Do you feel nervous or uneasy using unisex loos?

Omfg that’s grim. And this is what we’re expected to put up with. Horrible.

Much prefer single sex but I haven't been anxious in unisex ones, maybe because the ones I've been in have been fairly well designed rather than normal block of toilets with a new sign on the door.

But yesterday I went into the single room unisex toilet at the supermarket and the toilet was literally full of shit, it was everywhere and it absolutely reeked. I have never seen similar in women's loos. Immediately walked out and informed the poor staff that will have to deal with that.

Literally couldn't care less. When you've tolerated a weekend of Glastonbury toilets many times, anything is better. There's less queues when it's unisex, in my experience.

I actively hate going out in Edinburgh now as it seems so many of the venues and restaurants have done this. The first time I encountered the "cubicals with urinals" and "cubicals" sign it was really dark, I was at a friend's 40th so I didn't see the tiny sign that said "with urinals" so I walked in on a friend of my friend (who i didn't know) who was peeing in the urinal section. He got a fright, I got a fright and jumped back. I then quickly scuttled into the "cubicals" one, feeling mortified. I apologised to him when I saw him at the bar and he said don't worry and muttered "I really hate that they've done this, just return it to male and female" and I said, yep I agree, this is the first time I've experienced this. He said this is becoming normal in Edinburgh unfortunately. I don't think I really appreciated how important single sex loos were until this. I was sexually assaulted years ago in the toilets and the only thing that saved me (ie it didn't turn into full rape) was that a girl noticed the man following me in and her banging on the cubicle he'd shoved me into was enough to loosen his grip and I managed to run out. Nobody would have saved me if I'd gone into one of those "cubicals". Ugh.

Same. Our ladies loos are rank sometimes.I feel sorry for our poor cleaner. I use the much cleaner unisex ones on another floor.

I hate them unless they are completely separate units with ceiling to floor walls and full doors with their own sink. Even then you can tell if a lot of men have used them as they are smellier and dirtier.

I truly don't care. I even have unisex toilets at home.

I get faintly peturbed when there is a urinal, but I am capable of averting my gaze. And it's not common, so it's the suprise factor as much as anything.

I haven't been able to use these since I came out of a cubicle to see a man using the sink as a urinal.

The all-in-one with a hand basin are bad enough. They are almost always tiny and filthy and a bit creepy.
I have occasionally used mixed sex loos, with non floor to ceiling doors. Even though it was DH peeing in the next cubicle, it felt horrible.

So some unisex toilets are okay then.

We have both unisex and singles loos at work. The unisex ones don’t bother me at all.

Our women’s loos tend to be the worst in terms of the way people leave them and the stinkiness, I avoid them and go to the unisex on another floor.

Not really, no. If its a completely separate cubicle, then I'm ok. Provided its reasonably clean which it often isn't (pee on seat, floor etc.). Anything where I have to share a sink - no.

Perfectly happy with them. They're the norm across the vast majority of Europe, and are usually sensibly arranged so that facilities are less dangerous in general than UK gendered toilet blocks.

I can't stand them

One in, one out is not the same as encountering a man in an enclosed windowless space with only one exit.

There’s also less likelihood that a man is exercising his fetish while listen to you in the next cubical.

There was a recent thread on here about how to get the piss stink out of the floor tiles. That stink wasn’t made by women. Just saying.

An Edinburgh festival location I went to a few years ago had changed the door labels to “cubicals only” and “cubicals and urinals”

There was a huge queue of women standing outside the cubicals only door. I didn’t see a single woman use the other choice the entire time I was waiting in line.

What do you do in small cafes that only have one customer toilet?

Do you avoid those too?

I really don’t like them.

My office has separate loos. But I travel to one of our other offices where the loos are floor to ceiling cubicles with individual sinks. They used to be badged male and female but have now been changed to unisex door labels.

Apparently regular users of the building still adhere to the men left women right set up of old but of course visitors don’t know that.

One of my female colleagues quietly told me that there is still one floor in the building with separate loos and that several of the women walk up two floors to use that one.

Yep, I try to avoid them.

It depends on the kind. I went to a national trust, last year I think, where they had just changed the women’s into unisex and that felt very uncomfortable as big gaps under the cubicles etc. The purpose built ones with enclosed cubicles and sinks inside aren’t so bad but I was cross they had just changed the women’s into unisex with no adaptations. Put me off going and to be honest put me off renewing my membership as I felt quite disrespected as a woman that I was suddenly expected to share what were the women’s toilets, and I assume had been for years, with men with no consideration for the safety or comfort of women.

Your AIBU poll doesn't really make sense.

No, I really couldn't care less who else is using the same public bathroom.

I’m not a fan and will avoid them where I can as I don’t feel safe or comfortable, plus more often than not they are dirty and/or smell of wee - presumably from men pissing on the floor.

You’re talking about a row of unisex cubicles with shared handwashing facilities. I hate this, especially in a workplace. I badly don’t want to bump into a male colleague. I don’t want them seeing me brushing my hair and applying lipstick in front of the mirror. Worse still I desperately don’t want them hearing me unwrap sanitary products. It’s so personal.