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Mayor Mamdani’s “Parent’s Night Out Scheme”

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orangejuiceinthekitchen · 22/07/2026 19:28

AIBU to say we need something like this in the UK?

The premise is pretty simple - 500 families get 4 funded hours of evening childcare. Childcare centres will be paid by the city to look after kids aged 6-13 for four hours, the kids will be fed dinner and entertained.

The parents get four hours to do whatever they want - it’s obviously hoped they’ll go out to dinner and spend money in the local community.

If it’s a success, they’ll expand it to other age groups and more children.

AIBU to think this is exactly the type of thing that we need in this country?! It would do so much to stimulate the economy and also just be a boost to people.

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ThreeFeetTall · 22/07/2026 20:34

I’m impressed by lots of what he he’s done so far but this feels a bit of a gimmick.

Skodacool · 22/07/2026 20:30

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Saying that Netanyahu is a war criminal, (which he is), does not make Mamdani a terrorist sympathiser.

BIossomtoes · 22/07/2026 20:25

Keepingthingsinteresting · 22/07/2026 20:07

Oh dear, here come the trumps…

I thought Trump reluctantly quite likes him.

MidnightPatrol · 22/07/2026 20:09

Kingdomofsleep · 22/07/2026 19:53

Yeah i live in London and so so many of my friends either want kids but haven't found a partner in time, or started having kids quite late in life and therefore stopped at one child (but ideally wanted more). I think it's a bit of a tragedy that needs addressing, but stuff like this is more gimmicky than genuinely helpful.

(For a start, evening babysitting ideally needs to include putting the kids to bed at home.)

Much much more helpful, in the uk, would be removing the cliff edge threshold for losing the childcare subsidy. They are actively deterring middle-high earners from having multiple children, in a time when we have a falling birth rate problem.

In London, it is not untypical to have a couple where one earns just over 100k and the other earns maybe 30k, pre tax. Full time nursery fees are almost 20k a year. It's almost unaffordable to have more than two if you're just over the cliff edge. A few evenings of free babysitting isn't going to help

Full time nursery fees almost £20k a year? I wish!

Mine are £28k (one child) and I could easily be spending up to £33k.

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Oh dear, here come the trumps…

JHound · 22/07/2026 20:01

orangejuiceinthekitchen · 22/07/2026 19:35

Really curious as to why a site full of parents thinks this is a bad idea!

Because the state has no money of its own. All of this is from the taxpayer. I don't think it's a bad idea - does not impact me as I don't live in NYC. But stated simply, the more the state does, the more of my own money that I lose.

RandomNameSelection · 22/07/2026 20:01

it would surely only be suitable for a specific age band as young ones would want to be in bed and older ones can stay by themselves for a few hours.

bloooooberry · 22/07/2026 19:59

orangejuiceinthekitchen · 22/07/2026 19:28

AIBU to say we need something like this in the UK?

The premise is pretty simple - 500 families get 4 funded hours of evening childcare. Childcare centres will be paid by the city to look after kids aged 6-13 for four hours, the kids will be fed dinner and entertained.

The parents get four hours to do whatever they want - it’s obviously hoped they’ll go out to dinner and spend money in the local community.

If it’s a success, they’ll expand it to other age groups and more children.

AIBU to think this is exactly the type of thing that we need in this country?! It would do so much to stimulate the economy and also just be a boost to people.

It’s a great idea, I’m not a parent but would be happy for my tax to go to this.

ThisOliveKoala · 22/07/2026 19:57

BIossomtoes · 22/07/2026 19:45

😂 Given the number of New Yorkers who voted for him, they clearly disagree with you.

Couldn’t agree more…

CuteOrangeElephant · 22/07/2026 19:54

I would love this actually, one of my children needs an epipen, I just don't trust teenage babysitters enough to handle that and properly trained babysitters are cost prohibitive.

I think my husband and I would just sleep tbh. Though tomorrow we have a rare child free day so we will go and see the Oddysey.

RuinartRuination · 22/07/2026 19:54

ObelixtheGaul · 22/07/2026 19:48

You'd never get away with only offering it to 500 families, here, even if is just as a trial. I can just imagine it. If the 500 were on UC, it'd be the usual comments we've already seen about cheap days at theme parks. If it's anyone with a well-paid job, it'll be, 'why are we funding people who can afford childcare'. There'll be comments about what people do with the four hours, people will suddenly think they've a right to know that those hours won't be spent getting pissed in the boozer, etc.

Then you'll get all the people without kids moaning that they can't afford to go out even without childcare costs, and will they get money, etc.

We don't do well in this country with the concept of giving things to people out of public money.

You’re not wrong. The taxpayer funds too much already.
I wouldn’t be supportive of this at all.

Kingdomofsleep · 22/07/2026 19:53

panfrydish · 22/07/2026 19:43

I believe this is one of his strategies to make NY more parent friendly.

It’s interesting that London is the only major city in the UK getting older.

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Yeah i live in London and so so many of my friends either want kids but haven't found a partner in time, or started having kids quite late in life and therefore stopped at one child (but ideally wanted more). I think it's a bit of a tragedy that needs addressing, but stuff like this is more gimmicky than genuinely helpful.

(For a start, evening babysitting ideally needs to include putting the kids to bed at home.)

Much much more helpful, in the uk, would be removing the cliff edge threshold for losing the childcare subsidy. They are actively deterring middle-high earners from having multiple children, in a time when we have a falling birth rate problem.

In London, it is not untypical to have a couple where one earns just over 100k and the other earns maybe 30k, pre tax. Full time nursery fees are almost 20k a year. It's almost unaffordable to have more than two if you're just over the cliff edge. A few evenings of free babysitting isn't going to help

JHound · 22/07/2026 19:53

This sounds lovely....but the taxpayer is paying for it and some of us would just prefer lower taxes and to keep our own money.

Honeyhonayboo · 22/07/2026 19:51

panfrydish · 22/07/2026 19:42

Most parents wouldn’t want to use annual leave for this when they have to cover school holidays.

If they don’t want to that’s their choice, there are plenty of holiday clubs children can be signed up to.

The UK has a lot more statutory leave than the US so comparing a scheme like this between the two countries is pointless.

ObelixtheGaul · 22/07/2026 19:48

You'd never get away with only offering it to 500 families, here, even if is just as a trial. I can just imagine it. If the 500 were on UC, it'd be the usual comments we've already seen about cheap days at theme parks. If it's anyone with a well-paid job, it'll be, 'why are we funding people who can afford childcare'. There'll be comments about what people do with the four hours, people will suddenly think they've a right to know that those hours won't be spent getting pissed in the boozer, etc.

Then you'll get all the people without kids moaning that they can't afford to go out even without childcare costs, and will they get money, etc.

We don't do well in this country with the concept of giving things to people out of public money.

Overtheatlantic · 22/07/2026 19:48

I think the government pays for too much already.

BIossomtoes · 22/07/2026 19:45

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😂 Given the number of New Yorkers who voted for him, they clearly disagree with you.

panfrydish · 22/07/2026 19:43

Kingdomofsleep · 22/07/2026 19:39

I mean I do love the idea of anything that helps parents out, because imo the uk is quite parent-unfriendly and our birth rate is consequently dropping rapidly.

But I just wouldn't use this

I believe this is one of his strategies to make NY more parent friendly.

It’s interesting that London is the only major city in the UK getting older.

VodkaAndSoda · 22/07/2026 19:43

I think evening childcare centres sound like a great idea.

I don’t think it’s a good use of taxpayers’ money to subsidise, though. I’m sure there are parents who would pay for this rather than try to find a babysitter.

MidnightPatrol · 22/07/2026 19:43

What’s the objective of it?

I do think it’s difficult for parents to get ‘free time’, although I’d query the states role in funding that…

Mamdani’s statement on this initiative talks about exposing the kids to the programs available in their parks - so perhaps that’s the incentive, get kids who otherwise not get to try those activities into sessions?

I wouldn’t mind some free babysitting though - £15 an hour round here, definitely stops us going out!

panfrydish · 22/07/2026 19:42

Honeyhonayboo · 22/07/2026 19:39

Parents in the UK can easily book an annual leave day and go out for lunch while their children are in school if they have no childcare.

Most parents wouldn’t want to use annual leave for this when they have to cover school holidays.

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 22/07/2026 19:40

Who is paying for it
Who gets the childcare ?

Honeyhonayboo · 22/07/2026 19:39

Parents in the UK can easily book an annual leave day and go out for lunch while their children are in school if they have no childcare.

Kingdomofsleep · 22/07/2026 19:39

I mean I do love the idea of anything that helps parents out, because imo the uk is quite parent-unfriendly and our birth rate is consequently dropping rapidly.

But I just wouldn't use this

panfrydish · 22/07/2026 19:39

orangejuiceinthekitchen · 22/07/2026 19:35

Really curious as to why a site full of parents thinks this is a bad idea!

A vast majority of posters won’t have young dc so not really the target audience