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Is this unhygienic?!

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loislaneloves · 23/07/2026 07:55

I have an Airbnb on my property. It’s basically a tiny home at the bottom of our large garden with an amazing view. Most people come for the weekend by train and I don’t want people to spend their holiday shopping for stuff like coffee, tea, milk or having to cram suitcases full of toiletries or beach towels so I provide all of those. I also provide a little evening snack (crisps usually) some wine to watch the sun set on the deck with and fruit from the garden and a croissant and jam for breakfast. People love it and I make it quite clear on my ads that these things are provided.
Just got a review from a couple who stayed with us a few days ago. They gave us a good review but took one star off and in her private message to me she said ‘We loved our stay with you but we weren’t very happy that the toiletries are in big shared bottles rather than individual use. This is obviously very unhygienic (we don’t know who has used them!!) so we had to make the trip to buy some for ourselves which was an expense and effort we weren’t expecting’.
To be clear I offer Aesop Shower Gel, Shampoo and Conditioner in the shower and Aesop Hand Wash by the sink in 500ml bottles. They get replaced when empty which is usually about every 10 months
AIBU to think this is not unhygienic?!

OP posts:
loislaneloves · 23/07/2026 10:14

whackwhackoops · 23/07/2026 09:45

So did the reviewers put their reasons in their review or just took a star off and private messaged you? If its the former then others will look at the review individually and make their own minds up. Personally, I look at the low ratings first and often have seen that the reasons are petty or inconsequential to me so I ignore them. You are rightly very proud of your rating and before long, if people are aware of the method of dispensing the toiletries 🙄then hopefully your ratings will get back up there in time.

They left a really nice public review, no reference to the offending toiletries but gave us 4 stars for cleanliness. The message she sent was part of the private message you can send when you finalise a review and no one else can read it.
Now I’ve thought about it that makes it worse as it would have clarified to other readers why they thought it reasonable to drop a star so now it just makes it seem if the place was dirty in some way

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AngelinaFibres · 23/07/2026 10:14

susiedaisy1912 · 23/07/2026 10:10

It’s not unhygienic as long as nobody has tampered with them and deposited any kind of other fluids in them is my immediate thought.

Surely people aren't so bored on their holiday that they take time to wank/ spit/ shit into toiletry bottled the owner has fixed to the wall. That would be an impressive level of commitment.

TheFifthTellytubby · 23/07/2026 10:14

Just two things, OP:

  1. Review is ridiculous.
  2. Can I come and stay at your Airbnb? It sounds amazing.
😁
MyDeftDuck · 23/07/2026 10:14

By that context then, is it unhygienic to use a public toilet where the soap is in a dispenser over the wash basins ?? FFS, some people are so precious!
OP, I’d suggest that you tweak your promotion material to state ‘ toiletries are provided but these are not single use packaging, we do this to prevent waste and keep our costs down’. Also consider naming the brand. Good luck with your enterprise, it sounds a lovely place to stay. 💐

Tintarella · 23/07/2026 10:13

Don't know how people like this get through life tbh. She must be extremely hard work. Don't give it another thought, OP; your place sounds lovely!

PolkaDotPorridge · 23/07/2026 10:13

She’s being an entitled twat.

Chocolatefreak · 23/07/2026 10:11

@loislaneloves OP, this woman was ridiculous. Large dispensers are definitely the way to go for sustainability reasons. There is nothing unhygenic about using any kind of liquid from a dispenser - even a bar of soap is ok in my book - it's literally there to remove germs FFS. Maybe you could pre-empt nonsense of that kind by putting up a little note in the bathroom explaining your reasons - environmental one being the most important? Everything you've described is completely fine for any normal human being without some incredibly rare immune disorder!

milveycrohn · 23/07/2026 10:11

I think you'll find this was a change that came ina few years ago; (was it in the EU?); it was considered wasteful for hotels to provide all those little individual bottles.
They ALL now provide large bottles - sometimes attached to the wall.
This is now the norm

Wadsworthy · 23/07/2026 10:10

She's being ridiculous. What on earth is "unhygienic" about big pump bottles of shampoo, conditioner, and handwash?

I hope she always closes the lavatory lid before she flushes. Now, not doing that is unhygienic.

susiedaisy1912 · 23/07/2026 10:10

It’s not unhygienic as long as nobody has tampered with them and deposited any kind of other fluids in them is my immediate thought.

AmaryllisNightAndDay · 23/07/2026 10:10

loislaneloves · 23/07/2026 08:12

I’m definitely NOT offering individual bottles due to the plastic waste and product waste.
I clean the place myself and I am proudly meticulous. The bottles get cleaned in an antibacterial spray between guests anyway.
Im devastated as we work really hard to ensure our guests have a nice time and my 5 star rating ive held for a year has now dropped to 4.8.

Shared use pump bottles are normal in hotels nowadays, not universal but widely offered. The 4* hotel where I stayed in central London last week had them. I also prefer them to individual bottles which are wasteful. You really can't please everyone. Shrug and move on.

To be honest I don't fully trust a place with 100% 5 star reviews. I prefer a 4.8 star, read the 4 star review and think "so everything else really must have perfect and this wanker only moaned about the shampoo bottle which doesn't bother me" and book.

DysmalRadius · 23/07/2026 10:09

Also, what magical properties do people think little bottles have that means they cannot be refused and refilled in exactly the same way large ones are? If you object to communal large bottle of shampoo, why would communal small bottles be better?

Noodge · 23/07/2026 10:09

No. She's being a prissy pearl clutcher. Unless she thinks a previous guest would go out of their way to spit/pee in them there's no risk to things like this that's any greater than being in contact with humans period.

Tessasanderson · 23/07/2026 10:08

Since when was soap unhygienic?

moltopianissimo · 23/07/2026 10:08

comofn · 23/07/2026 07:57

It’s lovely that you do all that but I can see her point. I wouldn’t like to use toiletries that past guests have used before

Could you say why, without the answer being "Because I have severe germ-related OCD"? Because if that is the answer then it's not something the OP should be penalised for in reviews of her accommodation.

FWIW I have slight OCD with germs and still think this is utterly ridiculous.

thereisnomeaning · 23/07/2026 10:08

DysmalRadius · 23/07/2026 10:07

So you'd rather have the poopy residue on your sleeve for the rest of the day than on your hands that you are about to wash?!?! That seems so much more unhygienic!! 🤢

Even if I wash my hands, I still have to touch the door on the way out. They normally open inwards in my area, so have to be pulled.

itsnotagameshow · 23/07/2026 10:08

I'd be tempted to supply small amounts in travel sized pump dispensers, decant what's left after a stay and wash the bottles out for a refill before the next guest. That way you can cater for the batshit and keep being environmentally responsible!

AngelinaFibres · 23/07/2026 10:08

ByTheSeas · 23/07/2026 10:01

I can see her point simply because if you pick up a bottle of handwash you might wonder how many pairs of grubby hands have been on it before.

One of the better ways is an individual 'guest bar' of soap, wrapped, which you throw away after use. These used to be the norm before everyone changed to liquid handwash. They come as catering supplies and are smaller than a small matchbox.

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But you don't pick up the bottle of hand-wash.You press your hand on the top and squeeze some out into your other hand. Then you wash your hands. Anything on the bottle dispenser would be washed off when you washed your hands. Grubby hands have obviously touched it ( as they have in every service station/ cafe/ shop toilet) that's why people are washing their hands in the first place.

saraclara · 23/07/2026 10:07

Like a pp, I think it's be a good idea to add a photo of your lovely Aesop toiletries. As well as letting people know what they're getting, that kind of quality of would be a plus for most people!

DysmalRadius · 23/07/2026 10:07

thereisnomeaning · 23/07/2026 09:52

I don't poop in public toilets. I flush with a fresh piece of toilet paper. I cover my hands with my sleeve before touching the tap. I don't like the idea of everyone's poopy hands all over that stuff. Works for me.

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So you'd rather have the poopy residue on your sleeve for the rest of the day than on your hands that you are about to wash?!?! That seems so much more unhygienic!! 🤢

mochimoons · 23/07/2026 10:06

This is really silly - lots of really nice hotels use this method too. I hate plastic waste so would prefer to use the larger bottles.

AngelinaFibres · 23/07/2026 10:03

SmallTreeDeepRoots · 23/07/2026 08:04

We all have our own personal foibles. If yours is not using shared toiletries, surely you would just bring your own?

This. My husband will very happily use all the hotel products. I don't have a problem with hand-wash anywhere and I'll use the shower gel if it smells nice. I don't use the shampoo and conditioner because I have coloured hair and lots of shsmpoos turn it into straw. If I had to I would but I bring my own because that'd what I prefer. I've never given hygiene a thought. Presumably this guest wasn't bothered that multiple other people had had sex in the bed,sat on the loo seat, farted into the sofa ,washed the mugs and plates ( not necessarily very well) after using them.

FunnyOrca · 23/07/2026 10:03

Insane. If they are that wound up they should be travelling with their own stuff anyway. I’ve never seen little bottles outside of hotels and certainly not in airbnb situations. The large bottles on the wall are typical.

I’m sorry about you rating. It sounds like you are doing Airbnb correctly (without driving up house prices for first time buyers) it sounds like a lovely destination.

mydogisthebest · 23/07/2026 10:03

If she is that fussy and crazy then why on earth does she not take her own toiletries when she goes away?

thereisnomeaning · 23/07/2026 10:02

I'm usually more concerned with the quality of the products, since I have sensitive skin. A bad review of this kind wouldn't put me off at all. If everything looks clean and hygienic, I won't second guess the bath products.

That reminds me to leave a five star review for the place we just stayed in (that was clean and had big bottles in the shower that didn't bother me at all).