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Is my friend being a CF with her WFH loo visits?

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MintPoets · 22/07/2026 17:37

One of my best friends lives in walking distance from me, and she has been seeing someone for a few months now who she is head over heels for. On the majority of recent Wednesday’s, she works from home as does he (he lives in a nearby town so has been staying at hers on a Tuesday and working there the next day).

My friend always goes out for a walk on her lunch, and times this differently to her partners lunch. Recently she has popped round for a chat with me whilst I’ve also been on lunch and used the loo each time. She told me the third time that this was because she’s avoiding going whilst her partner is staying with her.

I messaged her last night to say I had a long meeting over lunch so wouldn’t be able to see her today. She asked if I could leave the door unlocked and she could come in quickly whilst I was in the call. I politely said I wasn’t comfortable leaving the door unlocked whilst I was upstairs on a call. She sent me a bit of a funny reply suggesting I was being unreasonable.

So my question to you all is - AIBU, or is my friend being a CF?

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JesseDavisGonnaHangOnInThereNSoul · 28/07/2026 17:57

He's happy to fill her fud
He's surely aware what comes out round the corner.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 28/07/2026 17:55

IamnotSethRogan · 28/07/2026 17:43

I duno if she's UR I'd let a close friend do this without hesitation.

Some people worry they'll kill the romance by taking a massive dump newr their partner. Usually people get over it after a while. I don't think it's the end of the world for you

They’ve been together a few months, that’s enough time to do a shit while someone else is in the house.

Banabay · 28/07/2026 17:49

She is extremely entitled, disrespectful and grim....all in one go.

IronEverything · 28/07/2026 17:44

MintPoets · 28/07/2026 16:27

She has already text me to ask if I’m free for her to pop round tomorrow on lunch. I am, but haven’t let her know that yet…

"Do you actually want to see me at this point or are you just coming here to take a dump?"

IamnotSethRogan · 28/07/2026 17:43

I duno if she's UR I'd let a close friend do this without hesitation.

Some people worry they'll kill the romance by taking a massive dump newr their partner. Usually people get over it after a while. I don't think it's the end of the world for you

SpaceRaccoon · 28/07/2026 17:42

Chilihealer · 22/07/2026 18:54

I’m more amazed that she perfectly times her shit every Wednesday for her visit to yours😂

She's probably frantically clenching for hours prior tbf 😂

TheSoapyFrog · 28/07/2026 17:39

Maybe leave a litterbox in your front garden for her.

(YANBU btw)

FinallyDecided · 28/07/2026 17:37

Surely she means poop round

Justonemorething82 · 28/07/2026 17:33

Hide the toilet roll. She won’t do it again.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 28/07/2026 17:28

What would happen if you just say ‘no I’m not free’ every week? Would she come anyway and knock on your door?

What happened last week? Did you leave the door open? If not, what did she do? I’m so curious to see how this pans out!

Millytante · 28/07/2026 17:06

MintPoets · 28/07/2026 16:27

She has already text me to ask if I’m free for her to pop round tomorrow on lunch. I am, but haven’t let her know that yet…

Don’t you dare allow it!

Shinyandnew1 · 28/07/2026 17:05

MintPoets · 28/07/2026 16:27

She has already text me to ask if I’m free for her to pop round tomorrow on lunch. I am, but haven’t let her know that yet…

I don’t want you to come round for lunch, just so you can take a dump in my toilet instead of your own.

MintPoets · 28/07/2026 16:27

She has already text me to ask if I’m free for her to pop round tomorrow on lunch. I am, but haven’t let her know that yet…

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jeaux90 · 23/07/2026 16:18

MintPoets · 22/07/2026 19:10

I did ask her, what would she do if my WFH day changed (which it could) and no longer matched hers. She just said that whilst it’s still early on she wants to leave some things to his imagination - I did point out I doubt he’s imagining that! They’ve had weekends away and she says she has always used the reception facilities or held on until home.

FFS tell her to put the shower on at home, run the basin taps to cover the “noise” and she can say she’s been having a lovely long shower (shit)

Loulou4022 · 23/07/2026 11:43

Your friend is being very strange! If she’s going to have a long term relationship with this man she going to have to use the loo with him in the house!!

ktopfwcv · 23/07/2026 07:34

MintPoets · 22/07/2026 19:10

I did ask her, what would she do if my WFH day changed (which it could) and no longer matched hers. She just said that whilst it’s still early on she wants to leave some things to his imagination - I did point out I doubt he’s imagining that! They’ve had weekends away and she says she has always used the reception facilities or held on until home.

I've done this so many times.
People have different bowel habits that could cause embarrassment and some are more anxious than others.
I don't see this as the issue. The issue is her expectation and response to you.

Wingingit73 · 22/07/2026 20:05

Weird. What kind of relationship us it if your partner doesnt know you use the lol 🫣

Phoenix1Arisen · 22/07/2026 19:56

I've got a plumber coming in next Friday to upgrade my bathroom. The loo will be out of action from 8.30 till 6pm. Won't bother you if I nip round to use yours, will it? If you're going out, just leave the door unlocked. Thanks, petal.

JesseDavisGonnaHangOnInThereNSoul · 22/07/2026 19:47

Jollyhockeystickss · 22/07/2026 19:15

What will she do when she has a baby with him and gives birth and a tiny bit of poo comes out of her anus and rolls onto the bed and he says OMG!!

There's two of them..how do we get the squishy brown one home.

BMW58 · 22/07/2026 19:42

Tell her to stop being such a twerp and stop using you to cover up her weirdness

outerspacepotato · 22/07/2026 19:41

MintPoets · 22/07/2026 17:58

Yes, I agree it’s odd but that’s not my issue - it’s how she reacted to me telling her not to come round today. It felt entitled!

That's how it starts. You let her come over for a couple days and now she expects to have bathroom access to yours every day her bf is there.

She's weird and stop catering to her weirdness.

Justonemorething82 · 22/07/2026 19:36

IronEverything · 22/07/2026 19:20

I'm really interested to hear her message back. How bloody rude of her!!

I know. “Come on now, don’t be getting shitty with me because I’ve got a meeting!”

Boohoo76 · 22/07/2026 19:29

Jollyhockeystickss · 22/07/2026 19:15

What will she do when she has a baby with him and gives birth and a tiny bit of poo comes out of her anus and rolls onto the bed and he says OMG!!

When I give birth to our second baby some poo shot out so quickly during the delivery that it nearly hit DH in the face! Almost 13 years later he still finds it hilarious!

RominaDina · 22/07/2026 19:23

Cailin66 · 22/07/2026 19:14

This gets the award for the most batty thread this week.

Doesn't it just?

ktopfwcv · 22/07/2026 19:20

I get how she feels but can she not just do a poo Tuesday night and go without for 24 hours?
Or use public toilets.
Either way she is BU to request then get shirty when you refuse.