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Is this unhygienic?!

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loislaneloves · 23/07/2026 07:55

I have an Airbnb on my property. It’s basically a tiny home at the bottom of our large garden with an amazing view. Most people come for the weekend by train and I don’t want people to spend their holiday shopping for stuff like coffee, tea, milk or having to cram suitcases full of toiletries or beach towels so I provide all of those. I also provide a little evening snack (crisps usually) some wine to watch the sun set on the deck with and fruit from the garden and a croissant and jam for breakfast. People love it and I make it quite clear on my ads that these things are provided.
Just got a review from a couple who stayed with us a few days ago. They gave us a good review but took one star off and in her private message to me she said ‘We loved our stay with you but we weren’t very happy that the toiletries are in big shared bottles rather than individual use. This is obviously very unhygienic (we don’t know who has used them!!) so we had to make the trip to buy some for ourselves which was an expense and effort we weren’t expecting’.
To be clear I offer Aesop Shower Gel, Shampoo and Conditioner in the shower and Aesop Hand Wash by the sink in 500ml bottles. They get replaced when empty which is usually about every 10 months
AIBU to think this is not unhygienic?!

OP posts:
Angrybird76 · 23/07/2026 09:37

Hotels have been doing this for years now due to cost. It's not unhygienic. If customers want that they need to pay more. Up to you what you offer

bigvig · 23/07/2026 09:36

This is a mad thread OP. You’re doing a lovely thing. Who are all these people so worried about germs off a shared bottle in the shower (they are about to wash for goodness sake) that they would rather add to the plastic landfill problem. I wonder how they survive in the wild!

longtompot · 23/07/2026 09:36

Surely this is what happens in most hotels and b&b? Well, it has been the case in the ones I've stayed in. Was she expecting her own free bottles of Aesops products to take home?
I generally take my own showering products as I don't know what the place I'll be staying at has, and have been caught out with a conditioner that doesn't work in my hair

WhisperingHi · 23/07/2026 09:35

Most people don’t care what soap they use as the performance in the same regardless of what you use.

Shampoo is highly personal, I never use the hotel shampoo as assume it’ll be crap. Also assume there’s a high chance that they refill with cheap products into branded bottles. Maybe be wrong but that’s why I personally don’t use shampoo and conditioner in random bottles.

AnonyMumAuDHD · 23/07/2026 09:35

HateThese4Leggedbeasts · 23/07/2026 08:00

I think loads and loads of hotels now do large bottles attached to the wall that they top up rather than individual shampoos and hand wash.

I’ve seen this too - I think it’s motivated by the fact that people would take the small bottles daily to stock up, so it was cheaper to have the wall based dispensers. As far as I can see these are disinfected when the shower is clean and shared toiletry dispensers are no more unhygienic than using a toilet or shower that someone else used the day before and which has also been cleaned.

I am guessing this guest doesn’t use the soap dispensers in public loos either?

DelectableMe · 23/07/2026 09:32

Some people don't understand how germs spread, or what is unhygienic.
What you provide is perfectly safe. The "single use" toiletries don't seem to exist anymore. If people don't understand that you can use soap from a dispenser and it's hygienic, they should have paid more attention in yr8 Science

Rewis · 23/07/2026 09:31

Haven't seem indicudual toiletries in a hotel in years. I can totally understand that people don't want to use the hotel products wither because they dont like the product, don't like sharing with strangers or are worried what soemone has done to the bottles. But then people can bring their own products, no biggie. Weird thing to complain about.

WeasellyCreature · 23/07/2026 09:31

The most pristine airbnb I’ve ever stayed in (in Helsinki) had big shared bottles of products. No pumps. And it was greatly appreciated! There’s no “backwash” for germs and it’s not like she was drinking it. Some people are just entitled. I’ve stayed in really nice high end hotels and even they have pumps. Don’t be discouraged by the occasional negative Nelly OP — the phrase “you can’t please everyone” applies here. Some people have wired their brains for negativity and it has zero to do with others and everything to do with their incessant need to find SOMETHING to bitch about. It’s a sad way to live but some people choose it.

Anyahyacinth · 23/07/2026 09:30

Phineyj · 23/07/2026 09:22

I certainly hope some of the people on this thread are prepared to use the soap in public toilets!

Or cutlery and glasses at a restaurant

dayslikethese1 · 23/07/2026 09:30

Why didn't they bring their own toiletries if they're that weird and fussy?

TheThirteenthFairy · 23/07/2026 09:29

Oscillating · 23/07/2026 08:10

Why would sharing SOAP be unhygienic? It's soap ....

Like it literally cleans 😂😂😂

I have soap and handwash in my bathroom. I use the soap but - from reading Mumsnet - I've taken on board that there are people who won't use someone else's soap. And should such a person visit me and use the bathroom, I really want them to wash their hands, so I make it easy for them.

Barethe · 23/07/2026 09:29

I think quite a few people are very conscious of germs post covid. Going forward I'd perhaps have a set of (much cheaper) single use toiletries in the bathroom cupboard and then put a little note saying that if guests do not wish to use the toiletries provided then they can find single use ones in the cupboard but you do not use these as standard for environmental reasons. Completely unfair that she deducted a star and I personally would be delighted to find Aesop toiletries, its the sort off thing that makes a stay feel special.

saraclara · 23/07/2026 09:27

Phineyj · 23/07/2026 09:21

This is the norm in budget hotels now and is better for the environment too.

It's the norm in good hotels, too. Hotels of all budgets are recognising the problem of plastic waste and acting accordingly.

Franticbutterfly · 23/07/2026 09:27

I went to a hotel this weekend. There was shower gel, shampoo etc attached to the wall I.e. provided. She should’ve purchased he own if she’s so picky!

Anyahyacinth · 23/07/2026 09:25

It's also daft because she must know that small wasteful bottles contents have been decanted from huge drums at the factory and that the product itself is sanitising. Peculiar

Odd. Aesop is lovely too.

Rosegard · 23/07/2026 09:24

OP I have been in 5* hotels where the very same set up is for bath and showering products.
They can't be interfered with.
I think its great.
I wouldn't pay any attention to it.

sallyluyah · 23/07/2026 09:24

Yogafiend · 23/07/2026 08:00

So for me I wouldn’t use them either sorry 😔. But having said that I wouldn’t have removed a star from the review because of it. They could easily pack little toiletries which is what I do? Maybe you can offer those instead if it’s worth it?

Really interested to learn why you wouldn't use these? @Yogafiend

localnotail · 23/07/2026 09:22

She is being an idiot. How its unhygienic? What is she doing with them, sucking the nozzle or something? I hate little bottles, they are a nightmare to get stuff out - also, single use plastic - something that should be avoided. Pretty much every hotel I stayed at recently had large bottles of stuff rather than tiny plastic ones, I'd imagine precisely because of being environmentally conscious.

Also, why she did not say anything to you - considering you live across the garden? Weird.

But maybe put on your ad something about it, in case you encounter another bonkers visitor. And say you can provide individual bottles on request.

Phineyj · 23/07/2026 09:22

I certainly hope some of the people on this thread are prepared to use the soap in public toilets!

Morepositivemum · 23/07/2026 09:21

For a second I thought I saw their point but really, picking up a bottle someone else has touched versus the waste of those tiny bottles and environmental impact… seems a bit mad!!

Phineyj · 23/07/2026 09:21

This is the norm in budget hotels now and is better for the environment too.

sallyluyah · 23/07/2026 09:21

comofn · 23/07/2026 07:57

It’s lovely that you do all that but I can see her point. I wouldn’t like to use toiletries that past guests have used before

What?? This is nuts.

redboxerclub · 23/07/2026 09:20

This is more the norm now than individual. Can you reply to the comment that this is “industry standard practice, a more sustainable approach and reduces waste. Also allows us to provide high quality products. Guests are welcome to request individual toiletries and these will be charged at £10 per stay”

to provide I’m sure chat gpt would do a great response.

Orangemintcream · 23/07/2026 09:20

She’s bonkers.

I knew as soon as I read it someone would come along to say they carry their own soap everywhere.

But seriously no it’s a perfectly normal set up like many hotels.

AlwaysExtraHot · 23/07/2026 09:20

Oh, they’re just cunts and not worth the headspace.
I can’t afford Aesop at home 😄 and I’d be thrilled if an Airbnb had Aesop toiletries (not to mention all the other thoughtful touches you provide).
I know on Airbnb anything less than a 5-star review puts you at risk of sliding down the algorithm and getting fewer views, so from that point of view it’s upsetting, but any reasonable person reading that review will dismiss them as nutters and just go by all the positive ones (I speak as a seasoned Airbnb user; you learn to identify the moaning Minnies!).
Where is your property? It sounds lovely 😊

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