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Is this unhygienic?!

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loislaneloves · 23/07/2026 07:55

I have an Airbnb on my property. It’s basically a tiny home at the bottom of our large garden with an amazing view. Most people come for the weekend by train and I don’t want people to spend their holiday shopping for stuff like coffee, tea, milk or having to cram suitcases full of toiletries or beach towels so I provide all of those. I also provide a little evening snack (crisps usually) some wine to watch the sun set on the deck with and fruit from the garden and a croissant and jam for breakfast. People love it and I make it quite clear on my ads that these things are provided.
Just got a review from a couple who stayed with us a few days ago. They gave us a good review but took one star off and in her private message to me she said ‘We loved our stay with you but we weren’t very happy that the toiletries are in big shared bottles rather than individual use. This is obviously very unhygienic (we don’t know who has used them!!) so we had to make the trip to buy some for ourselves which was an expense and effort we weren’t expecting’.
To be clear I offer Aesop Shower Gel, Shampoo and Conditioner in the shower and Aesop Hand Wash by the sink in 500ml bottles. They get replaced when empty which is usually about every 10 months
AIBU to think this is not unhygienic?!

OP posts:
gamerchick · 23/07/2026 12:18

ThisOneLife · 23/07/2026 12:10

I’m just back from a stay in a 5* hotel which had refillable dispensers!
A lot of people on MN complain about things being “unhygenic” who clearly have no scientific background or understanding of how infection is spread.

Clue: you can’t get an infection from a soap dispenser or a bar of soap 🤦‍♀️

People on here compete to outming themselves I. How often they shower/ how many people share one bath, washing clothes and towels etc. I'm actually surprised they whinge about dispensers when it's probably they can't take the smelly shit home with them

TossieFleacake · 23/07/2026 12:18

MorningCoffeePlease · 23/07/2026 12:14

but not off the pump - ewww.

But you're washing your hands with the soap that you got from the germy dispenser ... the thing you are told to do regularly to avoid picking up too many germs.
Your hands will be clean at the end of washing them, I genuinely don't get the problem? 🤷‍♀️

BinNightTonight · 23/07/2026 12:18

I dont think its unhygienic at all. How can it be?! You press the top and some comes out, which you use, the rest stays safely (and cleanly) inside and untouched for the next person. I honestly dont get how it could be seen as unhygienic. I'd be upset about the drop in rating too. Your place sounds amazing!

ThisOneLife · 23/07/2026 12:17

ThisISmycircusandtheseAREmymonkeys · 23/07/2026 11:27

Many toilets have automatic dispencers and taps so you don’t have to touch anything.

If you touch something to get soap you do it BEFORE washing your hands and therefore all the Ebola, E. coli and other lethal bugs get washed off!

pimplebum · 23/07/2026 12:17

Can you ask how they think it’s un hygienic ?

MichaelmasDaisiesAndAutumSunset · 23/07/2026 12:17

Yep, not unhygienic. I have recentlyish stayed at The Standard in London, the St Pancras Grand (or whatever it's calling itself these days) and the Ned and they all do these big bottles. I prefer it. My hair can take a lot of conditioner.

I find people strange though. As many have said, they will quite happily use soap in public toilets, communal ketchup and mayo bottles. My in-laws won't eat food that either I or their son makes. They will quite happily order Deliveroo, which has been touched by god alone knows how many people, in service stations and Costas etc. We are not remotely unclean. Everything is wiped down and hands washed before we start cooking. Don't lick spoons or anything like that. It's nuts.

susiedaisy1912 · 23/07/2026 12:16

Ottolini · 23/07/2026 12:14

I wonder if the guest who refused to use your shampoo and soap don’t use the soap from dispensers in public toilets!

Probably don’t worry about it then because it’s free. When people are paying for things they tend to critique it more thoroughly.

thereisnomeaning · 23/07/2026 12:15

FastFood · 23/07/2026 12:05

Germs are everywhere anyway.
You've got staph on your skin having a blast right now. You've got microscopic arachnids thriving on your eyelashes. There's a colony of bacteria in your body. Germs are not the enemy, they're just a fact of life.
If we were to get sick each time we were in contact with a microbe, we wouldn't survive 10 minutes.

But they're MY microbes, not anyone else's :-D

Simonjt · 23/07/2026 12:15

Yogafiend · 23/07/2026 12:00

🙄 I think you are really overthinking this. Do you leave your bag outside the public toilets or do you take it in with you? Bizarre comment

I don’t put my dirty unwashed public toilet hands in my bag. Its also leather, so the exterior gets a regular clean.

ThisOneLife · 23/07/2026 12:15

Blogswife · 23/07/2026 08:27

If you get some opaque bottles with pumps and decant your shampoo etc into it ( topping up for each guest ) it’ll look nicer and no one will be any the wiser . YANBU

Why does the clarity/opacity of the bottle affect the level of lethal contamination?

NB sarcasm alert. Ppl are batshit & clueless here about germs.

Kelvinator1 · 23/07/2026 12:15

I love Aesop, never come across it in an Airbnb before ££££. Sounds like this guest didn't appreciate such lovely products!

MorningCoffeePlease · 23/07/2026 12:14

TossieFleacake · 23/07/2026 12:10

And then washes their hands, therefore washing any transferred germs off their hands.

but not off the pump - ewww.

Ottolini · 23/07/2026 12:14

I wonder if the guest who refused to use your shampoo and soap don’t use the soap from dispensers in public toilets!

BeBluntCoralBird · 23/07/2026 12:14

comofn · 23/07/2026 07:57

It’s lovely that you do all that but I can see her point. I wouldn’t like to use toiletries that past guests have used before

Do you never use soap in public toilets either?

CommentsForFree · 23/07/2026 12:14

??? People don't lather themselves with shampoo and then put it back in the bottle. I can see the argument for a bar of soap, but using a pump bottle of shampoo is no different to using a soap dispenser in a public toilet. You're also not obliged to even provide this to them, they should have packed shampoo with them if they are that concerned.

TwoBagsOfCompost · 23/07/2026 12:13

loislaneloves · 23/07/2026 08:27

This is so right. I feel foolish for trying to make the experience nice! If I’d just thought ‘sod omit’ I would have got 5 stars!
I offer a selection of teas and two types of coffee, plunger and an Espresso machine (with full clear instructions). A couple left us a lovely 5 star review but again in the private message they said that they were disappointed that there was no instant coffee as they didn’t like posh coffee.
I went out and bought some and it sat there unused until it went out of date.

Posh coffee 🤣😂 god some people are weird.

You’re doing nothing wrong OP and your Airbnb sounds lovely ☺️

Portakalkedi · 23/07/2026 12:13

In theory what you're doing is fine OP, but probably wouldn't be keen on using shared stuff, but only because I've read (on MN I believe) that some people, or should I say men, get a kick out of adding certain bodily substances to such containers knowing that others will use them.

UniquePinkSwan · 23/07/2026 12:11

some people are neurotic. I don’t know how they get through life. I never worry about stuff like this including touching the handles on a public toilet and I’m never ill. I haven’t even had a cold in years

ThisOneLife · 23/07/2026 12:10

I’m just back from a stay in a 5* hotel which had refillable dispensers!
A lot of people on MN complain about things being “unhygenic” who clearly have no scientific background or understanding of how infection is spread.

Clue: you can’t get an infection from a soap dispenser or a bar of soap 🤦‍♀️

TossieFleacake · 23/07/2026 12:10

MorningCoffeePlease · 23/07/2026 12:08

Person wipes bottom then presses pump to release the soap.

And then washes their hands, therefore washing any transferred germs off their hands.

susiedaisy1912 · 23/07/2026 12:10

AngelinaFibres · 23/07/2026 10:14

Surely people aren't so bored on their holiday that they take time to wank/ spit/ shit into toiletry bottled the owner has fixed to the wall. That would be an impressive level of commitment.

You’d be amazed at what some people do in a bathroom when they are either bored, drunk or think no one will find out it’s them. I say this as someone who’s worked in a hospital, a pub and been a cleaner in a male dominated office environment.

123dawn · 23/07/2026 12:09

I have a couple of top rated Airbnb's and we have started providing Faith in Nature toiletries in pump bottles. We get lots of lovely comments about them. I would simply respond to say that the toiletries are in refillable bottles due to this being more environmentally friendly, and stress the bottles/dispensers are cleaned between guests. We do the same with hand wash - surely guests wouldn't expect an individual hand wash for each stay? Your Airbnb sounds really lovely.

TossieFleacake · 23/07/2026 12:09

Nothing unhygienic about using a large bottle.
I'd be pissed off that she took a star off your review but messaged you privately to say why. This message would've been better for public view so that other potential customers could see that she'd dropped a star due to a non issue.

MorningCoffeePlease · 23/07/2026 12:08

BMW58 · 23/07/2026 08:06

How is it "unhygienic"???

A bar of soap, sure. But liquids??? You're not using something that has been on another person's body!

Some people are quite bonkers.

Please, someone who thinks this is unhygienic explain exactly WHY

Person wipes bottom then presses pump to release the soap.

PorkPieForStarters · 23/07/2026 12:08

How it unhygienic - it's literally soap??!

I wouldn't expect things like that to be provided (and I'd be v happy if I found Aesop products somewhere I was staying) but I'd be less impressed if I found loads of individually-wrapped things as it's so wasteful.