Husband having a go when I touch up make up on holiday

And what sort of holiday are you on?

Yes, what exactly is this “holiday” that involves such regimentation?! Doesn’t sound much like a holiday I’d want to be on… and I’m very active on holiday compared to many!

You’re completely missing the point of the thread. It’s the OPs choice whether she wants to spend 10 minutes preparing herself in the morning. I’m sure we could pick apart whether each 10 minute slot of your holiday was optimally utilised based on our own preferences, but why would we?

The issue is that the OP’s DH is making what should be a relaxing holiday into an ordeal because he can’t let her spend 10 minutes doing something she wants to do at the start of the day… doesn’t really matter what it is.

It’s not even like he’s been up for hours waiting as he’s only been out kf bed for 10 minutes himself! It would be exhausting on a work day, but on holiday… it’s crazy! Don’t some people know how to relax?

@Geoleo just go in the bathroom and tell him you're having your daily 20 minute dump which will give you plenty of time to touch up make up.

I didn't even know touching uo make up was a thing...😳

It’s completely normal to go back to your room between a day out in the sun in hot weather and an evening on holiday. You would be very abnormal to never do this.

Why on earth would anyone lug a hairbrush and deodorant around to do it in a public bathroom rather than going home and actually freshening up after being in the sun/pool/beach?

If you use decent quality deodorant you don't have to keep reapplying it duririg the day. Both can be dealt with in any Ladies, it shouldn't need a full-scale trip back to the hotel bedroom.

@AgnesMcDoo

many of us don’t see looking good, feeling good and smelling good as a faff and waste of time

I know, right! I dread to think how some people must go around on holiday! Really let themselves go. No wonder brits have the reputation we do in Europe lol

I mean literally 2 out of the 4 things the OP mentions is bottom of the barrel basic hygiene, brushing hair and applying deodorant. If that’s too much faff try really need to try harder.

@Geoleo have you ever tried not wearing make-up for a day?
I'm wondering if you're not telling us that there's some sort of compulsive behaviour

You are right. She doesn’t.

I was just curious as to why to bother with the faff. Especially on holiday. Seems like a waste of time to me.

@AgnesMcDoo

she doesn’t need to see if she can relax without it. Why should she?! Her husband can wait or get to fuck. I don’t know why he is hanging around in first place - while she is touching up he too should be freshening up with shower and brush teeth.

He is very controlling OP. I’d be looking to leave him because these types of behaviours only get worse especially when children arrive.

That’s not evidence that I said she should be the same as me.

Is there more context to this? Do you take ages in the morning, ages in the evening and constantly want to ‘touch up’ throughout the day?

Can you not relax without it?

Why should she not do something she likes doing?

Is all this faffing really necessary? If you have good quality deodorant it shouldn't need to be reapplied, ditto make up. If you carry a comb with you you can sort out your hair quickly roughly wherever you are; if you absolutely have to have a mirror, nip into the nearest Ladies rather than traipsing back to your room.

I don't wear makeup so it's never been an issue. How many times are you touching up?

I never said she had to be the same as me.

This! Instead of moaning about waiting for Op he too should be freshening up … shower, teeth clean, etc. filthy article

Just answering the OP’s opening question.

@AnonymityAnonymity

i do only look ‘good’ with makeup on. It’s how I feel my best, I like to look good and feel good on holiday 🤷‍♀️

What does your preferences have to do with anything? OP obviously likes wearing makeup, and she should be allowed to make herself look nice for ten minutes without her husband moaning at her.

i suppose it depends on how many times you go back to your room. Personally on a pool holiday I don’t wear makeup in the day. So I’m literally up and ready in 10 minutes from start to finish. Only on an evening do i put makeup on. If you’re going back to the room several times a day then I think you’re being excessive and maybe this behaviour has grated on him over the years. Especially if the 10 minutes is more closer to 15/20. But it doesn’t take 10 minutes to brush her and touch up makeup. However, he doesn’t need to wait for you. He could go back to the beds or sit at a bar whilst he waits for you. There is no need to badger you and make life more difficult.

Why on earth should she?

Just because you dont like it, why does the OP have to be the same as you?

If your husband told you to stop doing something you enjoyed doing would you just submissively obey him without question?

He's being an arse- on holiday you are meant to be able to relax and have fun, not feel like you're in the bloody army. I'd be telling him where to go. My goodness, I have never heard of such nonsense - a man being furious his wife spends 10 mins in the bathroom. Good grief.

And we cannot have women wanting to perhaps address their inconsequential to others lack of self esteem by wearing make up can we? We must stomp them down further by pointing out their weakness.