves as it will have been a real shock.

Theft sometimes. My son’s friend had his phone stolen when he was spiked.

How do you know they were spiked, have toxicology confirmed that?

I ask because there’s a potential danger in believing your drink was spiked when actually you drank too much too fast (and it does not take much to knock you out when drinking spirits…)

I always tell my daughter to only have a few sips and if she thinks it’s having no effect to wait 20 mins and then see. Also to stop and wait if she starts feeling her head going funny. It’s literally the most useful thing my parents told me growing up.

It’s awful, I do hope they are better soon. It must be very scary for you all.

It does happen to boys too. My son’s friend was spiked (he doesn’t even drink alcohol). All the club wanted to do was move him outside, the police wouldn’t do anything, they laughed at him. He has T1 diabetes so it made him very, very unwell.

Bar staff are rarely perpetrators. It's more likely that OP's DD was just inattentive for a tiny amount of time or, that it was done while she was paying. All these self righteous posts about how it can't happen if you never leaving your drink unattended do not reflect reality, which is that you can be with your drink the whole time, but in a bar your attention is not fully on your drink and things can happen in front of your eyes that you don't notice, let alone when you look away for a second or two. Also, there's been a rise in injections, it doesn't have to be the drink that's spiked.

I wouldn't say it couldn't possibly be the bar staff, but it's really not a given, they are much more likely to get caught than a customer and would be idiots to try.

There are perpetrators who do it "for a laugh" or, occasionally, revenge. Generally when a motive is identified it's sexual assault/rape or theft. Not necessarily date rape (as in not necessarily by someone the victim is already with). Some perpetrators drug several people in an evening to increase opportunity and move on the one that's easiest.

So many goady idjits on this thread, dotted about among horrible stories of people being drugged and poisoned. Muppets.

Sorry to all who have experienced this, including myself.

Ignore those making ignorant comments.

I was spiked with ketamine on a night out when I was around 22, I was sick within minutes and my friend found me collapsed in the toilet, got me into a taxi and back home where I was “asleep” for 12 hours, I remember at one point i woke up and couldn’t move my body at all, I called my friends name and luckily she was next to me, I was so lucky she found me and got me home.

The police should be pulling all the CCTV of who was in the bar, interviewing bar staff and requesting any other goers submit any photos they took , also swabbing bottles, glasses etc- this is a crime that can result in not only rape but death. There needs to be a public outcry that police appear are so incompetent at their jobs they don't know how to begin to do a serious investigation into a serious crime - hope she gets the support she needs once she recovers physically

I always associated drink spiking with a date rape type motive.

if not, what is the motive for this crime? 🤯

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It is appalling. I am sorry.

Would it not be worthwhile to name the bar on social media? Saying, this happened to a woman I know at X? I'm not asking for myself personally, as I don't even live in the UK or go to bars, but no bar likes bad PR.The staff might become more alert as a result.

If the drinks were never out of their sight, then the scary prospect is that it was the bar tender......

I used to work in bars, unless it was heaving I’m surprised a member of staff didn’t see anything. Also the only answer, unless of course the bartender has done something to the glass but let’s not go there, is the glass goes straight in your hand and never leaves. I no longer drink.

Thank you for a comprehensive response.
I was interested in what could possibly be done to stop "spiking" so thanks for providing that info.

Why can't the police check the cctv??

The bar or outside should have cctv. The police should be collecting it before it's recorded over.
I hope your daughter makes a full recovery.

My friend (40’s) was spiked she wasnt sexually assaulted, we think the circumstances were lucky that she didn’t, she ended up meeting her brother in the pub just after a man bought her a drink. By the time the drugs kicked in her brother realised and took her home safely.
The police didn’t care at all, she wanted them to realise that she so easily could have ended up in a terrible situation but they really didn’t care.
She desperately wanted to prevent it happening to the next girl and gave descriptions, asked the pub for help but nothing was really done, they kinda said ‘it was ok for you so forget about it’
So very sad.