Husband having a go when I touch up make up on holiday

Calling people vain is, in fact, rude no matter what you say afterwards

I wouldnt put up with that OP. Its a holiday. Why cant you do what you want? He can meet up with you wherever when you've finished.
Id be telling gim to bugger off personally.
Why is it all such a rush?

Honestly, this would quietly annoy me. It’s so vain and boring. But I’d never say anything! I’d just meet you down in the bar and get the drinks in.

Sorry, edited as that sounds too rude. You are entitled to do anything you want with your hair/face/body! I’m glad it brings you joy. I bet he appreciates how well presented you are. I just personally would find it dull to constantly hang around for so would swerve that but not be horrid about it.

What? Why?! DH gets up first every morning, he’s an earlier riser than me. If I took longer to get ready than him I’d get up first (and do at home if we’re heading out somewhere I need/want to get ready/put on make up for).

If he insisted I get up earlier half the days just so I was up first (?!) I’d be telling him to jog on. Plus in OP’s case, he’d just be then waiting around longer?!

I dont think my husband has ever even noticed when I’m touching up my makeup. Then again unless we’re going to be late for something he wouldn’t chivvy me along because I’d rip his head off.

Nah, nah, nah …. I would be telling him to “shut the f*ck up” if I was with him! It is your holiday to do what you want to.

And opening the curtains when I needed light or turning the light on.

Who does he think he is!!

Do you get up first every day on holiday? Fuck that! He needs to take turns with you in getting up first.

My DH spends ages having a shit so he can’t complain about how long I take in the bathroom. And my make-up doesn’t make the bathroom stink!

Tell your husband to shut the fuck up and go down by himself or entertain himself for the time it takes you to get ready. Mine wouldn’t dare to rush me. I’d tell him where to go. Why do you let him dictate to you - you’re on holiday as well. What is this need to rush for?

What's all this freshening up business?

I literally don’t care if anyone picks me. I please myself. Much as men do. With no make up.

Genuine question…. Don’t you just sweat it all off and get your hair wet in the pool within 5 mins?! I absolutely cba in the daytime on holiday so zero makeup and a quick mum bun / pony for me!

I can see and agree with both sides. I can imagine it is annoying waiting for someone everyday when you want to get going and make the most of the holiday. There can be pressure to enjoy holidays because that’s a big part of life, working all year and getting your holiday out of it at some point. Waiting around for someone can be tedious. Maybe the vanity side plays a part too, maybe it’s not important to him and seems like a waste of time.

On the other hand, it’s important to you to look good and it’s more than fair to be able to enjoy this time in peace. It’s unfair that he is dictating and making this part of your day unpleasant and feel rushed.

Is he normally this controlling and dominating ?

Has he left himself go so to speak ?

You shouldn’t have to agree that you can have 10 minutes for self care. You shouldn’t need to explain or justify it.

You are not unreasonable for wanting to look your best or even for just wanting 10 minutes to yourself.

My husband gets a feral perimenopausal goblin with her hair in a bun and some chapstick on the good days. If you fancy trying that for a week to see if he will enjoy that I can give you some tips.

I don’t wear makeup or do anything with my hair. So I take no longer than my husband. I think it’s a question of you communicating with him so that he understand the time you require to do your hair and makeup.

Everything about this confuses me. He can’t tell you what to do and you need to stand up for yourself… but if it takes you 10 minutes just to touch up eyeliner and brush your hair, how long does it take you to get fully ready on a morning? And what sort of holiday are you on?

Literally proving the point.

It’s not the make up, is the constant little jabs from posters like you trying to put yourself on a pedestal above women who engage in frivolity like makeup.

Pick me, I’m not like those other girls who slather paint on their faces!

It seems a long time to me too. But he should just put up with it.

My thoughts too. My husband first get to ‘forbid’ anything!

Same, that's taking the piss. The person who needs lots of things to get ready should ensure they're in the bathroom already before everyone goes to sleep.

Not being bothered with make up is the opposite of being ‘pick me’. It’s about being happy in your own skin without extra paint.

Tell him to go fuck himself!

I’m actually team DH on the forbidding. I too would forbid someone turning the lights on when I’m trying to sleep insofar as I’d be pretty angry if they did it, it’s disrespectful.

My DH would get a bit impatient (as would I) if we were leaving for work, or had to meet someone but not otherwise. And on holiday, fixing when to leave and fussing about a time to go out in the evening would be unheard of - you’re there to relax so if one of us wasn’t ready, the other would read for a bit, or have a drink.
That chilling in the hotel time, between day and evening should be lovely, and part of the fun whether it’s a sun holiday or active city break etc

Is he your owner or something? Sounds a right controlling twat. I would not be getting hurried along by this creep, who is he to dictate that you owe him the 10 minutes? It’s your life?

Dh couldn't give a shit.He'll watch tv, doom scroll or read while I get ready