Husband having a go when I touch up make up on holiday

This reminds me of going away with a group of people and one having us waiting repeatedly and making us late several times during the day because she was retouching her make up and hair every time we went back to the room.

it is selfish and disconsiderate to the people who are waiting for you. If you do it once, fine. Several times a day during a holiday… unbearable.

Because we don’t know if the OP is expecting him to wait for her / accompany her back to the room multiple times a day etc

Here here! No man would forbid me either!

Agree with everyone else he sounds like an arse and you need to spend less time together.

The only situation I can think of where you’re in the wrong is if you’re making him wait for you - ie wouldn’t be happy for him to go ahead and have a drink / swim etc. Or to pop back to the room on your own.

And just open the blinds when you need to. That but is ridiculous, anything post 8am is fair game.

You’re a very nasty human.

Ffs I’m so sorry. I hate it when that happens

No im sorry but that is not normal behaviour ...its controlling of him , you should be freee to do your hair , make up as and when you please and not feel like you have to oblige to HIS rules ..also the way you say he forbids you putting the light on is a major ref flag in my opinion , ...he doesn't own you and shouldn't try to tell you what to do and when .... stand up to hi. , explain this behaviour he is portraying towards you is not acceptable and if you want 10 mins or however long to freshen up then your totally entitled to do so ... its your holiday too and he should respect that .

How many times a day?

How many times a day?

How many times a day?

How is this story relevant?

I mean, the dictionary definition of vain is constantly caring what you look like, so it’s only factually accurate.

OP says she enjoys looking her best, so she likely accepts this facet of her personality - like I say, it doesn’t have to be seen as a flaw - I bet he appreciates the results.

To be clear, I voted YANBU! As much as it would quietly irritate me, I wouldn’t give you a hard time over it and would just entertain myself differently while you took your time.

Eh?! Either he is an absolute moron or you are not being entirely honest and it’s a lot more than 10 mins.

i would find that incredibly controlling and I am not a make up person at all.

Reminds me of those bored men who follow their wives around while clothes shopping…

I do remember being a bit hangry on a girls holiday whenever we'd "just pop back to the room on the way to dinner" and spend 45 minutes waiting for friends to redo their whole face. But if he has a problem, he should be speaking to you nicely to find a solution that works for you both, not being a dick about it.

If agreeing a going out time works in the morning, could you do the same in the evening? E.g. agree to meet at the restaurant at 7, you head back to the room at 6.30 while he stays by the pool or wherever.

Literally is not,

maybe if posters like you didn't do the constant jabs trying to put yourself on a pedestal that implies you are better than those who don't use make up (which makes it harder for those who don't btw as men then expect everyone to falsify themselves - which sorry wearing make up is as you aren't showing your true self no matter how much you deny that.

I agree pick me's (like you) are the worst flavour of misogyny and don't help women at all, so thank you so much for your pick me behaviour and reinforcing stereotypes for men.

pick me, I'll falsify myself to pander to you and fit your unrealistic expectations of women. PICK ME!!! PICK!!!

Have you tried telling him to go fuck himself?

If we’re leaving at x time for dinner for example I will take as long as I damn well please to sort myself out / have a bit of peace up to the time we’re leaving. And DH will use that time to do whatever he wants as well.
I would absolutely lose it being pestered like that.

In secondary school I was friends with a girl who insisted I stayed with her in the girls toilets for 10mins every day before school, at lunch and after school whilst she re-did her hair and make up. It was over 20 years ago but I remember how tiresome it was. I stopped being friends with her and did something else with my time instead.

It is vain and if my husband kept in doing things that delayed things deliberately he would told the same

If saying vain is rude then I am rude, so now I am rude what now?

My husband used to do this and was very short with me. Would get angry if I walked slowly etc , we had a massive blow out and he got scared I would leave him, changed his tune pretty much overnight. OP he is using you as an emotional punch bag and I bet he does it in other areas of life too. It has to stop or one day you will wake up and want out.

Yes…this!

Have you asked him who the hell does he think he is?? 😮

That’s dramatic.

Like I say, I would never say so to someone’s face because it is in fact rude, I agree. But she did ask. On an anonymous forum. So it seemed reasonable in context.

He’s controlling and abusive! Jeez why are you putting up with this! Tell him to shut the fuck up and put the light on when you need to!

She says he nags even if they agree she can have 10 minutes