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Is this unhygienic?!

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loislaneloves · 23/07/2026 07:55

I have an Airbnb on my property. It’s basically a tiny home at the bottom of our large garden with an amazing view. Most people come for the weekend by train and I don’t want people to spend their holiday shopping for stuff like coffee, tea, milk or having to cram suitcases full of toiletries or beach towels so I provide all of those. I also provide a little evening snack (crisps usually) some wine to watch the sun set on the deck with and fruit from the garden and a croissant and jam for breakfast. People love it and I make it quite clear on my ads that these things are provided.
Just got a review from a couple who stayed with us a few days ago. They gave us a good review but took one star off and in her private message to me she said ‘We loved our stay with you but we weren’t very happy that the toiletries are in big shared bottles rather than individual use. This is obviously very unhygienic (we don’t know who has used them!!) so we had to make the trip to buy some for ourselves which was an expense and effort we weren’t expecting’.
To be clear I offer Aesop Shower Gel, Shampoo and Conditioner in the shower and Aesop Hand Wash by the sink in 500ml bottles. They get replaced when empty which is usually about every 10 months
AIBU to think this is not unhygienic?!

OP posts:
FastFood · 23/07/2026 12:05

Germs are everywhere anyway.
You've got staph on your skin having a blast right now. You've got microscopic arachnids thriving on your eyelashes. There's a colony of bacteria in your body. Germs are not the enemy, they're just a fact of life.
If we were to get sick each time we were in contact with a microbe, we wouldn't survive 10 minutes.

Franpie · 23/07/2026 12:05

What nonsense! There’s a very fancy 5 star hotel I stay at when I’m in New York and they have those same Aesop bottles. Or course it’s not unhygienic to touch something that other people have touched. Does she think everything in the room is brand new for every guest?!

GingerdeadMan · 23/07/2026 12:04

ThisISmycircusandtheseAREmymonkeys · 23/07/2026 11:27

Many toilets have automatic dispencers and taps so you don’t have to touch anything.

Do they? Not in the UK they don't.

Missypuddingchops · 23/07/2026 12:01

They should've brought their own then...

Yogafiend · 23/07/2026 12:00

Simonjt · 23/07/2026 11:32

So your bag is essentially public transportation for everything you touch in public toilets.

🙄 I think you are really overthinking this. Do you leave your bag outside the public toilets or do you take it in with you? Bizarre comment

ThisISmycircusandtheseAREmymonkeys · 23/07/2026 12:00

thereisnomeaning · 23/07/2026 11:59

I do favour paper towels but most bathrooms don't see to have them where I go.

I’ve sadly noticed this too. I hate the dryer fan things.

TinyCottageGirl · 23/07/2026 11:59

It's no different to a large pump bottle attached to the wall of a hotel, she is being precious. I'd include a picture though on your posting so people know to expect a large bottle not tiny individual ones. People can then decide themselves if they want to pack their own toiletries.
I don't personally think it's a big deal and as long as they are wiped down/cleaned between guests I think it's fine. Your little extras sound lovely!

thereisnomeaning · 23/07/2026 11:59

TourdeCrema · 23/07/2026 11:34

I just take a paper towel to open the door

on a cruise I went on everything was positioned to do so, paper towel, door and bin - it helps prevent spread of virus

I do favour paper towels but most bathrooms don't see to have them where I go.

ThisISmycircusandtheseAREmymonkeys · 23/07/2026 11:58

FlamingJune2026 · 23/07/2026 11:56

Can you comment publicly on their feedback explaining the set up?

There is no point. They have a right to think what they think, and 4 stars is hardly bad.

Besides, most people read reviews carefully, and it would be up to them to decide if they find it ridiculous or not. If they don’t then it’s simply good and useful information.

thereisnomeaning · 23/07/2026 11:58

AngelinaFibres · 23/07/2026 10:19

When you go to a cafe and pull out the chair to sit down there will be a million poop germs on the back part you have just touched from all the people ( men) who didnt washed their hands after having a poo. You should use your sleeve technique there too.

Never thought about it really. I always use hand sanitiser before eating, after I've sat down anyway. I have an immune compromised person in my house, so I'm pretty conscientious about that sort of thing.

FastFood · 23/07/2026 11:57

Edit: Sorry forgot to quote you @ThisISmycircusandtheseAREmymonkeys (great user name!)
"Because they can be opened and you don’t know if someone has put something in there I guess.."

Why would someone put something in the shower gel dispenser for the next customer?

FlamingJune2026 · 23/07/2026 11:56

Can you comment publicly on their feedback explaining the set up?

tomato22 · 23/07/2026 11:55

Some people just like to have something negative to say. No different to many hotels and in fact probably more luxurious given it's aesop! Different if it was a hairy bar of soap 😂

ThisISmycircusandtheseAREmymonkeys · 23/07/2026 11:55

thereisnomeaning · 23/07/2026 10:08

Even if I wash my hands, I still have to touch the door on the way out. They normally open inwards in my area, so have to be pulled.

I take a paper towel to open the door.

TheCrenchinglyMcQuaffenBrothers · 23/07/2026 11:54

Mental. She does realise that the shower cubicle isn't re-tiled between stays, right? And that each new incumbent doesn't get their own, box fresh, loo seat? That they're just, you know, cleaned - which presumably the bottles are too as they're part of the shower.

Yogafiend · 23/07/2026 11:52

Pleasedontputthatthere · 23/07/2026 11:15

I can't be the only one who wants @Yogafiend to start an AMA - I don't like using communal soap AMA!

Also, who in today's world wants the little bottles that can be 'thrown away', how wasteful.

🤣🤣 won’t be doing that but maybe someone else will.

love a miniature bottle!

MrsShawnHatosy · 23/07/2026 11:51

FastFood · 23/07/2026 11:47

I'm sorry but HOW can bottles of shower gel and shampoo be unhygienic? Are they trying to eat them?
What's wrong with people?
What's the deal with this performative hygiene standards? I read recently on MN that SOAP BARS were unhygienic as well. The very thing that makes you clean is dirty.

Oh yes and some people think roll on/stick deodorants are gross too. You apply it to your freshly washed armpit, then replace the cap 🤮🤮leaving the germs from your freshly washed armpit to proliferate.

Teamtraveller · 23/07/2026 11:51

I would be delighted to have Aesop in my b&b and would feel very special that you provide that level of product!
OP I would be more concerned about someone walking off with them😀
It would be interesting what “hygienic replacement” she bought.
Certainly carry on exactly with what you doing (your place sounds fab) but it is not fair or right to mark you down on stars which are really important for reviews

Yogafiend · 23/07/2026 11:50

Tuncro · 23/07/2026 11:15

So if you go to a public loo would you wash your hands from the dispenser?

I have but avoid it if I can.

ThisISmycircusandtheseAREmymonkeys · 23/07/2026 11:49

FastFood · 23/07/2026 11:47

I'm sorry but HOW can bottles of shower gel and shampoo be unhygienic? Are they trying to eat them?
What's wrong with people?
What's the deal with this performative hygiene standards? I read recently on MN that SOAP BARS were unhygienic as well. The very thing that makes you clean is dirty.

Because they can be opened and you don’t know if someone has put something in there I guess..

TheBluebird · 23/07/2026 11:48

Do you have a right of reply to reviews? If you do I would clarify that the guest objected to the refillable environmentally friendly toiletries and expected those little bottles that everyone takes home.
To be honest I can't remember the last hotel or rental that did those. Everyone does big bottles now. My only issue would be if there was just one in the shower and not the basin.

FastFood · 23/07/2026 11:47

I'm sorry but HOW can bottles of shower gel and shampoo be unhygienic? Are they trying to eat them?
What's wrong with people?
What's the deal with this performative hygiene standards? I read recently on MN that SOAP BARS were unhygienic as well. The very thing that makes you clean is dirty.

TheSquashyHatofMrGnosspelius · 23/07/2026 11:47

MotherofPufflings · 23/07/2026 08:03

It's absolutely idiotic. Presumably she takes a bottle of hand soap with her to use in public toilets too.

Actually this is a good point. any supermarket or pub loo had a pump dispenser for hand wash and there is no way it is the quality @loislaneloves provides or is as clean. I wonder if she leaves bad reviews at Tesco for this sort of thing.

If you have had a great time at a venue and you can see the owner has bent over backwards to be lovely, no matter the niggle. Leaving off a star is low and churlish. Look at the bigger picture and be nice.

Don't let her re-book E V E R.

Breakfastinthesunshine · 23/07/2026 11:45

She’d probably have taken a star off if you’d provided individual bottles as being not green enough!
You can’t win!!

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