DD and friend had drinks spiked, now in ITU AIBU?

I am sorry that these girls are unwell.

However, I don't understand how it could happen if someone has their drink in their hand all night.

To be fair I did suspect the bar staff as there was no other way to get to our drinks. However it can and did happen, it was not my friends fault.

If what you say is true then the bar staff must be dodgy and working in cahoots with other men who use the bar.

I'm sure you won't be going there again.

@sunshinesuzeyyoung women are allowed to make mistakes and what may be done to them by opportunistic criminals is not their fault. They may have been deliberately distracted in order to access their drinks. Again, no one can always keep a perfect watch out for this sort of thing. I don’t think you need a hard hat but maybe bear in mind that the OPs DD and her friend are seriously unwell and you are saying that it’s their own fault. It isn’t.

I'm really sorry to hear that, I hope your daughter makes a quick recovery.

My son was also spiked last week whilst out for the football. I'm not sure if he was the target or his girlfriend who he was with. Unfortunately there are sick people everywhere and it is everyone that needs to be wary, both girls and boys.

My friend had her drink spiked while we were out together. No idea how they did it, as no one else came near us while we were there. And either she or I went to the bar to get said drinks. It still happened.

What can the police do, though? I think you can get test strips to detect additives like ketamine and GHB.

That is what I wondered?

What are people being spiked with ti make them collapse? This is scary. Hope she is ok. Could it be dodgy bar staff?

I don't understand how this could happen.

I don't accept drinks off anyone I don't know.

In a restaurant I watch when the wine is bought to the table and how it is opened.

If I go to a bar, I watch what the bartender/barmaid does before and when they pour my drink.

Unless you leave your drink lying around there is no reason for it to be 'spiked'.

Dons tin hat !

Wishing them a speedy recovery.

Absolutely agree with the poster above , do that asap

So sorry you are going thru this. Wishing you all the best for your dd.

I had my drink spiked aged 43 in a bar and my husband had his drink spiked aged 38 in a gay bar to be specific.

No idea what goes thru mens minds, such an incredibly cruel thing to do.

If the police are being useless, I'd go to the bar myself and make that if there is any CCTV it is preserved. Also ask any staff on duty to write down while it is fresh in their memories, anything they can remember. Then if the police don't get round to investigating for a week, there may still be some evidence or useful statements.

Poor girl, I hope she makes a recovery and you get somewhere with the police!

I was being bothered by a boy and his friends in a club at 18 and I just knew there was something wrong with the drink when the THREE of them presented it to me. My friend who was may more assertive back then snatched it and drank it. Their attention immediately left me and turned to her. I just grabbed her and dragged her to the women’s when they tried to separate us. It took a while to realise what had happened but thankfully she was ok. Looking back on their behaviour it was so obvious.

Posts like this scare the shit out of me as a mother of girls one of whom has a serious health condition such that a spiked drink would cause even bigger issues. this has been around for years and years yet nothing is done about it. police are lazy they just say oh you took something its gone bad and you feel guilty. just not acceptable. really hope you child is ok. just horrible.

What is it that the police are/aren't doing that is making them crap?

I thought this was supposed to be a high priority crime!

Awful, so sorry OP. This happened to my friend when she was about your DD’s age, about 20 years ago. Fortunately for her, it was on our first or second drink and I was always extremely careful with mine so was able to take care of her and get her to hospital. The police and the bar could not have cared less, just dismissed us completely.

If this helps to reassure you at all, once she came round she really didn’t remember very much at all and was absolutely fine, and the entire experience was overall much worse for me as the sober one having to deal with the situation and her parents getting that awful phone call.

Thank you - my son was spiked at 18. I was spiked at 58.

It's not just men that spike drinks. And not just women that are spiked.

A woman was spiking them in pubs some years ago round here, and my then boyfriend was badly injured as a result. His poor mum was beside herself.

If you want to put the question what goes on in people's minds, well a lot of people are stupid and evil, and a lot of them tend to have children.

Your poor DD @Pissedoffmama I hope she feels better soon.

My sister had her drink spiked when she was out with friends last year. Similar to your DD, she collapsed just outside the venue and an ambulance had to be called. Sister is in her early fifties and was out with friends around the same age. What the fuck goes through someone’s mind to do shit like this.

The police are useless with this particular crime, preferring to believe that the victims knowingly took drugs rather than being spiked. It’s also very common and has been for decades. A friend and I had our drinks spiked when we were out having one post-work drink in a quiet bar in the 90s, and it’s happened to lots of other women I know. And yet there seems to be no inclination on the part of the police to investigate these crimes. In my case, I strongly suspect that it was a member of the bar staff who spiked our drinks.

I hope your DD makes a speedy recovery and the police buck the trend by being useful, OP.

Hopefully the bar will have cctv and the manager and bar staff are interviewed

Do tell the bar as soon as you can, especially talk to female staff there. They are more likely to be helpful if police are being wooden.