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Rude text? Or a valid ‘joke’

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Melmel2 · 23/07/2026 12:29

My boyfriend stayed over last night, I was clear with him I had a very early WFH meeting and would need him to be gone by 9. He was, but text me mid morning to say ‘bit gutted I had to leave, I was expecting cornflakes and a quick wank’

I told him I was clear I started work at 9 and needed the flat clear so no interruptions.

He replied saying ‘haha obviously joking, it’s a famous film line’. I’ve never heard of it and he hasn’t replied to tell me which one it’s from.

Would anyone else find that rude?

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Sherararara · 23/07/2026 20:42

CurlewKate · 23/07/2026 20:06

Yep. Women really have to learn to laugh at men’s jokes. Or “have a sense of humour”….

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Yes the last part is correct. Everyone should indeed have a sense of humour.

ByUniqueViper · 23/07/2026 20:41

Even if youre not aware that its a line from a film, it's obvious that its a joke.
Jeez lighten up a vit of you might be looking for a new very serious boyfriend!

Cob81 · 23/07/2026 20:35

Bollihobs · 23/07/2026 12:41

What???

"Learn to take a joke" ?????

Why, because a man expected you to??? 🙄

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No, not “because a man expected you to”…..because it IS a joke as it’s a line from a film 🙄

Pinkchickenwine · 23/07/2026 20:15

Velvera · 23/07/2026 20:13

Am I not supposed to laugh at men's jokes?

No you are not! You’re an utter disgrace to the sisterhood of you do! Women should be a hive mind and all think alike.

Take a long hard look at yourself

Pinkchickenwine · 23/07/2026 20:14

CurlewKate · 23/07/2026 20:06

Yep. Women really have to learn to laugh at men’s jokes. Or “have a sense of humour”….

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oh give over, it’s a quote and was apt for the situation, meant to be funny!

You honestly don’t have to be offended by everything men do!

Velvera · 23/07/2026 20:13

Am I not supposed to laugh at men's jokes?

Brokentoes85 · 23/07/2026 20:08

thatgreenjuniper · 23/07/2026 12:48

You can joke about things that are actually funny or amusing. The movie quote was neither.

Nothing to be offended or bothered about, nothing wrong in saying that quote is gross, haha.

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Something being funny is subjective.

CurlewKate · 23/07/2026 20:06

Sherararara · 23/07/2026 12:34

Google is your friend. Either way learn to take a joke.

Yep. Women really have to learn to laugh at men’s jokes. Or “have a sense of humour”….

Imightbeinthewronghere · 23/07/2026 19:49

Bollihobs · 23/07/2026 12:41

What???

"Learn to take a joke" ?????

Why, because a man expected you to??? 🙄

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Jesus Christ

Does no one have a sense of humour

OhBettyCalmDown · 23/07/2026 19:47

I’d of found it funny myself but if you didn’t fair enough. I do think you need to break up though. You two have very different opinions. If you're in it for the long haul life’s going to throw some shit your way and if you can’t laugh through it with your partner you don’t stand a chance. Find someone more compatible.

RevengeOfTheDirtyLaundry · 23/07/2026 19:42

I don't find it particularly funny but I wouldn't be offended by it. However, what I think is irrelevant. You found it inappropriate - if your sense of humour is incompatible with his, so be it - either you decide to live with this annoyance or you end the relationship. You don't need a 'valid' or externally validated reason to finish with someone you don't get on with.

QuietComet · 23/07/2026 19:32

sunshinesuzey · 23/07/2026 18:31

It isn't the word that's offensive, it's his expectation that she should be sexually available to him, at his beck and call.

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But it was a joke? I think you're reading a bit too much into it!

If everyone took each others jokes literally and seriously, we'd be in a whole world of misery!

SleepingStandingUp · 23/07/2026 19:28

Melmel2 · 23/07/2026 14:00

Pick me! Pick me!

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no thanks, you don't sound very fun

Lexy2345 · 23/07/2026 19:27

It was a joke for goodness sake

SleepingStandingUp · 23/07/2026 19:22

Melmel2 · 23/07/2026 13:02

He has now told me it’s a Danny Dyer quote, and I can’t say it makes me feel any better about it. Crude and disrespectful.

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you don't really sound like you like him. you don't need a reason to not be with him, you're allowed to just dump him cos you want to

user5784352 · 23/07/2026 19:18

Catwalking · 23/07/2026 17:06

He should have simply said, “ there’s a line from a film about this” , & left it at that. He obviously has little taste, quoting something said by Mr. Dyer…

He obviously has little taste, quoting something said by Mr. Dyer…

You know he's an actor, right? Paid to say lines someone else has written. Not a sage fount of wisdom for the ages.

user5784352 · 23/07/2026 19:13

You have to watch the clip. The joke has literally nothing to do with the OP being sexually available.

It's mildly amusing. Neither side-splittingly hilarious nor the height of disgustingness. It would no doubt have been funnier if he had included the clip.

Sherararara · 23/07/2026 19:04

JeremiaBoogle · 23/07/2026 19:03

I think Danny Dywer being a porn star had to be my favourite thing on this thread. If we collectively maintain it's true, it could end a Mandela Effect memory.

You posted this twice.

JeremiaBoogle · 23/07/2026 19:03

I think Danny Dywer being a porn star had to be my favourite thing on this thread. If we collectively maintain it's true, it could end a Mandela Effect memory.

Sherararara · 23/07/2026 19:03

Grammarnut · 23/07/2026 13:18

If providing breakfast I would expect some nice, mutual, loving morning sex and the tea made before I surface. Women are not wank and breakfast machines. I'd dump him, he's immature.

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Have you never done or said anything immature? Never made a lame joke? Never been just a teensy weensy bit silly? Or dirty? Or just a little bit naughty? Are you fun at parties?

Pinkchickenwine · 23/07/2026 19:01

Sherararara · 23/07/2026 18:58

JFC get a grip on reality

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Get a grip on …… what?

🤣🤣🤣

Sherararara · 23/07/2026 18:58

sunshinesuzey · 23/07/2026 18:31

It isn't the word that's offensive, it's his expectation that she should be sexually available to him, at his beck and call.

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JFC get a grip on reality

Sherararara · 23/07/2026 18:57

Divebar2021 · 23/07/2026 12:58

God it can be un funny / funny but still unremarkable enough not to require a rant online about it. Let it go it’s trivial.

Exactly

JeremiaBoogle · 23/07/2026 18:56

I think Danny Dywer being a porn star had to be my favourite thing on this thread. If we collectively maintain it's true, it could end a Mandela Effect memory.

Pinkchickenwine · 23/07/2026 18:54

Summerlovin24 · 23/07/2026 16:33

I love a filthy joke but he sounds like he was being entitled then covered up as a joke. He thought because be was staying over he expected breakfast and some morning action without respecting that you had needed to be ready and focused at 9am for your meeting. Ick hate it when men give those vibes of pressure /guilt over sex

It’s a quote from a film? You reckon he said it without knowing that? Then just happened to realise after that he could cover it up by saying it was a quote?

Really?

It was perfectly fitting quote for the situation.