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Do you feel nervous or uneasy using unisex loos?

206 replies

Motuihe · 23/07/2026 11:51

It is a bit offputting when several men are washing hands and whistling away and you are only woman there. Or if you leave a loo at same time and clock eyes with a bloke.

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DeterminedRat · 23/07/2026 13:57

I don't care. I don't really put much thought into toilets, I go in, pee, wash my hands and leave. I don't really clock who else in there. Public toilets aren't particularly known as being pleasant place to hang around so I just mind my business and get in and out.

wendywoopywoo222 · 23/07/2026 13:55

I don’t mind a communal loo as all the ones I have visited have been seperate cubicles with sinks. And much better in terms of queuing.

I did cleaning when I was younger and the ladies was always more disgusting than the men’s.

TheBluebird · 23/07/2026 13:54

Wordsmithery · 23/07/2026 13:42

If it's an all in one unit - toilet plus sink - and enclosed floor to ceiling then no problem.
Aren't these a good alternative to the invasion of the safe spaces that Mumsnetters are so vocal about?

No because after men use them they smell like a gents.

I've used the gents before in an emergency, I don't care about the presence of males, but on a regular basis I don't want to share the facilities because male urine stinksand makes the whole cubicle smelly, men are less careful with hand washing and it feeels unhygeinic. I'm well aware women can make a mess as well but the smell seldom hits you as you walk in.

VivienneDelacroix · 23/07/2026 13:52

Waryandwearyfactorten · 23/07/2026 13:01

Also there have been enough incidences of upskirting under cubicles and incidences of hidden cameras in work, public and hotel lavatories that it makes me less inclined to trust the intentions of some men frankly.

All the unisex facilities I've ever come across in the UK have lockable enclosed cubicles with floor-to-ceiling doors. No gaps at the top of bottom of doors or partitions.

idrinkandiknowthings · 23/07/2026 13:51

Not per se. In my goth days the lads would often come into the ladies' loos to do their hair and makeup and I have, in the past, gone into the gents if the queue for the ladies was too long.

My only issue would be their lack of aim and, let's be frank, boys' loos stink lol

sugarapplelane · 23/07/2026 13:50

Not nervous, just disgusted that men can’t bloody clean up after themselves so I have to go to the loo with piss over the floor and on the seat.

Dragonflyandthepondskater · 23/07/2026 13:49

If they are completely self contained AND cleaned regularly and properly I don’t mind. If I go in and can spell male piss I hate them.

In a small cafe with 1 loo well that’s unavoidable and again if it’s clean and I couldn’t tell that it’s not single sex, I’m ok. Otherwise I get out as quick as and hold my nose.

MistakenFlutterby · 23/07/2026 13:47

BoredZelda · 23/07/2026 13:23

What if the CEO was also a woman? Do we need separate management toilets?

Context is all.

Meeting a man in an enclosed space where you have either just/or are about to remove clothes is not the same as meeting the same man by the coffee machine.

A female CEO doesn't present the same statistical risk to me.

WhatNoRaisins · 23/07/2026 13:46

Don't like them and I get a strong revulsion reaction. I don't want to be around toileting men.

scoopsahoooy · 23/07/2026 13:46

I've never encountered any of the issues listed here in unisex toilets (or at least not exclusively so - I've seen many a disgusting womens toilet too!). Perhaps I've been lucky. No, I don't feel uneasy or nervous.

Iloveeverycat · 23/07/2026 13:45

BillieWiper · 23/07/2026 12:11

I don't think it's legal for the loos to be unisex if the hand washing facilities are communal? They have to be standalone cubicles with sink inside, so there's no reason to encounter the other users other than on entry/exit of the main door of the toilets.

I thought this too that it was only legal if the the washbasins are inside the cubicle.

FlatCatYellowMat · 23/07/2026 13:43

Don't like them - they normally smell as bad as the mens (confirmed by two sons who miss being young enough to come in the ladies).

The PP saying that the women's are in a worse state - this is not my experience. Whatever state the ladies in a place are in, the mens are worse - and unisex may as well be a mens.

Also this 'it's the norm on the continent' - This is not my experience either - I've lived in 5 different EU countries, visited many more, and in most of those places there were separate toilets, except where the place was small and there was only one or two fully contained cubicles - and then it's just a throw of the dice whether they are well maintained or not.

OhamIreally · 23/07/2026 13:43

BillieWiper · 23/07/2026 12:11

I don't think it's legal for the loos to be unisex if the hand washing facilities are communal? They have to be standalone cubicles with sink inside, so there's no reason to encounter the other users other than on entry/exit of the main door of the toilets.

Is that so? I went to the loo on the fifth floor at John Lewis Oxford St last week and it was open shared sink area with a few cubicles all with the seats up.

Wordsmithery · 23/07/2026 13:42

If it's an all in one unit - toilet plus sink - and enclosed floor to ceiling then no problem.
Aren't these a good alternative to the invasion of the safe spaces that Mumsnetters are so vocal about?

Bakeittillyoumakeit · 23/07/2026 13:39

I like family changing rooms alongside male/female changing rooms. I hate unisex toilets

RanniTheWitch · 23/07/2026 13:38

I feel uncomfortable using any public toilets. It always makes me feel a bit awkward. It doesn’t make a difference to me what sex the other users are. Using public toilets is just something you have to do sometimes, whether you like it or not.

Magicpaintbrush · 23/07/2026 13:34

I hate them. They make me feel uncomfortable and on edge. Worried about peeping toms. Stinky and dirty. Horrible.

StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind1 · 23/07/2026 13:31

Ohmygawdflippingheck · 23/07/2026 12:42

I can deal with festival toilets when I'm at a festival, I've been to many, but I would rather that wasn't the standard acceptable level of cleanliness!

This, I go to festivals, and stay in hostels too.
It still shouldn't be the norm.

Neuronimo · 23/07/2026 13:31

I won't use them, I walked into one and walked out again once. Dh is very uncomfortable using them at work. If they must be unisex I think they should be single cubicles, which works well at a place I visit locally. Makes note never to camp in France.

Dontevenlookatme · 23/07/2026 13:28

Gross. Bristol airport have installed unisex loos in their transport hub. You can smell the piss from outside the building.

BoredZelda · 23/07/2026 13:28

VestibuleWeaver · 23/07/2026 13:03

Doesn’t bother me at all. And for those complaining about piss on the seats, there’s no shortage of that in female-only toilets.

Indeed. And disabled toilets have always been unisex, not sure why we think it’s ok for disabled women to be in a toilet disabled men have used but not for all other women.

KimWexlersPonyTail · 23/07/2026 13:26

I have to use disable loo so unisex. Always piss on the floor and seat up, and stinky. Really miss not being able to use regular ladies loo😥

BoredZelda · 23/07/2026 13:25

RareGoalsVerge · 23/07/2026 13:20

The only kind of unisex loos that are legal in the UK are single-user fully-enclosed rooms where the hand-washing and drying facilities are within the room with the lavatory and the room opens out into a public space not a vestibule. I have no trouble at all using those.

Anywhere that has a room full of cubicles with shared handwashing facilities that is labelled "Unisex" is breaking the law. These are not providing appropriate dignified facilities and it is established in law that women are at a disadvantage and being discriminated against if a venue does not provide appropriate single-sex facilities. It is fine for unisex facilities to also be provided if someone doesn't want to use the facilities for their own sex.

I have used Unisex "room full of cubicles with shared handwashing facilities" in other countries where they are legal and found them very unpleasant. Men use the cubicles as a urinal but don't bother to shut and lock the door meaning that women see more than they want to, it doesn't feel comfortable. I did feel safe enough as the room was so busy with at least 15ish people in there, and no chance of someone isolating a vulunerable user, but I wouldn't use such a room at quiet times when there might be a high chance of being the only woman there with one or more men.

I have never been to any WCs that have this set up. It is always either rows of separate cubicles with sinks, or individual rooms in smaller establishments. Even our local leisure that has the “family changing village” and has done for about 20 years, there are separate WCs.

BornToBeWithThisUsername · 23/07/2026 13:25

They are non binary safe spaces, perfect for anyone now.

BoredZelda · 23/07/2026 13:23

AuntieDolly · 23/07/2026 12:00

We had them at work. Horrible meeting the CEO who’s just had a poo

What if the CEO was also a woman? Do we need separate management toilets?

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